Do you think some of you are addicted to hating Harry and Meghan?

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More and more these manic threads are popping up on mumsnet, wild posts and theories and then hundreds of posts brimming with excitement about catching them out or exposing them. It’s like a game or a hunt. Have many of you crossed the line from interested to addicted?

Something you have said years ago?

The number of posts made by a poster is not necessarily reflective of the subject of those posts though. Just being involved in a thread does not automatically mean that you have spent the entire time talking about the subject of the thread. Conversations happen as asides, people share jokes over several posts, there are disagreements about more general issues and so on. Posting prolifically just means you are posting. It doesn’t tell you what about. As for being “obsessed” or “addicted” I think that is a hyperbolic stick to beat people with. As are accusations of having “small lives” No one has any real idea about who anyone else is or what their circumstances are and being judgy over what people choose to post here is extremely condescending

Yes

Righty Ho 😉

The media has no favorites and will as readily slam W&C as H&M. Drama = clicks and clicks = money...so the media is highly incentivized to seek drama or with less scrupulous media invent drama from thin air. The only way to tame the media is to remove oxygen from the news cycle by not engaging aka the PR approach known as "never complain, never explain."

A middle-aged couple who conduct engagements appropriately and get along with family are perceived as boring. With W&C drama is invented e.g. "OMG navy blue suit at Pope's funeral" (despite Vatican dress code stating dark suit)

H&M, on the other hand, are a gift to the media. H's dramatic tantrum/interview was ratings gold for the BBC which didn't bother with editorial standards. The Sun laughed all the way to the bank with the doorbell debacle. H&M have invited Telegraph reporters like Bryony Gordon into their home. They have taken People magazine reporters on their trips and push their lifestyle brand via social media.

So, it is a bit rich to complain when people comment on the PR activities and tantrum throwing originating from H&M.

If calling someone ‘addicted’ who posts that much, is hyperbolic, then saying someone is stalker like, just because they spend a short time looking at posters history when it’s relevant to the question asked in the Op, is definitely hyperbolic.

I haven’t said people have small lives, that was other people, just to be clear.

If you are looking at a posters history then you are stalking them because why on earth would you do it unless you wanted to find out something about a poster. It’s bizarre behaviour

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It's very easy to contribute a lot on a thread that is active, I don't think it can be translated to being stalkerish, it's just a discussion that is flowing.. Maybe have a look at how many posts you have made on this thread alone,, you might be surprised how often you posted too.

I wasn’t saying it was you personally who said people have small lives, to be clear. And I didn’t say you were a stalker (although I can see why those whose posts you have checked might feel that way, it’s a bit personal imo) I was mainly pointing out that the number of posts by any given poster does not accurately reflect what they were posting about

I’m aware I’ve posted a lot on here today and yesterday and it’s feels like a lot, it was still only 20 posts today and 8 yesterday, so I can’t even imagine posting 60 or more like some posters do. If I persistently posted even 20 posts per day on one topic, I’d happily see myself as addicted. It’s a lot and it’s 3 times less than some posters.

Needed to talk shit today though, nervous for my daughter’s first GCSE so I had made myself free all day. Mumsnet has been good to pass the time.

Yes, I know. I just wanted to be clear that I wouldn’t say that.

I did look at the posts and most of the 60 were fairly negative and mocking in tone.

Anyway, I’m off to sleep. I didn’t sleep well due to nerves last night so hoping for a better night tonight. Good luck to anyone else’s children on here who are sitting exams at the moment. 🤞

Literally as soon as there was something juicy about William and Catherine, the media (both press and social media) pounced. Posters who have posted on this thread had speculated and hoped for the Wales’ separation and added to the conspiracy theories about why Catherine hadn’t been seen in public. I remember posters (not necessarily on this thread) frothing about the rumour that William was having an affair with Rose Cholmondeley, as well as rumour of divorce and domestic abuse. It turned out that a woman who said she was recovering from surgery ended up finding out that she actually had cancer!

You cannot say people are addicted to hating on Meghan & Harry without taking a good look at the treatment of Catherine and William. But no one on this thread is going to talk about that, they're going to get upset about why people criticise Harry and Meghan based on their own words and actions.

And there you have it with your last point.

You have NO idea of other people's lives , what is going on and attitudes. How you feel is personal to you.

Some may look at your post and say " wtf she didn't sleep last night because her child is doing a GCSE! If that were myself I would know there was something wrong with myself and needed help" . It's not nice the other way around is it ? Best not to comment on people's posting record as yes it is a bit weird and intrusive.

I wasn't aware of your name years ago and I have a very good memory. Was it under another name?

I didn't know how many times you posted but your name popped up plenty, anyway that is a lot of posts on one thread just to tell other posters you think they are addicted. Its a bit ironic to say the least.

So you not only advanced searched a poster you then read through 60 of their posts?

Are you okay?

And it’s our behaviour that is being questioned?!?! 😵‍💫

Do they? I don’t do it and I would hazard a guess that many others don’t t do it either. What are you hoping to gain from it? Also I’m pretty sure it’s against mumsnet rules but if you want to take that chance

I wouldn’t mind if people thought that. I worry for my children, especially this one as she’s autistic, but if other people don’t worry about their children in the same way, that’s ok. It’s an opinion, like my opinion of people that post a lot day after day are addicted. I’ve learnt not to care what people I don’t really know think about me and accept they have their opinions. I wouldn’t get all offended by it.

You saved me having to spell out the ways people can legally name change and post on different threads in different names. Tbh I couldn't be arsed to have to go through it all as it is self explanatory! And yes of course people can have various accounts although they are not supposed to. It's all so tedious. I expect people post when they are sober and when drunk, sneakily at work and then on the train , when in a good mood and a bad 🤷‍♀️ whatever ...
At no time did I say you were sock puppeting. I don't need to " check" as I'm not interested and couldn't care less. Please don't accuse me of things I haven't said to try to bring me to the attention of mods.

Of course you can have your opinion but people's opinions are usually about the topics NOT on other people's lives and they don't choose to air them. People aren't offended but they are saying it's not your business and stalking people is against talk guidelines.

No, I skim read a selection of posts that are displayed 25 to a page and could see negative words and mocking tone. I clicked some to read fully, If you try it, which you apparently won’t, you’ll see how quick and easy it is. It takes a matter of minutes.

Yes I’m fine thanks. 😃

One or two days though. Come back to me when it becomes persistent.

i can’t believe you are still going on about the 60 post rubbish. You also might like to look at your own mocking tone?

I’d hazard a guess that you’ve invested considerably more time on your ‘research’ than anyone else on here.

Most of us really couldn’t give two 💩’s🤣

Indeed! I have myself slept badly and was away as I have said before that I am my son’s carer!
but apparently searching my post history is fair game to some!!
and I’m going to say it!!! , I have not ever changed my username!
so everyone can search every post I’ve ever made , but name changing means others posts are hidden!!!
personaly I feel if you are going to judge then let’s have all your names, lay them out , let’s judge all your posts!