I don't like my puppy

[Cait73]

And I hate myself - she's taken over my life I know puppies do (okay I forgot it's been 12 years) and she's a dear little thing but the biting, chewing, training, eating schedule and endless trips to the garden just to come in and find a poo on the rug

I'm exhausted all the time - I don't feel like I love her is this normal? I'm really hoping someone will tell me it's too soon I've only had her 5 weeks and the love will grow?

All I remember is I loved my last dog from the second he arrived and I didn't even care how much work he was, I loved every inch of him every second of the day

Why don't I feel like that??

[quote Cait73]@GingerAndTheBiscuits the 2 year old helps himself to treats if I leave them around

God my life's SO complicated lol [/quote]
Lol

Have you tried primula? Some dogs absolutely love it and you can have it in a pocket, or you get tubes of liver paste if she doesn’t go for primula

@Cait73

I wish more people talked about how awful it is lol

Me too ! It looks all fun love and cuteness on social media and when your out walking alone and see dogs and think awwww how lovely it would be . I was a depressed mess for 8 weeks with my pup . Felt like I had postnatal depression . I would dread waking up , coming home from work knowing all the hard work would just start over and over again . I would of got rid of him if it wasn't for guilt . He's now nearly 6 months and I love him so much . He's my boy and I can't imagine life with out him , well apart from the days of lay ins and just binging Netflix all day 😅 but I know this crazy asshole stage isn't going to last forever so I'm plodding along . I just wanted you to know you are 100 percent not alone and I know how lonely it can be feeling the way you are x

Here's my trouble maker !

SO cute. He's forgiven.

I don't have children so can't comment on that aspect.

However, my beautiful darling girl died in January 2018. I can't entirely express the depth , trust and telepathy of our mutual bond. I will forever miss her. I have her ashes, and where I go, she will, until I die.

I now have another girl who had serious issues, now largely resolved. In the early days it was so hard. I didn't trust her and she knew it of course.

I genuinely love her now, but still mourn my darling, and that's ok.

[quote Cait73]@DuchessAnnogovia puppies are harder because we don't instantly love them like we do our own babies [/quote]
[Sits on hands to avoid incriminating myself]

Let's just say that I didn't get PTSD/PND with puppies or kittens.

@Cait73 you sound amazing and no wonder you're exhausted and struggling to cope. You are carrying a lot of weight for your 2yr old's happiness and wellbeing. Just a thought have you considered if a local teenager would help you out or community volunteer? I know that sounds a bit odd but if you had someone willing to come round and sit and do training with the pup, it does calm them and would give you a bit of time. The main purpose is dog sitting but if they agreed to do basic dog training it would back up what you do.

Ps I have a pup and miss with 16yr old old dog who I loved dearly and can't imagine that bond with new one. I was glad to read its normal

A thread about surviving new puppies you'd be welcome to dip in and out and have a rant or ask questions. I've found it very useful when I've been at end of my tether

@MakeMeCleanTheHouse I've popped onto that thread, got lost and popped out lol

How are things going @Cait73

@Floralnomad just popped back to say, I'm falling in love with my puppy!!!

I don't know what's happened but she's making me happier than she's annoying me

I've put in considerable effort this week and it's paying off; she's toileting mainly outside because I'm keeping a closer eye on her, she's chasing the toddler less because I'm putting more time into mum/puppy time she's having better quality walks, constructive playtimes, regular measured meals and everyone is a LOT calmer

I realised it all has to come from me, it's ME that needed to change not the toddler and not the puppy. I've taken on board everyone's advice so thank you all, I think we've turned a corner

Peggy had her first puppy groom this week, she looks too adorable

Awww so glad to hear this because (judging by the pics) Peggy is one of the cutest puppies I ever saw with one of the best names Well done!

@XelaM thank you - I mean we're not (yet) having a massive happy puppy party but things are massively improved, I just realised I love her

Well done @Cait73 it does sound like you are turning a corner . She is incredibly adorable .

So glad to see your update, hope it continues to improve for you

Lovely update! She really is a beautiful pup

Omg she's the cutest little thing !!!

How lovely to read OP! Well done!

I don't know many people that like their own puppies. Other people's that they can hand back, yes, but not their own. Most puppies are little arseholes. Cute arseholes, but arseholes nonetheless, so it's not surprising. I found the adjustment to having DS easier than when we got our second dog as a puppy. When she was a puppy I genuinely felt like she'd made me depressed, it was awful. She's middle-aged now, still a bit awful at times, but I love her very much in my own little way. Even our first dog, who is the best doggo of all time now, was a pain as a puppy. Give it time and don't beat yourself up about it, it does get easier and that's when you'll have the space to start feeling like you're bonding with and enjoying your dog.

I missed the update! 🤦‍♀️

She's very sweet, glad things are looking up.

How have things been going this week @Cait73 ?

How are things going @Cait73? From your most recent update it seems like it's all going good which is great!

@conall and @Floralnomad thank you for checking in on us, we're having a bit of a relapse but I've had a personally very bad week

Hopefully next week will be better again

Hello next week and we are doing better! Had the trainer round today who pointed out the many positives and assured me the majority of the hard work is well and truly behind me