Best advice for Harry going forward?

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I have all the same initial reactions as many others on MN regarding Harry i.e. whiner, grifter, stupid, entitled etc and it's easy to dole out the criticism.

However while I wouldn't say I have sympathy for him, as so much of his situation is of his own making, I actually do have some underlying feelings of concern for him and his future (and children).

He reminds me an awful lot of a relative of mine who is neurodiverse with a mild learning disability and a tendency to be self-absorbed with an overdeveloped victim complex - always lashing out, blaming others, seeing conspiracy where there is none etc.

Harry is clearly a damaged man, with childhood trauma and issues which continue to plague his mental health.
As with my relative, he has grown up with a support network which has probably quietly managed and enabled his passage through life, but when big outbursts happen (as have happened in our family too) everyone backs off and 'grey rocks' him until he has calmed down. Some people just give up, too exhausted by the constant drama of it all.

How to moan and get professionally ahead would be his slogan

@MaturingCheeseball Yes, he’d probably be v. good in that role.

It wouldn’t pay any bills though and they need $$$$$$ to maintain their lifestyle. Meghan would need to bring in the cash.

He could start as a volunteer, do the training and become a paid firefighter though.

Someone in The Times comments had a reasonable suggestion: he could be a volunteer firefighter. It suits his skillset and is a worthy job

It's not a bad idea, @MaturingCheeseball, but I do wonder how it would go down at home if it didn't bring in any money

Also he's prone to a "why am I having to do this?" attitude unless something centres him, so it's hard not to wonder how long it would last

The very idea of him being a consultant in anything is ridiculous. He has no intelligence, work ethic or life experience.

Nobody is hurting Harry's family as much as he is hopefully he changes before his children become too self aware of how they are being used as ammunition in a one sided war

Is he still a CHIMPO ?

If you didn't read it you can't really know what was in it can you?

Maybe he did talk about his penis and losing his virginity and insinuate moments with cream that smelled like his mother and again the royal penis

Or maybe not

I bet Harry can’t even bear to look at the celebrations, it will be eating him up alive because deep down he knows he’s fucked up….royally.

I do wonder if he sits in a darkened room watching events like today feeling a terrible sense of loss followed by depression and a black mood that fills the entire mansion like a dark cloud. One almost feels sorry for Meghan having to deal with it.
Or maybe he just shrugs his shoulders and goes to the beach glad to be away from all that and knowing his children are free to flow whatever path they choose in life as they grow up.

He's still there as CHIMPO on BetterUp's site, @Mylovelygreendress:
That said I doubt it's been updated recently because Africa Parks is mentioned

https://www.betterup.com/en-gb/about-us/leadership-team/prince-harry-the-duke-of-sussex

My dh served and he and all his colleagues swore the oath and stood by it!!

I was equally surprised and confused why playing polo was worth a mention!!
I mean the poster is aware that Harry picked it up because Charles and William played polo too ! 🤷‍♀️

This Harry business is like a disputed Octopus energy bill… the longer it goes on the harder it is to solve.

I still think from the outset Harry and Meghan proved too popular and all the guns including the powerful press were brought up to force them into exile.

not usually interested in royals but I thought the bullying was out of hand. Whatever Meghan does is wrong and against what Kate is doing. It is madness and reflects badly on a family unable to reconcile. Of course, when William is King he will be written out of history. This is only the beginning.

This is where I will stop commenting to avoid bringing out the worse out of the haters.

You're entitled to your views @Milaking but using "haters" (twice) really doesn't help you make any points. It's something off the "forelock tugging sycophantic racist serfs (etc)" bingo card that has worn extremely thin on this board.

Criticism is not hate.

I think Harry enjoyed the status and adoration that came from events like today's celebrations but wasn't at all interested in the history and meaning of them. Didn't he blow off a fundraiser for the Royal Marines so he could tout for a job for Meghan at The Lion King premiere?

As for his children, they are being set up for a life of celebrity influencing. I predict their parents will push them as junior celebrity activists, entitled to some kind of political influence as a birthright. So many famous people manage to keep their children completely out of the spotlight - don't put out photographs, don't make videos, don't mention them at all - but Harry and Meghan obviously don't want that.

Of course, when William is King he will be written out of history.

@Milaking That's what PH wanted, isn’t it, to have privacy and make his own way in the world?

A monarch’s siblings and their descendants do gradually fade from the spotlight even when they don’t move abroad. Princess Margaret’s children don’t get much attention, for example. All of the late Queen’s grand children will also fade into the background once William’s children are adults. It’s the way the monarchy works. 🤷

Apologies if this has been covered and I’ve missed it but do people think when Charles dies Harry will come to the funeral? I’m assuming so but maybe a literal fly in and fly out affair without talking to anyone/William.

Calling people who have a different opinion to you are not haters. It’s getting so boring that you can’t think of another word to use but not surprising as all their fans do this.

You're wrong. They were never more popular than William and Catherine—then or now. Every poll from that time, and even today, shows William and Catherine consistently ahead in popularity.

That's just how the royal family works: if you're not the heir or future king or queen, you naturally fade into the background.

Harry understood that. When George was born, he even said he wanted to do as much as he could while he still had the spotlight—because once George got older, no one would care about him anymore.

Yes, of course he will come. Unfortunately, there will be a lot of chat in the media about him, rather than the matter in hand but it is right that he should be there.
Of course, it would be preferable if he could make his peace with his father first - by which I mean apologise (with the right motivation) for his appalling behaviour but I won't hold my breath.
The subsequent coronation? Not so sure...

I am not convinced that Harry will be invited to William’s Coronation. On the off-chance he is , Meghan won’t be there . There is zero chance that she would curtsy to Catherine .

Never complain, never explain.

At least he doesn't appear to have the same proclivities as his uncle and grandfather.

Who, in my opinion, were far worse than being a tattletale.

You should look up the details of the infamous strip pool party in Las Vegas.

I know what Philip did in Malta.