Do you think some of you are addicted to hating Harry and Meghan?

[wowwhataday]

More and more these manic threads are popping up on mumsnet, wild posts and theories and then hundreds of posts brimming with excitement about catching them out or exposing them. It’s like a game or a hunt. Have many of you crossed the line from interested to addicted?

I have a public-facing job and frequently have to deal with people with chemical addictions while praying for the police to arrive quickly. I also have a long commute so I read and post during my commute in addition to reading a book. As far as I am concerned, an alleged Mumsnet posting addiction is preferable to dealing with someone violent and strung out or passed out on a public toilet.

Sounds like a very hard job @BemusedAmerican! , I admire your drive and resilience.

I post quite a lot on these threads , I find H&M quite fascinating, it distracts me from the very very real worry of a grandchild with serious medical problems (blue lighted to hospital again this week) I also haven't slept much and from caring for an elderly relative, which is emotionally and physically draining.

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Did you read my post?
Obviously not!
I said quite clearly that I cannot be bothered to look at a posters history. So why are you asking me what I hope to gain from it when I said I don't do it? But I said lots do and you are naive if you think otherwise

Honestly please please read posts properly when you want to respond, it drives me bonkers when someone answers me with stuff I haven't even said!

No I don't imagine it's against Mumsnet rules. Surely you have been on a thread in AIBU or Relationships or somewhere when an OP is posting about a situation and people are doubtful about the poster and come back and say.... why are you saying you have 3 DCs when you posted a few weeks ago that you had one child and were pregnant. Some posters do it all the time.

I agree with you. some like you and me keep the same names. so easy to search.
to be fair though, i imagine some posters who have been treated badly on this board(or others) might name change. its just the ones who do it to hide that annoy me.

I had a few different user names for schooling, health and when my dad was ill.

I don’t see an issue with that as firstly it’s allowed and if I hadn’t I’d never have asked for advice as especially with my dad it was too outing.

The school one came about when posting under my usual name, a mum from the school, replied to me on a thread and made it obvious she knew who I was.

following that I’m now a regular name changer (couple of times a year) as I cannot explain how sick that made me feel that I’d been recognised.

But for a poster to CONTINUALLY reference another poster’s history is odd to say the least

Who knows but please don't ask what I hope to gain from it and tell me I'm taking a chance, when I said I don't do it!
However very many do continually

To be fair you were condoning this behaviour

💐 sounds very worrying and draining! , hope the little one is ok @Profhilodisaster❤️

What?!

Here you go again. I have not written 'I condone the behaviour of posters looking up other posters'. I have said more than once that a lot of posters do this and you are naive to think otherwise.
Please stop repeatedly making up what I say!

I get that. I cannot go into details but I have had that but much worse with someone from real life. So I fly beneath the radar.

For those who are interested, I listened to Richard Osman and Marina Hyde’s podcast on the way into work this morning, and they were talking about this very issue. But not about Harry and Meghan - about the Beckhams.

In short their discussion was about how the internet and social media has offered people the chance to commodify their lives and market themselves directly as the person or family that they want to the world to see. But this hasn’t been uncritically consumed by the public. Rather, the public have seized on the opportunity to cast themselves as journalists to investigate a long established media model of tearing people down for being hypocrites, liars, or spinners. And when you have a whole global internet of people doing your investigations for you, the media obviously rely on this rather than doing their own investigations, so this kind of material becomes the predominant form of story.

Interestingly, they referred to a writer who had identified back in 1994 the problem with sharing aspects of her life on the internet, and how that opened her up to other people exploiting that in ways that brought her no value, but they could make money out of it.

It’s well worth a listen. And showed that this is a societal issue, not just a “people hate Meghan and Harry” issue.

It’s not possible to look at a users history unless you are a premium member anyway. I imagine most people aren’t?

@Serenster interesting - I’ll have a listen. It’s true that the internet - and then the ability to join in on social media - makes people feel involved . People finger wagging and telling people not to comment are instructing the human race to change the habit of millennia and not to indulge in gossip .

I know nothing of my neighbours. Nothing. Could be Fred and Rose West on both sides for all I know. The best interaction is sporadically a half-hearted raised hand if we both leave our drives at the same time. Given that it’s no St Mary Mead here (nor most places these days) famous people provide gossip fodder. And, if there is any sleuthing to be done, people go potty (of course sometimes in an unsavoury way eg poor Nicola Bulley).

a lot of people name change for good reason, but also some do it for bad.
i can't be arsed to AS posters. I tend to ignore the one I think is suspect.

Ok to rephrase do you think it’s okay for a poster to continually reference how many times another poster has posted on a particular subject?

@Munnygirl why do you care so much what one poster thinks?
this is what happens all the time in this topic. any one who has a slightly different take on something is targeted.you have been doing it for at least 4 posts.

well it seems to me that one particular person has been targeted over their posting history and a lot of people think that’s okay. I was simply asking another poster if they thought that behaviour was okay? I suggest you look at the poster who has more or less repeated a posters history continuously along with how many times they have posted. To me that’s a strange thing to do.

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If it’s me @Munnygirl, please don’t worry, the person who did search me was vague because, I don’t actually clock up the magical 60 on one thread a day!
and if people are bothered enough to look and actually read my posts they will discover that the majority are either emojis or humorous ( in my opinion) quips!
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wowwhataday · Yesterday 16:33
I think this thread is coming to a natural end as everyone has had their say (and then some). I do think we all have to be careful to resist hating people for enjoyment or entertainment, whoever they are. I’ll leave you with this. Could you resist posting or reading about them for a week? How does the thought of that make you feel? Is it worth it?

(Fanfare of royal trumpets, no less)

May I have the honour of nominating this post as the most patronising yet seen on the RF board?

(Nomination sustained!)

You keep on telling us how we feel - that we hate M & H. Please do not TELL others how they feel - it's not a good look.

I don't think anyone here hates them, and I think you know that. If you want a demo of actual hatred, look on Celebitchy and come back and tell us how that went!

Thank you for rephrasing and stopping your made up nonsense about me. I will be polite here. I do not care. Posters do far far worse than that as far as looking back at history of a poster..