They have programmes such as Downton Abbey in the US. I expect everyone watched Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice, done over by Andrew Davies in 1995, and saw Mrs Bennett calling her husband Mr Bennett, to his face, at the breakfast table. You can get a feel of formality and what was trying to behave properly and responsibly, back then. Most Americans feel that Brits are more formal than they are used to, in a whole range of situations and contexts.
You don't have to 'know' about monarchy to know the gist of it. I know nothing about Arab sheikhs, but I can imagine the gist of a European marrying one and the conventions they would need to follow. Crikey, even GCSE students have got to be able to imagine life 100, or 200 years ago, to get the gist of it and social class conventions, back then, and they are 16 and know naff all about it. People can assimilate a general idea.
She got. 30 point check list didn't she, of important points to learn about her new role. Well. Let's imagine, she realises it's new territory, and she is asked - along with Harry - if they want to be working royals. Most people would say, 'Not right away, if that's ok. Give us a year settling in, first.'
Nobody is critisizing how she curtsied, anyway. That isn't an issue. Why would it be? Why mention it, other than to flag up the sense of unequal relationships with the Royal Family. I'm sure Mike Tindall got things wrong initially and Sophie Wessex made a major gaff with the News of the World sting. I don't think the Hierarchy make your life miserable for making a mistake.
I'd like to counter back, is there any suggestion or record of Meghan being corrected for curtseying badly or doing a walkabout the wrong way? Was it ever a big deal when it happened?
If we heard from other commoners marrying in, what it is really like, we'd have some reference stick to measure H and M's comments against. But that is unlikely to happen as they don't speak out for fear of starting a slanging match.
But it looks like the aides might try to have their say and defend themselves, since they are the personnel being accused of lack of sympathy and excessive demands.
It's correcting Her Majesty about what 'service' means which is disrespectful. That was in their statements on leaving the monarchy. Or not telling the Queen and her staff that they were going to put out a statement saying they would be carving out a progressive new role within the Monarchy ( in the States). That's a kind of lack of professional respect too, doing that kind of thing without a private heads up, and would be considered as such, if you did it to any workplace boss.