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Royals don't marry for love

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ImJustMadAboutSaffron · 09/12/2022 15:40

Headline on front page of the Metro seen on the train. Didn't read the article. Said by Harry.

Who's he referring to? His brother?

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Rauha · 09/12/2022 15:42

His parents, I guess, since they definitely didn't marry for love.

bakalava · 09/12/2022 15:45

It is a bit premature coming from him. The rockiest relationships are when you are up against the peri-m and you have a short courtship and a family with no time to stop and think. Until it slows right down. He has been with her for no time at all and I am sure they think they are relationship experts just like they believe they are experts in many things. Time will tell but I don't know why he would go there.

barneshome · 09/12/2022 15:46

who cares
and how does anyone think they know how any other person feels inside

healthadvice123 · 09/12/2022 15:54

Well his nan and grandad seemed to manage a long marriage and many royals have been divorced.
Well know charles and Diana wasn't a young love story etc , but only William and Kate know about their relationship
He is also still a royal so he is kind of painting himself in the same picture.
Hes barely been married 5 mins as well , come back in 10 years and tell us how easy it all is

healthadvice123 · 09/12/2022 15:56

The thing is he never names anyone does he just a general comment so it can be aimed at whoever people see fit too.
If your gonna say it own it at least

SiobhanSharpe · 09/12/2022 16:00

I think his grandparents pretty much went their own way (especially PP)
And he probably knows that.
it seems likely that Kate was seen as ‘suitable’ though. But is she happy? No one seems to mention her fairly obvious weight loss.

Rushingfool · 09/12/2022 16:02

I'd say Charles has definitely married for love second time around. I think the late Queen did too. Unfortunately I think Harry is having a public dig at his brother's marriage which is unkind.

lightand · 09/12/2022 16:04

Well they do have to consider their "job".
Which he would have done well to consider as well, wuite frankly.

But it isnt just Royals who have to be careful who they marry.
People work abroad, shift work, in various occupations such as farming, where people have to consider what they are marrying into.

diddl · 09/12/2022 16:25

Didn't he also say (some time ago) that he thought that he wanted to/would have to marrya celebrity/someone who could handle the media scrutiny?

So in that way he was also looking for someone he thought was "suitable"-for him & "the role".

ncforrashpice · 09/12/2022 16:29

Peri menopause? She was 35/6 when they got together. Christ.

Peasepuddingbloodycold · 09/12/2022 16:44

He doesn't stipulate, but it's aimed at his male relatives in general. He said something like they choose with their head, not with their heart. It's a subject and completely unnecessary dig in my opinion. And it seems unkind because he and Catherine always seemed to get on so well.

BessieSurtees · 09/12/2022 16:47

It's a headline to sell the paper. He said family members especially the men were likely to marry someone who fit the requirements or were suitable. I definitely think he was having a dig at William.

Though historically Royals usually married strategically to do with land etc, more recent history has thrown Margaret and Peter Townsend, Andrew and Koo Stark, Edward VIII and Wallis Simpson, I'm sure years ago I read that Charles would have married Camilla if he had been allowed to.

RatherBeRiding · 09/12/2022 16:52

Indeed the Prince and Princess of Wales always look deeply miserable in each other's company don't they! It's the miserable spare having a dig at his brother, of whom he appears to be deeply jealous. And I think the Queen and PP definitely were a love match, as were the Queen Mum and George VI. Not to mention other royals who seem to be very happy together. Harry talks a lot of crap a lot of the time. Maybe he should just shut up and leave the RF behind as he claimed he wanted to. Funny how he can't stop whingeing about them though. Freedom maybe not working out quite as he thought it would.

WakingUpDistress · 09/12/2022 16:56

I love how you can someone making a comment about their own family (they dint marry for love), a family they clearly know well.
And people on MN who have never ever met any of them come on here to say he is wrong that actually blablabla.

This is his experience. At the very least, respect it. He has more experience and inside know.edge of the RF than any of you.

mumda · 09/12/2022 16:59

"Whatever 'in love' means."

WakingUpDistress · 09/12/2022 17:01

Fwiw, the Queen and PP were spending a lot of time living separate life in separate houses. I doubt they were ‘in love’ but the late Queeen had a sense of duty that means she would never 1- nit have children, 2- shown any issues in her marriage and 3- got divorced (esp from her generation)
Our current king has had an affair for most of his marriage. And was known to chase women before that. He was told by the Queen to get married fgs.
William is down a similar route. Many women before he ‘settled down’ and now at least one affair. Lost of talk around him about the fact KM was the most suitable etc….

smilesy · 09/12/2022 17:01

This is his experience. At the very least, respect it. He has more experience and inside know.edge of the RF than any of you.

Maybe it is. As you say he has inside knowledge. However I don’t think it is in any way appropriate for him to declare thisin public on behalf of other people, and to therefore imply that his marriage is superior because it is based solely on love.

Rinoachicken · 09/12/2022 17:05

I don’t get why people always say W&K always look miserable together. I’ve seen more clips of them looking genuinely comfortable and happy in others company than not. Not everyone ‘shows love’ the same way, not everyone is into PDA - doesn’t make their live for each other any less or their marriage less genuine. They were in a long term relationship before they finally tied the knot - their lovey dovey honeymoon phase was well over by then and they were settled into a being together and how that looks for them.

For every clip of them seeming stiff and overly formal, there’s others showing them much more relaxed and laughing - to me they seem like a couple who have been together a long time, who are comfortable and secure with each other and don’t (now or ever) feel the need to ‘preform’ their love for other people - people see what they want to see.

Seems pretty normal to me!

IShaggedSomeMingers · 09/12/2022 17:05

I think that some think they are marrying for love. I think that some might have married in because they were attracted by the idea of being royalty.

Marrying someone who fits the mould is probably something a lot of people do.

Coxspurplepippin · 09/12/2022 17:08

Kate and William's older kids will have gone to school today and likely had to hear their schoolmates commenting about how their parents don't love each other. Good to see Harry thinking of the mental health impacts of his utterings on others, including children. Good job!

Rinoachicken · 09/12/2022 17:12

And yes to the ‘superiority’ thing Harry seems to have going on.

  • Superior marriage, (he married for live - but he can’t speak to what other people feel!)
  • Superior insight into ‘normal life’ that ‘no one else in his family has’ because of his time in the army (other members of the family have seen active service, or have worked, he is not special for this)
  • Superior self-growth (he is the ONLY one in the family to be able to reflect on past mistakes
PeaceJoySleep · 09/12/2022 17:15

I really hope he was referring to his father's first marriage. If not, it was such a dis.

Agree, he's like some thick guy who did an online enlightenment course and now he feels superiorly enlightened. It's cringe. He is really giving himself a pat on the back for his unconscious biases. It's a bit smug.

jaqual · 09/12/2022 17:16

He is right. There can still be love, but it is not the primary consideration.

Redglitter · 09/12/2022 17:18

It always surprises me when people say William & Kate look miserable. I'd say they look anything but. There's been loads of coverage of them recently where they're all smiles, laughing together, he's touching her back, there was one of Kate watching William make a speech, she looked so proud of him.

I think they look very happy together. They've been together 20 years now so they're comfortable & don't need the very ott pda H&M are so fond of. I think its clear they love each other

stuntbubbles · 09/12/2022 17:19

ncforrashpice · 09/12/2022 16:29

Peri menopause? She was 35/6 when they got together. Christ.

According to another thread she’s “pushing 50”. The batshit is getting battier.