That’s a fair comment for your circumstances, and probably for a lot of people who have complicated relationships with their families.
That being said, I think many of the people saying she “shouldn’t be allowed” are reacting to the way she handled her estrangements. Most people don’t go on Oprah to air out their family drama for all to see and then publish a tell all book dragging everyone involved. That’s where the disconnect is.
People generally view it as poor taste to publicly slate your family, distance yourself from them completely, and then turn around and use those very memories to sell an idyllic, picture perfect Christmas narrative for profit. It’s the execution, not necessarily the feelings, that rubs people the wrong way.