My furbaby

[Skates]

So I’m a man. I live with my little French bulldog who is my absolute world. He’s 6 years old. From a puppy he’s always slept on my bed and I wouldn’t have it any other way. So I met a girl. We get on great but unfortunately she thinks dogs shouldn’t be allowed on the furniture or sleep on the bed. We haven’t spent a night together as I won’t leave my dog to stay at hers and she won’t sleep at mine because my dog sleeps with me. I can’t see this relationship going anywhere and she says I’m being unreasonable putting my dog before her needs. I’ll always put my dog before any relationship. AIBU?

People blurring the lines and not treating their pets appropriately is exactly what is creating badly behaved and out of control dogs.

Agree. But MN is weird about pets.

My dog sleeping on the bed does not make her a bad dog.

You can have a 'fur baby' that is well trained and a beloved member of the family.
And you can have the knobs who have a bully dog and treat it as a weapon.

Time to find a new girlfriend!!

I think she is right but your never going to agree so move on.

So you really love your dog, fair enough. I don’t get it but it’s not my life. But how does a (human) partner fit into this?

Such a defensive answer.

I grew up with dogs, but they are dogs, not people and shouldn't be on furniture.

The dogs that are biting and sometimes killing people are not the ones sleeping on beds, being trained, and being looked after properly.

My house, my furniture, my rules. How does it affect you?
I love to have a cuddle on the sofa with my dog in the evening. What is so bad about that?

You need to find someone who loves dogs and would be happy to have one sleeping with them in the bed and also for you to bring your beloved pooch to theirs for sleep overs! We sleep with our dogs!

It does, but of course you’ve already blurred the lines so much you can’t accept that, so there really is little point discussing this with you.

Still being defensive I see.

I don't treat my dog like a human. I treat her like a dog... that is allowed on my furniture.

My dog sleeps in the bed and both the cats and dog are allowed on the sofa (the cats don’t get into the room at night because they are crackheads through the night 😂) I can guarantee everyone calling you disgusting bla bla have had both their hands and mouths in far worse places than your dog, but you obv have strongly different opinions on this subject and even if one “wins” the argument the other will be resentful so she’s not the one for you and you’re not the one for her

You treat your dog like a human. If you don’t see anything wrong with that then why wouldn’t you just own it

What is bad about having a cuddle with my dog on my sofa in my house? How does it affect you?

I am defensive because I am sick to fuck of people on here who have no idea how much a dog and owner can bond... I am still alive because of my dog. But I assume you will call me sad and "lacking in social skills" or some crap. I have a lovely bond with my dog. It hurts no one else at all.

OP has a lovely bond with his dog too. He will find someone who will share that with him. But some people on here are saying he will be single forever.... which is bollocks.

I Googled it but I can't see anything anywhere that says being allowed on a sofa is something just humans are allowed to.

@RampantIvy passive aggressive laugh react from you. My dog saved me from suicide.

My dogs have always come first in my life and lie on the furniture and on the bed. Not everyone agrees with that but in my home I make the rules. This woman is not a dog lover and is already trying to change the way you live. It's not going to have a happy ending. Stick with your dog!

I 100% treat my dog like a human because he thinks he is, who am I to burst his bubble?
You crack on doing you OP. Let your handsome boy all over your furniture. 💜

@YeOldeGreyhound I am glad you found your dog who saved you. They are amazing creatures and we are lucky to share our lives with them

Absolutely!
If treating my dog like a human means she is loved and cared for, then what is wrong with that?

@skatesignore those who don't understand. There are many more who do. I agree that if more humans took their responsibilities seriously towards animals that they choose to take home because they decide they would like a "pet" then there would indeed be a lot less cruelty to other species and a lot less abandoned animals at the hands of humans who are happy to shrug their shoulders when their "pet" doesn't perform like a toy for them. IMO everyone should be more dog. The world would definitely would be a better place if they were.

I treat my dogs better than I treat random humans, because they deserve it.

I can guarantee that my clean, regularly groomed dogs are far more hygienic to have in a bed than some of the absolutely disgusting men that you share beds with, judging by the things I've read on here. Poo crumbs? Skid marks? Coming in drunk and pissing the bed or throwing up over it? Men are rank.

Actually, I like this. I have dogs and wouldn’t abandon them overnight for a bloke. If the bloke didn’t like dogs, well, bye then, plenty more people that do like dogs and won’t be jealous of them.

Yep, I have a greyhound too and would never leave her alone overnight.