The Royal Family is incredibly dysfunctional

[babsanderson]

They are an incredibly dysfunctional family with lots of internal rivalries, poor parenting and a strange culture of stay silent and we will protect you from actual crimes, but speak out and we will destroy you.
They really are a mess and I suspect they are so dysfunctional, they do not realise just how messed up the family dynamics are.
But maybe such a dysfunctional family is inevitable within a hereditary monarchy where your accident of birth means you have access to more money and power than your siblings and other close relatives?

@Blinky21

more Americans treat the Kardasians with a similar reverence watch their programs and buy their merchandise.

mama Kardasians sells sex tapes and decides relationship storylines for her children

They make the RF look like angels

There are far too many parents who have not only known their child was being sexually abused but chose to side with their husband. I’m glad this is not your family but it’s naive to think that all people turn a blind eye or do the right thing

@Boulshired I am well aware some parents turn a blind eye or even offer their children up to paedophiles.

But what people don’t know for certain is that is not happened or happening in your extended family.

Our family is massively boring…according to our children! No divorces,step family,big rows etc Boring but steady.

I've been thinking alot about this. It must be exacerbated by a number of factors. The ones I can think of:

• loads of money and influence, often means that people's negative/dysfunctional traits are tolerated/entertained far more than they would be in real life
• the need for privacy/security and therefore presumably a very tight circle of friends/confidantes. It often takes forming close relationships outside your own family to help shed light on how you function/how you parent/ how you were parented, which is turn leads to growth and the understanding that you can live differently. If you have to be very careful about security and privacy, these relationships are going to be very difficult to form, which I think probably means that certain dysfunctional family dynamics become more pronounced rather than challenged

Your sister having an affair with a man married to the woman who will become your stepmother

I know it’s late but I think you’ve got a bit muddled here.

@Boulshired I know they have not publicly defended a convicted paedophile, no one has ever been charged with a crime, we have even had very few divorces. At family events even those who dislike each other have been polite.
The Royal Family do not appear to be at the level of dysfunction where they would have their children taken into care if they were ordinary. But they do appear to be above a normal level of dysfunction and could happily slip into Eastenders.

@Blossomtoes Can you read the fairly short thread? I have corrected this.

They are totally dysfunctional. At least they have that in common with many of their subjects.😄

Indeed. My family’s incredibly disfunctional by these standards. Numerous divorces, a prison sentence, mental illness, alcoholism, substance abuse. You’d never be able to tell from looking at us!

But they do appear to be above a normal level of dysfunction

I dunno about this. Most “normal” families only appear normal from the outside. I don’t think we really know what level of functionality is normal.

Gosh me too. Got a full house. So many family skeletons that would make ears burn.

They are far more normal than my family.

Wow! Maybe people who hang out on MN late at night are more likely to have very dysfunctional families?

The Royal Family also have heavy alcohol and drug use. And they would have a long prison sentence if they were an ordinary family.

If my family were the royal family it would make the Windsors look like the Waltons. It’s so boring this royal family are dysfunctional/toxic crap, they are just a large family who when they have a misdemeanour it is published and discussed at length worldwide, in fact I think they are incredibly functional, managing to stay sane amongst the huge amount of crap that is thrown at them.

If they were a normal family social services would have a birthday with them. Parents who left their children for up to 6 months with a nanny. A father who didn't allow 2 young boys who had just lost their mother to grieve properly. An uncle who regularly associated with a known paedophile & people trafficker The whole family who are emotionally cold. A father who bullied his son & sent him away to a school where he was very unhappy. That's all without all the affairs, Diana's eating disorders etc.

Oh and my grandad had endless affairs. They had to move house three times because the other woman got a bit clingy and demanding. We’re talking the 1920s/30s here.

They do seem quite normal to me apart from Harry and Meghan who appear mentally unstable to say the least. Andrew is vile of course

Misdemeanour? Is that what you call raping a sex trafficked teenager? The ordinary equivalent is being a member of the Rotherham grooming gang. None of my family have ever done anything like that.
None of my family have publicly defended a convicted paedophile.
These are not misdemeanours.

If rumour is to be believed I have a secret brother!

Is this you Meg? 😂😂

I do not think Social Services would have been involved. A child left with a nanny for six months is still being taken care of for example. But what you talk about are all examples of very poor parenting.

Don’t home in on one word and twist it to suit your ridiculous narrative, you know full well that word covers a raft of things.

No sh*t, that's hardly a revelation. Aren't most families? I remember crying at 13 after finding out my uncle was having an affair, up until then I thought my family was perfect. That was just the beginning, it is anything but!