Do you think some of you are addicted to hating Harry and Meghan?

[wowwhataday]

More and more these manic threads are popping up on mumsnet, wild posts and theories and then hundreds of posts brimming with excitement about catching them out or exposing them. It’s like a game or a hunt. Have many of you crossed the line from interested to addicted?

I’m beginning to wonder if this whole thread was one of those set ups that students doing a dissertation sometimes do , because they are too lazy to actually do the research or legwork themselves!

Then if that happened to you I hope you reported them

well it seems to me that one particular person has been targeted over their posting history and a lot of people think that’s okay

Why don't you let that poster fight her own battles? She doesn't seem too perturbed about it and I'm sure she's quite capable.

I totally get that, Profhilofdisaster.

It's the cheapest all all jibes to tell other posters (while posting oneself) that they must have sad, small lives with nothing better to do. To me, it's the mark of desperate people who have lost the argument, or those with no imagination or experience of life.

I post here when I have 5 mins in between work and real life. It's a chance to have an intelligent (usually on this board) discussion with wit and humour thrown in on topics which interest you but perhaps make your family or friends snore. The reason I like the RF board is NOT because I'm a rabid royalist (I'm a mild constitutional monarchist - very different). It's because so many of the discussions here are really interesting and well-informed about history, which I love. Many of the regulars are clever, articulate, incisive and often witty. And I don't just mean royal sympathisers.

I don't watch the soaps on TV, haven't got Netflix etc, so this is one subject that interests me and I like to share with others.

No-one needs to worry about the size of my life - it's great, thanks!

I can comment on exactly what I want to and I shall continue to do this. If you don’t like it tough

I wholeheartedly agree. There’s a fantastic poster who works in PR who gives excellent commentary about the PR side of the Sussex’s.

Of course I did! One poster looked at all my posts over a long time and pieced together everything about my life and posted disparagingly a potted history of me, my family, health, my DH, my work, and more in a vile nasty way. It was terrifying to be honest because I felt that poster had been keeping a file on me. It's not as if I disclose much, I'm careful, it's just over years if you say something to help someone else about ... for instance ivy in your garden, a child upset, a work situation, a health problem you've had too... it's a warning, to be careful.

I hope you can try and understand my point of view, in not being concerned about someone having a quick look at how many posts someone has done on a thread.

Then I can certainly understand your comments as that is beyond awful and a very nutty thing for that person to have done! I hope they got banned!

No. They are still around. But don't appear to post often (I don't go and look!). I nearly feel sick when I see their name and come off a thread straightaway if they post.
Of course, their post was deleted but mnhq said I shouldn't disclose personal details. But I am so so careful, I think it was the research into me over years that got me.
So the moral of the story is.... NC if you feel uncomfortable, don't disclose personal details or slightly change personal details if you want to post to help someone.

Thank you Munny 😊

What do you mean they weren’t banned?????
that’s shocking of mn !
im actually disgusted, a certain poster lifted some personal info from one of my posts a while back , normally I don’t share anything too personal.
they then plopped it randomly in a post !
it wasn’t me who noticed at first but mn didn’t delete it either and said it wasn’t obviously about me!

but what you have just described is straight out stalking, doxing behaviour!
I know you can’t say who it is but I wish you could, I would definitely like to know who behaved in that disgusting manner.

Thank you for sharing your experience it sounds utterly horrific and they should have been banned! I hope this “person” gets a healthy dose of karma. I’m a great believer in what goes around comes around. ❤️

I'm sorry this happened to you @BustingBaoBun it does rattle you, I change details to try and remain a bit more anonymous but then I had someone search me and accuse me of lying because my history 'didn't add up' .

When women of colour don't accept white, liberal thought slavery, and the racism that demands their conformity.

That’s awful! I’m so sorry that happened to you! I know we all get in bun fights now and then but that sort of behaviour is completely unacceptable.

wowwhataday · Yesterday 16:33
I think this thread is coming to a natural end as everyone has had their say (and then some). I do think we all have to be careful to resist hating people for enjoyment or entertainment, whoever they are. I’ll leave you with this. Could you resist posting or reading about them for a week? How does the thought of that make you feel? Is it worth it?

I’m with you CoffeeCantata.

That is certainly the most patronising post that I can remember coming across on the RF board.

I’m sure Wowwhataday will be thrilled with the nomination😂

@jeffgoldblum That is dreadful. To pick up on a post and quote something from an unrelated thread is just not right.
@Profhilodisaster It certainly did rattle me! So when someone says... why are you posting you have 3 children, I looked and you have said before you have 4.... my sympathies are with the poster who has changed a minor detail to try and remain anonymous.
@PrettyFlyforaMaiTai Thank you, I really appreciate that.
And thanks again Munny.

I won't obviously be saying who it was, that serves no purpose and they aren't a frequent poster. However... I have kept the post and the report and MN's reply to remind myself every now and again to be careful.

👍❤️

That is really sinister - the idea of keeping a record of your personal information. Chances are, if they did it about you, Busting, they are likely to have done it with others.

Creepsville, Tennessee.

How bloody scary! Stalkerish behaviour

Sorry that happened to you. It’s a reminder in why name changing can be necessary if you post anything about your personal life. I’ve recognised someone I know here and found out something quite sad about them. Obviously I’ve not mentioned it because they haven’t chosen to tell me, but I do worry that others could recognise them and mention it when the person doesn’t want others in real life to know.

Also, if people name changed regularly, even if they’re only posting about Meghan and Harry, it would mean anyone like OP saying posters are addicted and obsessed wouldn’t be able to shit stir and say that with any real meaning. If posters have hundreds of posts about Meghan and Harry, or any other topic built up over time, it’s easy to call them addicted or obsessed as it can easily look excessive. It’s always best to regularly name change to avoid any issues imo.

To answer the OPs question, some posters probably are addicted. Mumsnet is like any other social media in that it is addictive to some people and obviously if people find others that agree with them, that can make them feel good to post more and more. The Royal board is mostly the Meghan and Harry board and I’d imagine has mainly regular posters posting frequently. How many posts make it an addiction? 🤷‍♀️

I know I should probably name change as often it feels like I have a giant target 🎯 on my head!
but honestly after time you do become extremely attached to your name!
and secondly I’m very lazy and forgetful so I would probably out myself in five seconds anyway! ,
lastly I’m very bloody minded! , why should I have to change my name because posters can’t behave in at least a slightly civil manner!

No different to you looking st all the things H&M do over a long period of time and then posting disparaging re.akrs abiut them, their liveS, their parenting their mental health, their work, and so on...

And with lots of people doing the same imagine how terrifying that is for them.

But no doubt you will come back and say oh no it's not the same at all they put themselves out in the public...well you put your comments out there whixh may include insights into your life in the public too. But hey its okay if you do that to others but if someone gives you a taste of what you dish out its terrifying and awful.

you Really have outdone yourself here!!!
leaving aside your spectacular lack of empathy and spiteful attitude.
you have now attacked a poster who is for want of a better term .. a supporter of h and m !
yes you have attacked someone from your own side of the argument!

Is that the social media equivalent to friendly fire?

Possibly 🤷‍♀️