Catherine and family at church in Balmoral (Sunday 25/08/2024)

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Catherine and family seen at church in Balmoral (Sunday 25/08/2024)

Kate Middleton is seen at Crathie Kirk for the first time since revealing her cancer diagnosis as she joins Prince William and other Royal Family members for Sunday service | Daily Mail Online

WTF is wrong with that? It's practical!

@Runnerinthenight

I'm sorry. I just found the whole idea frustrating, but I meant the royal family and their enforced attendance was the patriarchal part, rather than broader worship,

Apologies again.

Not at all. I am genuinely shocked at the rudeness.
What I do is say to guests I thought we would go to the local pub and then if the weather is fine maybe a short walk across the moor? If a fancier restaurant I would say I thought we could go to the Michelin star place x. My friends are adults, they can choose how to dress themselves.

OK!😊

It’s not rude. It’s their wedding, their choice. I personally wouldn’t set a dress code for a wedding, but if I’m invited and someone does, then I wouldn’t be rude enough to not comply. Or if I felt I couldn’t, I wouldn’t attend. People ask others to wear certain colours at funerals. Would you feel it appropriate to ignore that too? These things are social conventions . Do you perhaps struggle to understand these?

@smilesy incredibly rude at a wedding. I am not keen on it for a funeral either, but people often do this for children's and young adults funerals so I will comply as I know the parents are going through an incredibly tough time.
A wedding - I would just think you are a bridezilla sending out a dress code.

I have a feeling if we said something was white then Nadeed would say it was black and somehow the RFs fault

Weddings don't need a dress code, everyone knows what's broadly expected and what they feel comfortable in. The trend now for asking all guests to wear one colour to weddings is excruciatingly rude and I would refuse to attend a wedding like that. I wouldn't be able to cope with the cringe factor.

@DappledThings Thankfully I have not come across that trend. I agree it is very rude.

Not really. Like I said, I’m not keen on strict dress codes for weddings, but if someone set one, I would be the one being rude not to comply. It is called having empathy and understanding that we might not all have the same ideas and that someone could be offfended if you don’t want to fit in with their aesthetic. They may well want only certain colours for the photos. It’s their day, so you should cut them some slack, whether you agree or not

How odd to think it's rude to have a dress code

Yup

Do people not invite you to weddings or funerals? 😂

I was at a funeral recently for a young person and the family asked us all to wear bright colours, it was a hard day but the colours did lift the mood

I am very popular.

I've been invited to many weddings. Fortunately none that were crass enough to tell me what to wear at it.

"Crass" now that is being rude

Debretts has a section on this

The key point for anyone receiving an invitation (technically a command when it comes from the Sovereign) is that it will include comprehensive guidance as to what form the event will take. The aim of the Royal Household is to make people comfortable and ensure they have a good experience. Guests are told exactly when to arrive and given advice about what to wear. Any special request can be accommodated, such as wheelchair access or food allergies.

Once at the event, members of the Royal Household are on hand to guide guests throughout. The net result is that people are far less likely to encounter any awkward moments at a royal event than at some other formal events where the hosts may be less experienced. The key recommendation is to relax, follow instructions and not to drink too much alcohol because of overexcitement or nervousness.

I would fail at the alcohol bit

Not as rude as either considering your guests are stupid, by assuming they don't know what is standard formalish wedding attire and having to tell them, or considering your guests accessories all in one colour who are there just to enhance your photos rather than be there to enjoy themselves.

Aren't the Royal Family marvellous accommodating special requests such as wheelchair access. FFS!!

You can't dress a particular way and enjoy yourself? How sad

Like I said, it’s not my cup of tea having a particular aesthetic or dress code at a wedding or other event, but I accept that some people might want to do this and as they are kind enough to invite me, it would seem churlish not to comply with their request. It’s one day out of your life and it makes someone else happy. I hate the concept of baby showers but I have rocked up to a few lately because that is what the mother to be wanted. I can’t see the point of offending someone just because you don’t personally like something. I save sticking to
my principles for more important things

What is wrong with that? Honestly, looking for tits on ant

They're not claiming to be marvellous. They're saying that any additional requests will be noted for the purposes of adjustments. I think that's standard everywhere nowadays?
I got asked about food allergies last time I went to Nandos.