I feel like I can't do right at my SCITT school

Scarby9 · 31/03/2021 22:14

She sounds slightly rude and/or thoughtless. In any large workplace / organisation you tend to come across one or two people like this.
Just do your job, focus on your training and your responsibilities, and ignore.

Zig27 · 31/03/2021 23:30

Keep a diary and log all incidents. Some people purposely try and push others out of teaching as they find them a threat. Avoid them as much as possible and walk away. Report if it continues as this could be bullying.

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fluffyslipper1 · 31/03/2021 23:37

@Zig27

Keep a diary and log all incidents. Some people purposely try and push others out of teaching as they find them a threat. Avoid them as much as possible and walk away. Report if it continues as this could be bullying.

Reporting always seems snitchy and a sure fire way to get people thinking I'm horrid. Especially as everyone loves her. I just don't

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MissPrimaryCrafts · 01/04/2021 22:25

It's going to sound mean but my advice is to just kind of get over it. I'm a teaching student too and had a great first placement but similar to you on my second one, I found my class teacher quite passive aggressive and felt undermined by her a lot.

The thing is though it's literally their job to advise and critique us so it can feel bad, even if you're handling a situation fine she can still come over and suggest you do something else. Plus the whole coffee chip thing, it could be that she was busy with a student or just that it's end of term and she's exhausted.

I came home feeling teary the other day but I feel like it was just that I was exhausted and overworked, same reason teaching staff can be blunt or short with you. That's just teaching I think. They sound like minor incidents, I know how minor things can build up to feel horrible and I empathise but i think part of training to teach involved growing a thick skin and not letting this kind of stuff get to you.

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fluffyslipper1 · 01/04/2021 22:43

@MissPrimaryCrafts

It's going to sound mean but my advice is to just kind of get over it. I'm a teaching student too and had a great first placement but similar to you on my second one, I found my class teacher quite passive aggressive and felt undermined by her a lot.

The thing is though it's literally their job to advise and critique us so it can feel bad, even if you're handling a situation fine she can still come over and suggest you do something else. Plus the whole coffee chip thing, it could be that she was busy with a student or just that it's end of term and she's exhausted.

I came home feeling teary the other day but I feel like it was just that I was exhausted and overworked, same reason teaching staff can be blunt or short with you. That's just teaching I think. They sound like minor incidents, I know how minor things can build up to feel horrible and I empathise but i think part of training to teach involved growing a thick skin and not letting this kind of stuff get to you.

Yeah I know. Thanks

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Wellpark · 02/04/2021 13:36

Teaching is full of bitchy women. Having encountered many in my teaching career my advice is to develop a thick skin and dont be a pushover. Once you are qualified you will be able to reply quite 'crisply' to any cheeky cows and put them in their place.

EllieNBeeb · 02/04/2021 14:17

So she made a joke when she met you, offered you, a trainee, advice, and then didn't give you a special coffee token when she was busy?

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fluffyslipper1 · 02/04/2021 14:48

Don’t gaslight. No users will agree with your opinion anyway.

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MissPrimaryCrafts · 02/04/2021 15:04

@fluffyslipper1

Don’t gaslight. No users will agree with your opinion anyway.

Actually I kind of agree. It does sound kind of harsh when put that way but I think part of being a teacher is the ability to take a step back and look at the situation and think, are these really issues or are we both just exhausted and overworked? They are small issues, you need to both chill out over the easter break and recover. It will be fine

dapsnotplimsolls · 02/04/2021 15:18

Is she your mentor? Does she have any influence over whether you pass your placement or not? If she doesn't, then just try to ignore her as best you can.

StationView · 02/04/2021 15:49

@fluffyslipper1 that last post of yours was downright rude. This is the second thread you've started recently where you complain about being treated rudely / brusquely by more experienced teachers in your placement school. Then you come on MN and dish out unpleasant comments yourself.

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fluffyslipper1 · 02/04/2021 15:56

[quote StationView]@fluffyslipper1 that last post of yours was downright rude. This is the second thread you've started recently where you complain about being treated rudely / brusquely by more experienced teachers in your placement school. Then you come on MN and dish out unpleasant comments yourself.[/quote]
Then don't comment. I didn't ask you to.

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Floobydo · 02/04/2021 16:03

You can’t have long left on this placement. It’s abundantly clear from all your posts you aren’t enjoying it, however as has been explained to you before, some of your expectations are just really off-base, especially given the current circumstances.

So unless she’s your mentor, just try to avoid as much as possible and try not to take everything so personally. You seem to be seeing a lot of interactions as a judgement on you whereas I suspect they are about people being busy, stressed and dealing with a completely new and difficult situation re Covid. It’s helpful that you recognise your self-esteem is low as no doubt that is why everything feels so personal - we’ve all been there at different times. See if you can reframe interactions to acknowledge that (to yourself) and take the personal out of it.

Head down, crack on with getting your placement done (if you are sure that is what you want) and move on somewhere else where you can hopefully feel happier.

And no-one here is gaslighting you. Her initial comment wasn’t nice, sure, but her ‘waltzing over’ may well have been her trying to help and I would be seriously irritated with someone interrupting me while I was working with a pupil to ask about coffee tokens. In addition, if I only had one, I’d be saving it for myself. That doesn’t make me a horrible person or mean that I had it in for the other person.

I hope the Easter break gives you a chance to rest and reframe your perspective. Try to have some time properly switched off from thinking about school.

StationView · 02/04/2021 16:08

What @floobydo said

And honestly, OP, you can't simply be gratuitously rude to people. When parents complain about you - and they will - no matter how unfair and hard it is, you have to remain professional. Then you go and swear in private, with a trusted colleague.

longsigh · 02/04/2021 17:09

(guys if you comment please try not to quote the post-thank you!)
BTW why are you allowed to quote and the rest of us aren't?

Floobydo · 02/04/2021 18:51

Then don't comment. I didn't ask you to.

Ummm... you understand what putting a post on a forum means, right???

StationView · 02/04/2021 21:15

Thank you, @floobydo. That's what I thought, too.

HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 02/04/2021 22:28

OP this must be about the 10th post where you have slated your training school. Nothing you have said so far sounds that bad. You sound like you have unrealistic expectations and are taking everything to heart. Detach from the people, head down and get on with it. You sound hard work and your responses on here are showing that.

Zig27 · 02/04/2021 23:19

[quote StationView]@fluffyslipper1 that last post of yours was downright rude. This is the second thread you've started recently where you complain about being treated rudely / brusquely by more experienced teachers in your placement school. Then you come on MN and dish out unpleasant comments yourself.[/quote]
I gave advice and was shot down so won't offer advice again.

Zig27 · 02/04/2021 23:20

@longsigh

(guys if you comment please try not to quote the post-thank you!) BTW why are you allowed to quote and the rest of us aren't?

It's a sign of control. Maybe the OP should stand up to this teacher instead.

BackforGood · 02/04/2021 23:33

MissPrimaryCrafts and EllieNBeeb are both right.

Are you the same poster that has started about 10 threads complaining about your school in the last few weeks ?

Why ? People offer you good advice, and point out that nothing you are starting the threads about is anything to get worked up about, and yet you continue to start more and more threads with no real issues

Beachhuts90 · 03/04/2021 09:22

@HercwasanEnemyofEducation

OP this must be about the 10th post where you have slated your training school. Nothing you have said so far sounds that bad. You sound like you have unrealistic expectations and are taking everything to heart. Detach from the people, head down and get on with it. You sound hard work and your responses on here are showing that.

I agree nothing sounds that bad OP. It sounds more like you don't really like teaching and are looking for things to complain about from where I'm sitting. That's not going to be helpful to you or anyone.

SleepymummyZzz · 03/04/2021 09:50

OP, I haven’t seen your other posts but I know that it can be difficult to brush things off when times are stressful. Teacher training is stressful enough in a usual year, I can’t imagine how hard it must be during COVID
Take some time to relax over Easter, lots of walks/yoga/cake, whatever works for you. You are only there for a short while longer x

LolaSmiles · 03/04/2021 15:45

It sounds like at worst she was a little abrupt, but then interrupting her working with a student because you fancied a coffee isn't really on.

From one of your previous threads, didn't your university suggest counselling about how you're currently feeling? Did you take them up on it?

It is starting to feel like you're posting threads desperately in search of some posters who will validate your view that this school is terrible, the staff are all awful, they're bitchy, bullies, and you're being let down by them. If that's not the case then I apologise but that's the impression you're giving here.

Reporting always seems snitchy and a sure fire way to get people thinking I'm horrid. Especially as everyone loves her. I just don't
Raising a concern through a training provider is always a route available to trainees and one that I've encouraged some posters on here to do, but there's nothing in your posts that leave me thinking you have grounds to complain and your university's responses so far would appear to suggest the same.

InspectorAlleyn · 03/04/2021 19:59

Honestly, OP, you need to think about whether teaching is for you. Training is hard, but you really seem to be obsessing over your relationships with the other teachers, rather than whether you are doing a good job or making an impact on the students.

I knew this post would be from you before I opened it, as you have posted so many times about your current placement and your thoughts on the other staff. You need to let it go.

I’m not surprised she was abrupt if you interrupted her when she was with a pupil. I would not have been impressed either!