I agree so much with this.
I have 4 dc and they were 11,18, 22 and 23 when dh died. Admittedly, we are not a family in the public eye, but Dh had had some success, when younger, as a rugby player. His funeral was big and attended by some of his former team mates who had gone on become household names.
My 3 ds’s carried their dad’s coffin (including the 11yr old), and my dd made a speech. My main memory from that day is of my boys carrying their dad - I actually wish I could wipe it because it still brings me to tears 9 years later.
My 4 haven’t had access to years of expensive therapy, haven’t had the cushion of money to ease their paths since then, haven’t had the luxury of being able to do nothing. And yet, despite there being some very difficult and challenging years, I couldn’t be prouder of all them. I have absolutely no time for Harry, he’s played the sympathy card (amongst many other cards) for far too long, he’s a pathetic, spoilt, dishonest and frankly ridiculous human being.
@Dameputtingonabraveface Im sorry for your loss and for the troubling times you subsequently went through 💕