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Harry just protecting the other "spares"

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Magnoliasunrise · 14/01/2023 06:52

Shocked to see in this mornings Telegraph that Harry is concerned for the other "spares" He just wants to break the bad parenting pattern and stop it happening to Charlotte or George. If I was W&K I would be absolutely LIVID by now. What does anyone else think?

www.telegraph.co.uk/royal-family/prince-harry-interview-bryony-gordon-spare-book/

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StatisticallyChallenged · 15/01/2023 18:55

BellePeppa · 15/01/2023 18:46

There really is no defending this being in the book or defending Harry’s mental state as being stable when he comes out with stuff like that. How can he even say those words out loud in his audio book and not think uh oh that doesn’t sound good. No one would ever put that down, how can his wife possibly want to have s*x with him not knowing if his mummy obsession is still filling his head. (Even if she was the one who encouraged it, that’s got to be a big backfire). Women who defend him, would you really want to be sharing your life with someone who is obsessed with their mother - you can imagine MN if someone posted that about their husband!

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Along with having to give birth with her picture looking at you...

Most peope don't have their MIL in the delivery suite when they're alive!

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 15/01/2023 18:58

@StatisticallyChallenged

Apologies - I didn’t mean to criticise!
And of course, you are correct. If the Queen had just had the 2 offspring, then Anne would be the spare.

Ritascornershop · 15/01/2023 19:10

I’m wondering about Harry saying that on a number of occasions Meghan was “in floods of tears”. Is this just posh talk for a bit upset? Is it a man unused to seeing someone a bit overwhelmed? Does he literally mean she was crying a great deal? Because if so, she does come across as very emotional for a grown woman. But then again, we’re all different and I’m very buttoned up (& not from SoCal).

MarshaMelrose · 15/01/2023 19:10

Did Harry really say he was born in order to provide spare body parts for William?

Ohgodthepain · 15/01/2023 19:20

MarshaMelrose · 15/01/2023 19:10

Did Harry really say he was born in order to provide spare body parts for William?

I think he did . But doesn't he realise that lots of people have more than one child, not to provide body parts should the first born need them , but because they want them to have a sibling . Just like he's had 2 children.

Lovely13 · 15/01/2023 19:27

Trying to imagine my siblings going on to the world about how I am raising my children. Let’s see how Harry’s children turn out…

BabyStopCryin · 15/01/2023 19:33

It’s bad enough when a sibling shows an embarrassing photo of you in your goth phase to a new boyfriend. Imagine them writing a book for the whole world to see with all your gossip. Silly boy.

MarshaMelrose · 15/01/2023 19:35

Ohgodthepain · 15/01/2023 19:20

I think he did . But doesn't he realise that lots of people have more than one child, not to provide body parts should the first born need them , but because they want them to have a sibling . Just like he's had 2 children.

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If he's saying that, and he's saying it with a straight face, then how on earth can anyone take anything he says seriously again. Even if he believes it - well, actually, especially if he believes it - his relationship with reality is non-existant.

Ohgodthepain · 15/01/2023 19:40

I was the shadow, the support, the plan B. I was brought into the world in case something happened to Willy," he writes.
“Kidney, perhaps. Blood transfusion. Speck of bone marrow

smilesy · 15/01/2023 19:42

Ohgodthepain · 15/01/2023 19:40

I was the shadow, the support, the plan B. I was brought into the world in case something happened to Willy," he writes.
“Kidney, perhaps. Blood transfusion. Speck of bone marrow

So is he saying he was genetically engineered before birth to be an exact tissue match to his brother🤔🤪😆

StatisticallyChallenged · 15/01/2023 19:46

Ohgodthepain · 15/01/2023 19:40

I was the shadow, the support, the plan B. I was brought into the world in case something happened to Willy," he writes.
“Kidney, perhaps. Blood transfusion. Speck of bone marrow

That's the quote I was thinking of. Tad dramatic

StatisticallyChallenged · 15/01/2023 19:49

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 15/01/2023 18:58

@StatisticallyChallenged

Apologies - I didn’t mean to criticise!
And of course, you are correct. If the Queen had just had the 2 offspring, then Anne would be the spare.

No worries. I think that probably made for quite a different dynamic, plus the age gap. I don't think Andrew would ever have had the sense he was born because of a sense of duty - whereas that seems to be exactly what Harry thinks.

namechange4774 · 15/01/2023 20:07

LonginesPrime · 15/01/2023 18:37

While it seems quite common for uncles and aunts to overstep boundaries with how nieces and nephews are being raised when they don't have their own children (my DB is always trying to 'educate' me on how he would raise children, for example), I'm surprised that Harry would say this when he already has his own children.

I wonder how he would feel if William or anyone else publicly criticised his parenting or suggested he and Meghan needed outside help so as not to mess things up. If nothing else, it's just plain rude.

Agree with this.

People with kids know how insulting it is. So he knows he is being a first class D*head

namechange4774 · 15/01/2023 20:10

Also going to say I believe this is particularly nasty as he is trying to put the thought/idea in the media/childrens heads. Everyone will be looking for who is the 'spare' or so he hopes.

Blossomtoes · 15/01/2023 20:11

namechange4774 · 15/01/2023 20:10

Also going to say I believe this is particularly nasty as he is trying to put the thought/idea in the media/childrens heads. Everyone will be looking for who is the 'spare' or so he hopes.

Oh do give over.

Ridemeginger · 15/01/2023 20:15

I wonder who was filling his head with this body parts stuff - or whether he just filled his own head with it. It feels like he watched that film (can't remember what it was called, starred Cameron Diaz and it was about a very sick young woman and her younger sister, who was effectively brought into the world to help cure her sister's ailments), whilst high on the wacky baccy, and applied the story to himself. Or it sounds like the sort of thing nasty schoolboys would say to each other.

Ohgodthepain · 15/01/2023 20:19

@namechange4774 what do you mean ?

Ridemeginger · 15/01/2023 20:25

I made a similar post to @namechange4774 (can't remember which thread). Nobody has ever thought of Charlotte as the "spare" or thought Harry had issues with being second born. Now he has put it out there that the RF (and William in particular) treats "the spare" badly, and has expressed particular concern for Charlotte's and Louis's welfare. So now, the media will be watching Charlotte and Louis like hawks for signs they have Harry the Spare Syndrome. Every little sign of sibling disharmony with George will be analysed. Harry's an absolute shit for projecting his issues onto these children.

LJR1000 · 15/01/2023 20:27

Should I feel guilty because I had a second child? Not that I wanted 'a spare" but because I wanted my first child to grow up with a sibling and also to have close 'family' when I, and their father, were no longer here.

JADS · 15/01/2023 20:44

Ridemeginger · 15/01/2023 20:15

I wonder who was filling his head with this body parts stuff - or whether he just filled his own head with it. It feels like he watched that film (can't remember what it was called, starred Cameron Diaz and it was about a very sick young woman and her younger sister, who was effectively brought into the world to help cure her sister's ailments), whilst high on the wacky baccy, and applied the story to himself. Or it sounds like the sort of thing nasty schoolboys would say to each other.

My Sister's Keeper. Originally a book but Jodi Picolt. She wrote quite a lot of 'medical ethics dilemma' books in the 2000s. That passage made me wonder the same. It does seem rather dramatic.

Shelefttheweb · 15/01/2023 20:49

LJR1000 · 15/01/2023 20:27

Should I feel guilty because I had a second child? Not that I wanted 'a spare" but because I wanted my first child to grow up with a sibling and also to have close 'family' when I, and their father, were no longer here.

But why is your second child the ‘spare’? Surely if you want to ensure you still have a child if one kicks the bucket then your first is also a ‘spare’?

Ridemeginger · 15/01/2023 20:58

@JADS That's the one! I'll bet money Harry didn't read the book, so movie it is!

StClare101 · 15/01/2023 21:10

Ridemeginger · 15/01/2023 20:25

I made a similar post to @namechange4774 (can't remember which thread). Nobody has ever thought of Charlotte as the "spare" or thought Harry had issues with being second born. Now he has put it out there that the RF (and William in particular) treats "the spare" badly, and has expressed particular concern for Charlotte's and Louis's welfare. So now, the media will be watching Charlotte and Louis like hawks for signs they have Harry the Spare Syndrome. Every little sign of sibling disharmony with George will be analysed. Harry's an absolute shit for projecting his issues onto these children.

Yes, this is exactly my take on it as well. He’s just made Charlotte and Louis’ adolescence and young adulthood more challenging. And deliberately so. What an absolute dick.

LJR1000 · 15/01/2023 21:39

To Shelefttheweb: My second child, clearly, is not 'the spare'. The was my very first post on this website and your post just shows me how happy people are to misjudge what was a perfectly innocent shared thought. Think that was my first and last comment. How miserable is that!

JKRisGalileo · 15/01/2023 21:45

Anne, the Princess Royal, has never whinged about being a 'spare'. And she even lost that status as soon as her brothers were born. She is the example he could look to for someone who genuinely works every day to try to make a difference in people's lives. Her work for Save the Children has been quiet and effective. It's time for him to grow up and sort himself out without constantly blaming everyone else for his sad lot in life.