I seem to be picking Newboy up tonight......

[cozietoesie]

Currently in the middle of making arrangements to meet - he's a breed rescue - and yet to check over the house for 'breakability' issues etc. (He's only young - and it's a good few years since I had a cat that could potentially leap living with me.)

Yikes!!

It was my own fault, Fluffy. I should have either gone with my instinct and not taken him or waited until his previous owner had given him his booster. (Problem is that he was in an active turf war - whether he'd have lasted that extra fortnight is moot.)

He sneezed this morning. I told the vet who said 'Ohhhhhh'.

And at least I now know his weight.

You are in a power struggle. He will win, but there is room for negotiation.
I'd ignore him for the time being. He'll eat when you've gone to bed!

I hope so.

(That's room for negotiation and eating.)

Don't know how I missed this thread

So glad our pair of semi-rescue 6 month olds Siamese brothers have settled in After 3 months Oldgirl is now only hissing at them (especially the bigger one who ignores her body language is keen to be friendly with her) when they get too close to her and is now sleeping with them at night (dh always goes through to bed before me and the cats follow him).

18 years ago, when we moved to this house, dh made the mistake of trying to separate our original chocolate tabby point male and the oriental who lived downstairs (we share the garden): they were somersaulting in a ball of fur like a cartoon. Our cat's claw got caught in his forearm and ripped a triangular piece down; he still has the scar.

I'm sure with your patience and knowledge of Siamese will win out in the end Cozietosie

When I spoke to the rescue co-ordinator, .I mentioned to her - having spoken to the first owner - that he didn't sleep in bed. There was this long drawn-out silence. (I felt that I might as well have said 'You are aware that he has 18 legs are you?' )

You'll get there. The boys didn't come through to the bedroom at night at first, sleeping in their bed instead (which was in the lounge) and even when we moved it through to the bedroom, they still didn't come on to the bed

We think that this was because they had been kept cooped up in a single room at their previous owner

They are loving the space of the house and even more so, the garden

I think that his previous owner was trying to 'play fair' with his Siamese. So neither of them slept in bed.

I heard a tentative step.

....took over 2 months before they ventured onto the bed to sleep at night

When I was given Firstcat (a sealpoint kitten) it took me an hour to coax him out from behind the piano and then I took him to bed. He settled down immediately and fell asleep.

He's eaten some (rather dried up) Lick E Lix.

Yay
Ollie has given up on my bed and retired to his own (double) bed
You'll get there

I hear sounds of noshing from across in his sitting room.

Hooray for Newboy eating again. Much wine for you though - how stressful :(

Firstcat was a kitten, so would have adapted to change very quickly & easily.. Newboy is a fully adult Siamese who has been uprooted from his dominion and forced into a new home and new routine. Remember how long it took Oldboy to settle in and I'm guessing he'd met you in the past as well.

At one stage with my furbabies I wondered if I would ever get to stroke them, or if they would sleep anywhere except under the sofa, or eat with me in the room. Took literally months before I could touch Boycat, and the hysteria of the MoT at the vets was 10 months in to having them here. Now he walks up, demands a stroke, then insists I sit next to him & tickle his tummy for ages.

I reckon you're doing OK there

Thanks, Allergic. I knew it would be a lengthy process but the family etc are wanting things 'hurried up' in some way. Gawd.

It's been a long thread and I may have missed this - but have you thought about poor Newboy having kitty PTSD - not just about the move but about his life before - the active turf war? There's a lot there to be undone and I'm wondering if a cat behaviouralist might be able to offer some insights?

Oh FFS - they know perfectly well how long it can take Siamese to re-bond, took long enough with Oldboy. I'm very lucky in that the few visitors I have to my house a) do understand cat behaviour & b) know better than to go against anything I say in MY house e.g. if she doesn't come to you don't try to go to her you knobhead .

Family can FOAD, or get their own rehomed Siamese & see how well & quickly THEY do

Their heads tell them one thing etc...............

Luckily, they're not in control here.

I just don't know, Spartacus. Myself, I think it's mostly bound up, in his head, in the change of environment and 'person'. I'll give it a good long time now.

Totally agree that the poor boy needs space ... I guess I'm just wondering about the food - I mean most cats are greedy bastards always up for nosh, but I've also been told that food obsessions can be about security - fear of 'famine' and a primaeval urge to feast beforehand.

I'm not used to it, I'll confess. (And it really was an obsession.) I'll just roll with the punches for a little on that.

A bit of snacking here and there never killed anyone, v soothing to ruffled fur. Hope you both kipped well.

I lay in bed last night contemplating this thread title:

Guess the weight of Newboy

Is it 8 kilos??!!! Oh I hope it is.