Do you hug your kids, were you hugged?

[babsanderson]

Just wondering whether you were hugged as a child and whether you hug your own children.
My reason for asking is I keep seeing comments that it is fairly normal not to do so and I am wondering if that is true.

I hug my children a lot. I was hugged less than I hug my own children I think, but always hugged when I was really upset about something.

We were constantly. It’s a standard greeting in our family and both my parents were massive huggers.

My dm is over the top affectionate, to the point where we couldn't refuse hugs and kisses (eg collecting / dropping at school, every time she or anyone left the house / returned to the house).

It was smothering, so has basically made me completely arms length. I do gig and kiss my kids but it is strictly on their terms - never refused when they request, I offer if I think they may want or need, and don't get offended if it's a no.

Don't have DC but no, never hugged my parents

I wasn’t really hugged as a child, never really said I love you with parents/siblings (as children and adults) etc. Never saw it as a coldness or questioned that we do indeed love each other, it’s just not what we do/did.
I do hug my children though and always tell them I love them. Interestingly they do the same with their grandparents on both sides and it’s reciprocated.

I hug my children and can remember being hugged as a child. There’s nothing better than a cosy little hug with your kids. Big fan of hugging when one of them is upset as I think it helps them to regulate their emotions.

I wasn’t hugged/kissed/told I am loved. My dad died when I was 9; a few years later my mother did a runner. I was raised by dad’s side - grandparents and aunts.

It didn’t damage me emotionally as far as I can tell. Maybe luck, maybe I’m more resilient than Harry. 🤷‍♀️

I hug and kiss my children a lot, if they are within reach they get affection.

i don’t remember being hugged much as a child… I think I was as a small child but I don’t remember it. My dad never.. he’s never been affectionate. My mum is a good mum, always was and has been and I’ve always felt loved but she wasn’t and isn’t a hugger. I hug my own kids though, not loads… I often wonder why I’m not very affectionate towards them. As babies I’m very kissy and cuddly with them but as they’ve got older we only hug if they’re upset really…

Yes to both questions.... can't imagine not giving my kids a hug...so sad. Ds 14 is a typical moody teenager but still comes and gives me a hug.

I was never hugged but I hug mine.
Why is this in the Royal Family topic?
If you report your post you can get it moved.

@crimsonpeak I agree. I still get a hug from my husband when upset. It seems a natural response to me.

@ofwarren This is about the Royal Family and Harry saying his father did not hug him, not even when he told him his mother had died. Lots of people saying that was normal for many families.

I hug mine all the time, we love it, and I'm desperately hoping it'll continue as they get older. As a child myself, no not really, with Nan and Grandad sometimes yes, but not my parents.

Ohh, right sorry
I've not really been following what's happening.

Makes me feel so sad that some were never hugged, can't imagine it.

My kids are big huggers, as are my whole family, with the kids anyway! Although would never force a hug or kiss on anyone. I don't like hugging or touching people who aren't my kids or immediate family.

No I was not hugged as a child. Neither was DH.
Our DC are hugged constantly.

Nope, hugging rarely happened when I grew up. I was patted on the head once or twice.

I hug DD all the time but if I'm initiating it, I ask. She always says yes as she loves a cuddle, but I think it's important that she knows that she is allowed to say no, and also that she should ask other people. (Except me. I've given her lifelong permission to hug me whenever she wants. 😁)

Oh, and I was hugged as a child although not loads, I don't think?

My parents weren't huggers. Too busy I think & they weren't hugged much by their parents? They started hugging when I moved to another country & it was a little weird at first!

My dc get hugged when they say goodnight & then ad hoc, I like a good squeezy hug & they know this.

OP, there are pictures on the “Strangest bits” thread of Charles hugging Harry. So although he didn’t hug him non stop, it did happen. Remember this is just Harry’s account that you are taking as gospel.

We are a family of awkward lamppost huggers, my father only after alcohol but I still felt love from him. I hugged my DCs until they were teens, they are not keen huggers either.

The royals behaved very weirdly to the boys when Diana died - those of us old enough to remember will recall the public backlash they received. I think the cruelest thing was that they had their usual church service on the Sunday morning and she wasn’t even mentioned. This was the 1980s not the 1880s - that’s truly fucked up.

And don’t get me started on the walking behind the coffin 🤬

No, we weren’t hugged as kids or told we were loved, but we still knew we were. I hug my kids a lot and tell them I love them every time we speak. Dd15 even still holds my hand or links her arm through mine if we’re walking, although it does sometimes now look like she’s my carer making sure I don’t have a fall!

@smilesy Harry does not claim Charles never once hugged him. He says he did not hug him after his mother died.

No, and no.