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The Further Adventures Of Newboy

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RubbishMantra · 13/10/2017 15:24

I don't think anyone's begun a new thread yet?

Hope you don't mind Cozie. Smile Newboy's Fairy God(cat)mothers love hearing about his progress.

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cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 18:19

What we don’t need is him ‘making mistakes’ in order to be chastised. (He’s quite capable of that.) Shock

Ollivander84 · 13/11/2017 18:19

I guess the problem is he hasn't discovered things like fuss, strokes, humans lap, night time cuddles. So he thrives off what he's known which is routine and being told off

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 18:21

Yep. Something like that. Sad

(I suspect.)

Ollivander84 · 13/11/2017 19:08

Then that leads to would ignoring the bad behaviour and rewarding the good work.. 🤔🤔 or finding some different type of telling off. I'm avoiding scrolling through more jobs searches by overthinking this Wink

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 19:32

I only have one type of telling off for cats. Sad

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 19:33

PS - other than laughter that is. (They usually hate that also.)

Ollivander84 · 13/11/2017 19:37

I suspect you would get utterly outraged face if you laughed at him Blush

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 20:04

Sadly, I didn’t feel like laughing much when he sprayed.

Ollivander84 · 13/11/2017 20:14

No, I can imagine. It must be so frustrating as well

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 21:35

I’m more concerned about him. He must be feeling so miserable in comparison to my other boys. Sad

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 22:26

He is emotionally all over the place with crossed wires BUT that' s not necessarily miserable and it's certainly not misery long term.

As it stands Newboy is a million times happier with you than anyone else. We know this as a fact. See previous threads.

He is eating well, playing, has enjoyed himself taking against kindly and innocent Dbro etc - all signs of healthy cat behaviour. Also bad behaviour a good sign.

Sorry for senselessness at any point - I have recently enjoyed cocktails with an esteemed medical consultant and am regrettably pissed as fuck.

Why I am such a lightweight after 30 years in media who knows. Life can be unfair to us all.

As Newboy knows himself, better than most. No one gets PTSD without the T, little kitten who cracks the heart.

But a) the T has been and gone b) he will slowly recover c) and be in Cozie Heaven for life. There is really v little to be sad about long term - it's all on the upward slope now.

Sorry to run the risk of sounding brisk. I would be feeling exactly the same as you, obviously, feeling quite stabbed to the heart with it all, but I am just trying to point out through the appalling hardship being faced that the fact remains he is on the up.

The way up is steep and long and Newboy's little strong paws might be struggling, as he may be sensing he has a slow, high mountain to climb. But if he falters he has you.

He knows he has you. And he is climbing daily.

Mr C has spat out £8.00 of pills in the past 2 minutes.

NoSquirrels · 13/11/2017 22:28

Does he play with you, Cozie? I mean, does the old bird on a string work, or a laser pointer to chase? Bonding from a dignified distance?

Does he take treats from your hand, or only if they're put down on a surface?

It seems so alien that a cat wouldn't like even a quick friendly chin or whisker scratch. Poor boy!

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 22:39

There are ways of combatting N's feeling ''comfortable with abuse' as Louis Theroux put it in his recent BBC2 doc - wasn't on cats, but that's what it means.

I am going to look them up when I can see and pop them here tomorrow. Thing is, you as a young victim think abuse is normal - and when in doubt, the brain goes to what it knows rather than what's good for it. That's the bad bit - the rest is that this upside-down behaviour can be fixed.

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 22:39

There are ways of combatting N's feeling ''comfortable with abuse' as Louis Theroux put it in his recent BBC2 doc - wasn't on cats, but that's what it means.

I am going to look them up when I can see and pop them here tomorrow. Thing is, you as a young victim think abuse is normal - and when in doubt, the brain goes to what it knows rather than what's good for it. That's the bad bit - the rest is that this upside-down behaviour can be fixed.

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 22:39

There are ways of combatting N's feeling ''comfortable with abuse' as Louis Theroux put it in his recent BBC2 doc - wasn't on cats, but that's what it means.

I am going to look them up when I can see and pop them here tomorrow. Thing is, you as a young victim think abuse is normal - and when in doubt, the brain goes to what it knows rather than what's good for it. That's the bad bit - the rest is that this upside-down behaviour can be fixed.

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 22:42

No. He plays by himself and will only take treats from a surface. (He’ll take them from a hand if it’s lying still - but it’s SORE: sort of a grab and run.) Basically, he doesn’t like me touching him.

He’s going to have an .........interesting Yuletide. I shall probably be three sheets to the wind ! Grin

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 22:56

Sorry C for being drunk on duty :)

You couldn't be more pissed than me now on the 25th :)

I quail at the state Dbro will end up in :) :)

I have only had 4 units and look at this thread. Look at it. Sorry.

If it's any help, Mr C was terrified of being touched and had to be socialised when he was in Battersea. Even then he was scared of me for a good long time. He wasn't scared of touching me in the sense of attacking me now I think about it. Newboy doesn't do that.

Taking treats from your still hand is a really good sign.

Have you tried blinking at Newboy if you catch his eye? Mr C loves a slow blink.

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 22:56

Sorry C for being drunk on duty :)

You couldn't be more pissed than me now on the 25th :)

I quail at the state Dbro will end up in :) :)

I have only had 4 units and look at this thread. Look at it. Sorry.

If it's any help, Mr C was terrified of being touched and had to be socialised when he was in Battersea. Even then he was scared of me for a good long time. He wasn't scared of touching me in the sense of attacking me now I think about it. Newboy doesn't do that.

Taking treats from your still hand is a really good sign.

Have you tried blinking at Newboy if you catch his eye? Mr C loves a slow blink.

cozietoesie · 13/11/2017 23:04

Oh when I’m a few sheets in the wind, I have a tendency to get the big bible out and start quoting.

(If I start sonorously intoning from Revelation, you all must just ignore me! Grin)

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 23:17

So like the home life of our own dear Queen Grin

I am being menaced by Temperance Tabby. Sent to bed, no supper, pamphlet from the Prohibition Party on pillow. Laterz, sleep well all Grin

Lanaorana2 · 13/11/2017 23:18

So like the home life of our own dear Queen Grin

I am being menaced by Temperance Tabby. Sent to bed, no supper, pamphlet from the Prohibition Party on pillow. Laterz, sleep well all Grin

Lanaorana2 · 14/11/2017 11:43

Are you ok this am C? Sorry about wrecking the thread. I feel horrible. How goes it with The Little Prince?

Someone broke in last night, took nothing and fed the cat twice.

Ollivander84 · 14/11/2017 11:58

If it helps Ollie drove me insane both last night and this morning and got told off Angry
Got into bed and he was licking my face, kneading me, crying at me, trying to get under the duvet, clambering over my head... stopped after he got told off but then started again at 7am this morning. I don't do mornings until I've had a pint of tea Wink

Lanaorana2 · 14/11/2017 12:20

That's all you need. What gets me is that one staggers out of bed in the end, feeds ravening beast and reels round doing things for beast eg tray and the housework while beast enjoys leisurely breakfast, relaxes and snores its face off.

Then when you are weak from exhaustion and lurch off to work to pay for beast/go to special shop for beast luxury snacks, it steals your spot on the sofa and bites you when you return. :)

Ollivander84 · 14/11/2017 14:27

Oh yes. I have bags under my eyes and he's zoomed about. Went to leave the house and he's gently snoring away. Obviously exhausted(!) Hmm

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