I think you’re spot on about Diana.
At a very very bored time during lockdown I watched a lot of Royal documentaries on Netflix. There was one called Diana on Tape. It was basically the interview tapes Andrew Morton filmed.
This was pre-Oprah interview I watched this
It’s FASCINATING to see the parallels of the victim complex between her and her youngest.
everything was awful and she had a terrible time with everything
She hated her wedding day, she hated being pregnant, she hated going on tour, she hated the crowds. She told tales of very alarming behaviour including what amounted to self harm in front of people including her sons and Charles. She admitted hurting herself in front of Charles to see how much he cared.
if this was MN and a woman posting about her husband people would tell her to call the police. Aside from the fact Diana also had affairs - in one case it was so well known and long there’s STILL a question mark from some over the paternity of one of her children - I really do believe Charles was the victim in this marriage. She sounded like an absolute drama llama who created problems…and now look at her son.
I also think regarding the affairs of Charlie and Diana, people apply their own middle and working class standards to their marriage. I’ve known people in the aristocracy - even now, but certainly in the 80’s, affairs were a staple part of an aristocratic marriage providing the wedded couple stuck to an unspoken set of rules - such as have affairs after you’ve popped all the babies out. It was the done thing and the reactions to affairs would have been very different than of a middle class man had an affair (no less damaging to the kids of course)