I seem to be picking Newboy up tonight......

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Currently in the middle of making arrangements to meet - he's a breed rescue - and yet to check over the house for 'breakability' issues etc. (He's only young - and it's a good few years since I had a cat that could potentially leap living with me.)

Yikes!!

Just for comparison my foster cat went to her new home last night and when I popped round with some bits and pieces I'd forgotten to send with her she was busy exploring her new home. She had apparently been "everywhere" and was really friendly with her new mum and dad.

I'm getting some stress behaviour.

Guess the vet on Friday may be a little problematic?

On the bright side, I've finished the cat activity centre.

I should add that it took us 20 minutes and quite a few minor injuries to get said foster cat in the box. Despite being tiny she is strong, agile and completely ruthless. So good luck with that.
What about trying confining him to one room with food and tray for a while to make it less overwhelming? Maybe it's too much for him to process all at once. Does he need to go to the vet, or could it wait?

I don't know with this one. We seemed to be trudging peaceably down that long road until the 'setback' at the weekend.

Personally, unless there was a pressing issue I'd leave the vet for now.

Photo of the centre and the box?

I would also say that settling takes priority over a routine vet visit at this point, unless you're worried about something physical. Do you have some Feliwy on the go to help him?

Aww. Poor Newboy. Poor Cozie! Another one who'd leave the vet for now - if he's come from a known home that looked after him well, then I would give it a little time.

It took 2 months before I could take Pucinni to the vet. I'd leave it for now .

The stress of taking him to the vet now would be too much I think, unless you absolutely have to for an illness.

I second Feliway. I'm not 100% convinced it works but could be worth a try.

Will he come near you for some extra special treats, say if you sit on the floor? Maybe he doesn't realise you actual want him near you? Sorry, I'm just thinking out loud ...

Can you tempt him out to play? With a Da Bird or similar? So he sees you're a playmate?

I had a rescue cat when I first moved out to live on my own. He stayed under the bed for ages, about two weeks, but used to come out at night to explore and eat etc. Then eventually he'd be on the bed asleep when I woke up.

I've had my rescue Siamese from the age of 13 weeks. But he was very feisty, played frim the word go and was on my knee asleep the second evening.

I know it's frustrating, but he'll get there I'm sure.

Have you tried reading out loud to him Cozie? I remember a poster a few years ago had a very nervous cat, (there was hissing) and she'd sit on the floor whilst reading to him in a low voice. It took a while, but it worked. You could implement ham to sweeten the deal.

And like Chemenger said, try a feliway, I'm sure it helped towards MCat being more amenable to Little M. Would practicalities allow for Newboy to have access to only one room for now, such as your bedroom - it's possible he could feel overwhelmed with a large house to explore, and he'll feel safer in one room?

Do you think Newboy was jarred by your DBro seeking him out the other day? If only you could explain to him that he's safe, and what a lovely life he'll have with you.

I was thinking about suggesting you keep him to one room too... I've done this in the past, giving them a chance to feel safe in less overwhelming surroundings and of course not have to contend with the other cats straight away, which I know isn't the case for you. But of course it's difficult when you're moving through the house during the day if he can't be near you to get used to you. I think Siamese are more people orientated, rather than normal cats being house orientated .. iyswim... ?

I think maybe just give him a lot more time and try LOTS of treats whilst talking to him gently. Maybe sit on the floor with treats and an enticing moving piece of string/da bird near his hiding place but not too close, just so he can see you ...?

Thanks for all your thoughts. Lots of ideas there.

I've cancelled his Friday appointment at the vet but I'm going down there tomorrow to get some Feliway and some calming capsules to sprinkle on his food. (They're taking it all very seriously.)

I hope his stress levels abate a little. At least he's eating/drinking and using his tray well.

Feliway worked really well for us.

You have whispered to him that we're waiting for pictures, haven't you?

Bring out his inner model?

Good luck cosie

I've just seen him - although I pretended not to have noticed him. 

congrats on your new boy

Zylkene worked well for mine when they were stressed in the run up to Bonfire night. MUCH cheaper on line than at the vets, as is Feliway, but I can understand you wanting to get those implemented asap.

Thanks, Allergic. I've decided to just go down this afternoon if I can and do all the business, including the meds. Lying awake last night and listening to his compulsive pacing was very worrying.

It will have to be tomorrow afternoon, after all. Fingers crossed for tonight.

Hang in there cozie and Newboy. It's always a rocky road at the start.

it wasn't Dbro it would have been something else, it's always the way. Mind, I reckon some tranx and Feliway might do you both a power of good, it's what they're there for.

The main thing is newboy is still eating and tray-ing.

Yes - I take comfort from that. Even if I have half a suspicion that he just feels the need to 'keep his strength up'. Blighter.

Petwell sell feliway online much cheaper than the vets

Thanks, Ruhr. This is just to be an emergency supply. If I were to need it for longer..........well.

petwell.co.uk/feliway-feline-facial-pheromone-diffuser-refill-48ml-3709.html

Oh, he's just prolonging the torture of you (and us!) so that the big reveal is super dramatic and more effective in enslaving you with overwhelming relief. He knows what he's doing, and it's working

Seriously, I do hope that is the case, and as soon as you have spent a fortune on Feliway and other calming tabs he will announce his disdain for them all!

Wishing you both a good night.