Meghan's "Holiday" special aired at 8 am British time today ...

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Here's a summary for you - it's full of British traditions like cracker pulling which she explains 🙄 , how to decorate a tree with lights and wearing matching pyjamas with her friends. Harry appears for the last 5 mins.

https://www.express.co.uk/news/royal/2141430/meghan-markle-netflix-holiday-special-latest?int_source=amp_continue_reading&int_medium=amp&int_campaign=continue_reading_button#amp-readmore-target

When my DD1 was small I used to creep in to her room last thing at night and whisper in her ear so that it would enter her subconscious. One night I was short on inspiration and said “You’re a very clever little girl and Mrs White thinks so too” (she worshipped Mrs W who ran the pre-school). She sat bolt upright, eyes wide open but unfocused and said “I know that anyway Siri” before flopping back down in a deep sleep.
I decided there and then she didn’t need her ego bolstering any more and discontinued the practice.

Most people don’t place conditions on their children’s love. A simple “I love you” is enough on its own, it shouldn’t need justification, because a parent’s love is meant to be unconditional.

Compliments can be given separately. When she says she loves them because they’re brave or kind, it raises the question to an impressionable child: if they stop being brave or kind, does her love disappear too?

It’s just clumsy execution yet again. She could make two clear, seperate statements (“I love you” and “You are kind/brave”) to convey both messages. Putting them together makes the affection sound transactional, as though her love depends on their behaviour.

Oh no, poor Thomas. I hope he makes a speedy recovery. She really does have the most terrible luck with timings, doesn’t she?

Let's disagree shall we?

I have told my DCs, at times that I love them when they have been through something very difficult and are coping with it with resilience. There is nothing wrong with that. You are free to disagree.

Yes already her half sister has mentioned the messages of this holiday show and the reality of life with Meghan and her father. I know they don't get on but it's what some people might think and is a bit awkward.

Absolutely agree with you, and you've put this so well. Attaching love to a fixed trait which they may not always be able to live up to - a complete no in my book.

Oh, I don’t think she meant it deliberately or that her love is genuinely conditional. As I said, it’s just clumsy execution. But that doesn’t change the fact that children that age are incredibly impressionable, and wording really does matter. She needs to be more mindful of how she phrases things, because even unintentional wording can leave the wrong impression. I think she’s so focused on appearing perfect that she doesn’t always think beyond the surface level.

In other news, omg Catherine 😍

and she’s wearing a new (for her) tiara 🥰

You do realise there were no “Rules”?

HMQ may have had her preferences about how people who were working in a role representing the monarchy, and her in particular, presented themselves. But there weren’t any rules.

Meghan Markle was free to cake on the bronzer and have lank messy hair and nobody stopped her.

Someone on YT said Meghan wrote advent calendar notes to her children saying things like I love you because you are brave, I love you because you are so kind. Surely a mother knows you don’t use conditional words like because to a child when expressing love for them. Is she really that clueless?

Yes she is @BunnyLake

Yep, discussed above. Poor parenting.

Yes, Catherine looking incredible, as does Camilla.

Shocking. But it highlights how she is not an instinctive or naturally maternal mother. Anyone with sense knows you shouldn’t tell your child you love them because they possess certain traits. Not a good example of her parenting technique.

Oh it’s been brought up on here already? I’ll take a look through.

I should have read through first🤦‍♀️

No problem. Despite all the general amusement about this programme, this is not funny.

The fact it’s not deliberate doesn’t make it any better. We’ve seen many examples of Meghan being incompetent and clueless, it’s a shame it also seeps into her parenting. Didn’t she say her friends come to her for parenting advice? I can’t imagine why. (They probably don’t, it’s just another nugget of fiction).

But it highlights how she is not an instinctive or naturally maternal mother

What a mean post

This is wild

Yes I’m aghast. I can’t imagine saying to my kids I love you because you’re well behaved or clever or funny, the word because simply wouldn’t enter the sentence. You can say , ‘oh Archie you are funny, I do love you’. I think that is acceptable as there’s no expectation in it.

This is just Meghan Markle being performative, she can’t help it. I’m sure she loves her children unconditionally.

It’s not wild. It can be damaging and as nothing seemed to prompt Meghan internally that maybe it was worded wrongly, how likely is it she brings that ignorance into her parenting generally?

I would put money on it being true. Not everyone is.

Not everyone immediately takes to being a mother . I have a friend who struggled terribly and was quite awkward with her baby for a couple of months despite loving him . What she didn’t do was profess to be some sort of parenting guru and claim that people asked her for parenting advice .

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I don't judge other mothers. It's mean