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Does Harry dislike his family?

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asblindasabat · 05/12/2022 18:48

Just with the Oprah interview, this new Netflix thing and then his book that is coming out soon.

Anyone would think he dislikes his own family. What has actually happened for him to turn on them?

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healthadvice123 · 05/12/2022 22:59

@oakleaffy exactly you would give them up if you hated it all do much
And I agree with others his life was simpler than William , he was allowed so much more freedom etc yet still had all the priviledges

Nat6999 · 05/12/2022 23:01

The Palace should have allowed Harry to carry on with his military career, he was happy & enjoyed doing something where he wasn't just a royal Prince. Things got screwed up for him during that first tour of duty in Afghanistan when he had to be pulled out, why couldn't he have been sent out under a different name? The military are bound by the official secrets act, it wouldn't have been so difficult.

PicturesOfDogs · 05/12/2022 23:02

I think the dangers they have both faced together has been a big reminder of his mother Diana being a commoner and never truly being accepted into the royal family

Diana was most definitely NOT a commoner

MarshaMelrose · 05/12/2022 23:06

@Tropicaliyes
I think the dangers they have both faced together has been a big reminder of his mother Diana being a commoner and never truly being accepted into the royal family.

There are so many factual inaccuracies in what you've written but this really stands out. Diana knew the Queen since childhood and she used to play with the royal children. Charles's grandmother, Queen Elizabeth was best friends with Diana's grandmother and they brought the couple together. The family probably wanted her in the family more than Charles did! Although technically a commoner because she held no title other than Lady, her father was an earl and her family had long since been entwined with royalty. For example, her father's godmother was Queen Mary.

Pidgeonslipshit · 05/12/2022 23:07

i personally really liked Megan and loved their wedding. Yes I did think it was odd that her father hadn’t been introduced to Harry …I ignored that fact l
Yes all a bit dramatic with Charles walking her down the Aisle!
I personally started questioning their intentions when Archie was born and the timeline didn’t fit in with the announcement!
They were playing games with the press and they were very unreasonable TBH !

Tropicaliyes · 05/12/2022 23:08

@healthadvice123 shat is my assumptions? Depending on what parts your talking about most is taken from the horses mouth from many of the interviews conducted regardless if it’s interviews with Harry and Megan or with Diana.. most of the information is out there and easy to find.

my assumptions are also in there too but they are very small in comparison to what has already been put out there.

Nosleepforthismum · 05/12/2022 23:12

There are only two years between my younger sister and I but our memories of our childhood seem to differ wildly. She will often speak about memories of when we were younger but I always think “well that’s not exactly how it happened” but mostly I let her get on with it. It seems to have got worse as she’s got older though and the “memories” get more embellished each time and she genuinely believes events truly happened as she says they did when I (and my younger brother) have completely different memories of the same events. There’s probably a name for that sort of behaviour but I do wonder if Harry is doing a similar thing and he’s told the embellished version of the truth so many times now he’s starting to believe it as well.

PrincessofWellies · 05/12/2022 23:13

I think this happens in more families than people might realise. A happy ish son marries a woman who then influences him to the extent he dumps his family and is then isolated so his wife has full control. There are plenty of threads on here, mostly men manipulating women, but it certainly works both ways.

Loveatortie · 05/12/2022 23:20

The palace did not stop Harry continuing with his military career,he had reached the end of his capabilities within the military. He got into sandringham because of who he is. My 6 month tour coincided with Harry's. I will say no more as i value my blood pressure and swore a oath to the then queen.

Funkyblues101 · 05/12/2022 23:22

heldinadream · 05/12/2022 19:10

Well you know his vulnerable mother died arguably because his father married her under false pretences, never loved her, had an affair all their married life, and all with the total approval of his family because the firm was more important than dispensable individuals. Then he had to walk behind her coffin on TV. Etc etc. He obviously adored his mother and she him.

What would you feel towards your family in those circs?

His mother died because she wasn't wearing a seatbelt.

Funkyblues101 · 05/12/2022 23:23

Loveatortie · 05/12/2022 23:20

The palace did not stop Harry continuing with his military career,he had reached the end of his capabilities within the military. He got into sandringham because of who he is. My 6 month tour coincided with Harry's. I will say no more as i value my blood pressure and swore a oath to the then queen.

And yet you refer to "Sandringham" instead of Sandhurst. Yeah right.

Loveatortie · 05/12/2022 23:26

Typos happen love 😁

tara66 · 05/12/2022 23:26

I have greater respect for the Duke and Duchess of Windsor than previously - at least they maintained a dignified silence for the most part. The Royal Family used to represent the country - not sure what it represents these days - hopefully not the country (diminished though it
is).

MarshaMelrose · 05/12/2022 23:38

Nosleepforthismum · 05/12/2022 23:12

There are only two years between my younger sister and I but our memories of our childhood seem to differ wildly. She will often speak about memories of when we were younger but I always think “well that’s not exactly how it happened” but mostly I let her get on with it. It seems to have got worse as she’s got older though and the “memories” get more embellished each time and she genuinely believes events truly happened as she says they did when I (and my younger brother) have completely different memories of the same events. There’s probably a name for that sort of behaviour but I do wonder if Harry is doing a similar thing and he’s told the embellished version of the truth so many times now he’s starting to believe it as well.

I get where you're coming from. 3½ years between me and my older sister. Her memories are so extreme that if I hadn't been there, I'd be suing the social sevices for not having taken me into care! She dramatises everything. And it's all just rubbish. I'm not saying mum and dad were perfect, we were just a normal family. I think you can tell lies to other people and build it up in your own head, then friends repeat your lies back to you and that becomes them confirming what you've said.
I wonder if that's part of Harry's problem too.

MarshaMelrose · 05/12/2022 23:44

I have greater respect for the Duke and Duchess of Windsor than previously - at least they maintained a dignified silence for the most part.

On the other hand, they did tell the Nazis that the best way to defeat the British was to bomb it to its knees, so I'm not sure how much respect they deserve really.
However, the Duke's brother won the admiration of the country for it he conducted himself during the war. So another case of a dutiful brother going about his business and doing a great job. And a spurned relative trying to kick up trouble.

healthadvice123 · 05/12/2022 23:45

@Tropicaliyes ever heard the phrase two sides to the story and the truth often lies somewhere in the middle
Some of what was said in the interview has been proven not true , they even contradicted each other.
Also why keep their titles ? Why did they want half in half out if its so bad, the queens uncle managed to abdicate and live a life away , the queens other GC live relatively ok away out of it not being working royals

DuchessDandelion · 05/12/2022 23:48

Loveatortie · 05/12/2022 23:20

The palace did not stop Harry continuing with his military career,he had reached the end of his capabilities within the military. He got into sandringham because of who he is. My 6 month tour coincided with Harry's. I will say no more as i value my blood pressure and swore a oath to the then queen.

Why not, was he not a good soldier? I've only heard good things.

user1477391263 · 05/12/2022 23:50

I don't think Harry's issues are actually about his mother's death at all. I think the fundamental problem is that a) he wasn't protected from the media growing up and b) he went to a school where everyone was a lot more clever than he was, and I think his self esteem was really knocked on the head. He should have gone to a sporty school with little emphasis on academics; Eton, by the time he went, was very much about clever boys, not dimwitted toffs.

user1477391263 · 05/12/2022 23:53

Harry could have stayed involved with the military if he wanted, I am pretty sure. Stuff like training? Plenty of hands-on stuff there that is well away from the front line.

Bluekerfuffle · 05/12/2022 23:56

His change seemed very sudden and extreme. Not that long ago he was saying his family was “the family Meghan had never had”. Meghan’s family found that statement bewildering and at odds with their own experience. And now it’s the royals turn. I wonder what could have changed Harry’s views…

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 05/12/2022 23:57

’Does Harry dislike his family?’

No, I think he hates and resents them for standing between him anti the ultimate glittering prize of the Crown. His wife just hates her sister in law, it’s extraordinary how every ‘thunderbolt’ is delivered on an occasion in which Kate might be getting some extra attention. I suppose she thought it was like a sitcom, if you corpsed and distracted and undermined the leading lady, you might get her role.

Calling their son Archie because that was the name George had been taught to tell strangers as a security precaution , saddling that poor girl with a nickname as some sort of identity trump; I’m surprised they haven’t called their dog Billie (though maybe they have, I don’t know). They live in a sort of hell of envy and spite.

user1477391263 · 05/12/2022 23:57

"I think it’s stupid as soon as Megan went into the royal family she was no longer allowed to act anymore"

I'm pretty sure that is not true. The queen said she could continue with her career. She chose to become a full time royal!

DuchessDandelion · 05/12/2022 23:58

Meghans family sound awful. If you're really as close as they claimed to be, you don't go slagging your family member off in the international press. Repetitively. For years.

They come across as hugely toxic.

LittleBearPad · 06/12/2022 00:01

DuchessDandelion · 05/12/2022 23:48

Why not, was he not a good soldier? I've only heard good things.

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To stay in he would have had to pass exams which was unlikely to happen.

Bluekerfuffle · 06/12/2022 00:01

DuchessDandelion · 05/12/2022 23:58

Meghans family sound awful. If you're really as close as they claimed to be, you don't go slagging your family member off in the international press. Repetitively. For years.

They come across as hugely toxic.

I think they did that after being slagged off by her (as the family she never had), and then ghosted. The two of them are now doing the same to his family.