I'm the youngest of four and I remember as a teenager when I was opening Christmas cards with my Mum she asked me if I minded that I was always last when people wrote our names. I said it didn't bother me in the slightest that I was the youngest and it was just a fact of life that I would be listed last and it was nice when people took the time to list our names instead of just saying the family.
Most families have an unwritten hierarchy, that just the way that it is, it doesn't mean anyone is loved less, its just the order people were born in.
Most of us don't work with our families which I agree would make the hierarchy more difficult and its not exactly like its a business where hard work will earn you the top job but if it was it would be Anne that would be Queen.
If Harry is saying that the women who marry into the Royal Family have a really hard time and are treated poorly by the press then he must have a lot of sympathy for Camilla.
If people hated Meghan and didn't want her to be a part of the Royal Family wouldn't they have worked harder to spread negative stories before she and Harry were engaged? The negative stories started to come out after they were married IIRC although some of them were about the preparations for the wedding.
They're going to come off so narcissistically if they keep saying like they did on Oprah that Meghan was just so amazing at the job that they didn't want her to outshine everyone else especially coupled with them getting a load awards unless they have a ton of private footage of them doing stuff to warrant those awards.