Seriously though, Extianoiapeil, I feel there IS a need to speak up as it is blantantly clear that many people on here appear to have no idea what they are looking at with dynamic between Harry and Meghan and their families, friends and acquaintances....and that is disappointing.
Having said that, this is the very last time I shall be posting....so there is little point in replying as I shall not be opening any further messages and will not see anybody's responses to my final post. I'm sure you'll agree that we have all spent far too much time on this topic to say the least and we all have other things to be getting on with :)
I do not denigrate anyone for the sake of it. It isn’t unfair to point out established facts and patterns of behaviour and fwiw it gives me no pleasure at all to witness toxic and disordered relationships. I wish it was not so and that the ‘lovely’ Meghan we often see portrayed was the real her….not just for Harry’s sake, but for her own sake and especially for their children as well as for her wider family and for Harry’s wider family. Sadly, it isn’t the real her, for reasons explained in earlier posts and also for the reasons outlined below.
It is telling that Harry and Meghan have remained silent and have not sued Britain's leading investigative writer, Tom Bower, for libel over his book, “Revenge” about the pair. Bower has proof that his statements are accurate owing to extensive research therefore Markle would not risk being cross examined by his lawyer in a court of law. To explain why Meghan Markle is seen as having narcissistic traits and why my comments are not misplaced would take an entire book to explain, but I will try to sum up why she is so unpopular amongst millions of people. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but covers many examples of Meghan’s toxic behaviour as outlined (and fact checked) in Bower's book.
- Meghan uses then discards people: Meghan used her first husband, Trevor Engleson, for Hollywood connections then abandoned him when he was no longer useful. She then abandoned her best friend (Ninaky Priddy), of 30 years when Ninaky pointed out Meghan was cruel to her husband. Meghan is hypersensitive to criticism. Nobody likes to be criticized of course, but she is an exaggerated version of what happens when ones egos is fragile….and she will cut someone off without a thought if they dare to criticize her, rather than possibly self reflect on her behaviour. However, narcissists are incapable of self-reflection or feelings of guilt or empathy. But they can mimic it. It's truly sad. She later abandoned her current best friend Jessica (who she used to social climb into Canada’s top social circle when she was let go from her Suits job). She abandoned her entire white family, she abandoned her entire black family minus her mother. She abandoned her L.A friends. She abandoned her dog. She abandoned her family members that were homeless instead of helping them (shocking). She abandoned the friends she made in Britain. She had no old friends or family (bar her mother) at her wedding. Very telling. She abandoned the Royal Family then bullied them in front of the entire world, including the Queen of England herself even though the Royal Family were kind, in fact over kind, and bent over backwards to help and guide her (she refused their help). They made many allowances for her as an American who wasn’t accustomed to British and Royal culture/customs. And I don’t believe for one moment that she had not heard of Prince Harry before she met him....why even point that out in the engagement interview? Methinks the lady doth protest too much. At this point, most everybody with any common sense can see that this pattern of abandonment cannot just be a coincidence. Several of her own family members forewarned others. Not just one. That cannot just be dismissed as coincidence. It wouldn’t be dismissed by a clinician.
- Meghan is unkind: Meghan abandoned her loving husband by sending him the ring in the mail which courts could consider spousal abuse. Meghan reportedly abandoned her dog because he was “too old” for her. Meghan’s former Sorority Sister said she was “a bully in school”. She abandoned her own father when he had 2 heart attacks and nearly died and emotionally abuses him by promising to never let him see his grandchild ever again which is shocking considering all her Dad did was make ONE PR mistake. Meghan left her own family members to homelessness despite being a millionaire. Many of Meghan’s old staff have come forward to accuse her of being abusive to staff. You don’t shout and swear at highly qualified aides or domestic servants and certainly not at little children. You don’t throw scalding tea over a maid. You don’t tell the wife of the Governor General of Australia, where you are an official visitor, to F* off when she says tea throwing is not acceptable. You don’t insist that your husband pulls out of a solemn memorial service for a Corps of which he is Honorary Captain General because you want to go to a film premiere and have him beg for a job for you. You don’t use a royal title to promote a commercial business. You don’t treat a programme about the poorest area in the world as a chance to claim that you, living in the height of luxury with servants, are not thriving and barely surviving. You don’t (after your husband’s country has invested 32 million in your wedding and 3 million renovating your Royal cottage) then run off with your newly acquired titles to make money and fame for yourself abroad by slagging off the very institution that made you rich and famous in the first place! You certainly don’t cling on to a title given to you by an institution that you reportedly hate. It fails to make sense. You don’t arrange with an “interviewer” to deliver a carefully scripted diatribe, full of lies, twisted half truths and nasty innuendoes when your husband’s grandfather lay on his death bed - that is, unless you are a downright malignant narcissist.
- Meghan loves fame/money: Meghan’s own best friend of 30 years said Meghan was “desperate to be famous” and “always dreamed of being a celebrity”. Meghan herself said she wanted to be a “household name”, that she “wanted to break the internet”. I don’t for one moment believe she married Harry for love. I believe it was for fame, power and more money. Her own family (who knew her best) called her a “diva”, a “narcissist” and “shallow”. Before she married Harry, she was already a multi-millionaire, but never donated any of her money to charity. She only ever showed up to charity events to smile for the cameras. And then when she got her title, she continued not to donate anything, yet spent $1 million on clothes in a year, $2–4 million of taxpayers money on her mansion, $500,000 on ONE celebrity filled party, spent 10 times more time hanging out with A list celebs like the Clooneys, the Beckhams, the Clintons and Beyonce than she ever did with the poor, and flew around on private jets while screeching about Climate Change.
People just can’t believe that this woman could be so unkind, so hypocritical, shallow, and vain. But it’s all true.
By the way - I feel sorry for people who have NPD. Bar her mother, her poor children have no family left to enrich their lives...and her friends tend to get dumped when they have served their purpose. It's very sad. However, the disorder is nearly impossible to treat so it’s best to get away unless you know how to manage it. If she has dirt on Harry (we all have secrets) she will try to hurt him if/when it ends. Her only way to control then, will be to control what others think about him (it’s always about control). His family will be there unconditionally I feel though. I hope the public will too.