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Cat has decided to sleep on my bed - READ OP'S UPDATE BEFORE RESPONDING *Edited by MNHQ*

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mumsandaunties · 14/12/2025 22:29

I have an eleven year old female, who has never really been particularly friendly, and has never, ever slept on my bed….or even jumped on the bed wanting attention or when I’m offering dreamies. Never..in eleven years…until the day before yesterday.

She spent the day on my bed. I even took photos to send to my family it was so unusual. Evening on the couch as normal. Then the night, back on my bed.

Yesterday, same again. This morning she woke DH up at 5:30 by sleeping on his chest! Right now she’s cuddled close to me in the bed.

She doesn’t seem unwell. It’s just so bizarre I don’t quite know what to make of it.

Anyone got any ideas?

  • [Note from MNHQ: please see the OP's sad update (28/01) before responding]
OP posts:
wanttokickoffbutcant · 29/01/2026 21:36

Oh gosh so sorry OP. Cats do behave strangely when they know the end is coming. I knew mine was on his way when he took himself off to hide under my bed or lie on my DD's floor alone - normally a very sociable boy. Try and take comfort in the fact that it was very fast and sounds like they didn't suffer, and had a happy, love filled life with you x

ChaToilLeam · 29/01/2026 21:37

I am so sorry, OP. 🌺

Pudmyboy · 29/01/2026 21:42

So sorry to read your sad news, I hope you and your family have comfort in knowing she went quickly and at home surrounded by familiar scents and sounds.
I hope the burial was not too painful for you all xxx
Please post a picture of your girl if you would like to show us what she was like 💐💐💐

Twinklewonderkins · 29/01/2026 21:43

Aw good night lovely cat girl. 😔 ❤️

Lunde · 29/01/2026 22:05

So sad to hear your news
💔

TicTac80 · 29/01/2026 22:06

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, sending love x

twohotwaterbottles · 29/01/2026 22:06

I'm so sorry to read this OP. Sending a massive hug 🥹

QuickPeachPoet · 29/01/2026 22:24

Poor poor kitty. 11 isn't even that old by cat standards. RIP lovely girl.🐱

G00dnightJimBob · 29/01/2026 22:26

Oh no, bless you xx

Glitchymn1 · 29/01/2026 22:30

Awww my friend’s cat did the same, grumpy but suddenly seeking human contact. Glad she went peacefully xx

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 29/01/2026 22:32

Slightyamusedandsilly · 29/01/2026 19:38

I was interested in what the vet said about her cat.

This isn't a soap opera, but a real person who is grieving a loved pet.

Stop the ghoulishness.

Mummylove2026 · 29/01/2026 22:52

How lovely that she had a happy life right up until the end where she was loved so much. Hope you are ok OP.

Isadora2007 · 29/01/2026 22:57

She sounds like a characterful moggy- but I’m not convinced that a few out of the normal days over a month ago are linked to her sudden death now tbh. Sounds like she will be missed and I hope your dd took the news as well as can be expected.

mommatoone · 29/01/2026 22:57

I'm so sorry OP ❤️

Zov · 29/01/2026 23:00

Awwww, I'm sorry to hear this @mumsandaunties 😘

Sbmpp · 29/01/2026 23:03

@mumsandaunties I am so so sorry 😢.

catinateacup · 29/01/2026 23:03

I’m so sorry, OP. Thinking of you and your family 💐

ghostyslovesheets · 29/01/2026 23:03

💔🌻 rip lovely cat x

mumsandaunties · 29/01/2026 23:15

Pudmyboy · 29/01/2026 21:42

So sorry to read your sad news, I hope you and your family have comfort in knowing she went quickly and at home surrounded by familiar scents and sounds.
I hope the burial was not too painful for you all xxx
Please post a picture of your girl if you would like to show us what she was like 💐💐💐

Here she is. Monday night I was out until quite late. She met me in the hall with a disapproving stare as I took my boots off.

Cat has decided to sleep on my bed - READ OP'S UPDATE BEFORE RESPONDING *Edited by MNHQ*
OP posts:
TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 29/01/2026 23:19

She was very beautiful and I'm so sorry to read that she has died @mumsandaunties

Rgf · 29/01/2026 23:20

aw my heart is actually hurting for you and your girl 🌈 take comfort in knowing that as much as she was a lone ranger when she felt something was wrong her mum and dads bed was her safe space x

Happyhettie · 29/01/2026 23:20

I’m so sorry for your loss @mumsandaunties she was very beautiful and that’s a great disapproving look. Xx

nothingpunny · 29/01/2026 23:35

I'm so very sorry for your loss. She was a gorgeous girl x

AlleycatMarie · 29/01/2026 23:36

I am so sorry for your loss @mumsandaunties What a beautiful girl she was and it is clear she was very loved. It sounds like the end was very quick and she didn’t suffer. Sending love x

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 29/01/2026 23:46

mumsandaunties · 29/01/2026 23:15

Here she is. Monday night I was out until quite late. She met me in the hall with a disapproving stare as I took my boots off.

She's lovely.

I'm sorry that she's gone.