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I don't like my puppy

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Cait73 · 16/09/2021 20:18

And I hate myself - she's taken over my life I know puppies do (okay I forgot it's been 12 years) and she's a dear little thing but the biting, chewing, training, eating schedule and endless trips to the garden just to come in and find a poo on the rug

I'm exhausted all the time - I don't feel like I love her is this normal? I'm really hoping someone will tell me it's too soon I've only had her 5 weeks and the love will grow?

All I remember is I loved my last dog from the second he arrived and I didn't even care how much work he was, I loved every inch of him every second of the day

Why don't I feel like that??

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Cait73 · 17/09/2021 06:39

I wish more people talked about how awful it is lol

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Mmmmdanone · 17/09/2021 06:42

When we first got our puppy I used to love it even she went to the groomer, vet, anywhere to get her away from me for a while! Now I genuinely miss her if she's not here. She's 3. I can't remember when she became good company but she really is.

DoesHePlayTheFiddle · 17/09/2021 06:47

Oh! I don't believe you... no-one could fail to love that little one! I hope things are easier for you both, going forward.

opalescent · 17/09/2021 06:51

@Cait73 I have a 14 week old pup and really empathise.
I have days when I really don't like her. I feel like a bomb has gone off in my life. When she is calm she's adorable, but like any puppy, she can be frantic, barky and bites. These are not adorable traits. It's particularly hard (I find), to deal with her needs alongside those of my children. Last night, around 9.30pm she had a really awful zoomie episode with loads of barking and biting, really lunging at me, before abruptly flopping to sleep. In those moments, I feel really low and wonder what I've done.

But, as with human babies, I know she will get easier. And she's adorable lots of the time!

SoloISland · 17/09/2021 06:52

I was left holding the baby /puppy when a loved one scarpered off abroad. Being a cat person... Mind you kittens are hard work too but not with the same.... energy as these young jumpjets…

And my seven assorted cats are less work than that one wee dog.

Okbutnotgreat · 17/09/2021 06:57

Love posts like these, my nightmare pup would just eat the whole yoghurt pot and rip the box to shreds then eat that too. The only thing that’s survived so far is a Kong which makes it boring as it can’t be destroyed. She’s 14 months now and very gradually improving but it’s slow progress.

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Cait73 · 17/09/2021 06:58

@opalescent it's really annoying I'm dragging puppy out for poo my 2 year old needs me urgently I stupidly drop the ball/puppy and before I can pick her back up we have poo everywhere AND she's started to eat it Confused

And try biting is REALLY annoying I can't even cross the room safely!

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Roselilly36 · 17/09/2021 07:01

Aww Peggy is gorgeous, but yes pups are very hard work. I think you just forget, how hard that stage is. We coped well with our pup but we were much younger at the time. I just don’t think I could cope with a pup now as much as the idea appeals. Of course the love will come, just give it time. Good luck OP.

Auroreforet · 17/09/2021 07:04

Peggy the Puppy. So cute.

We need a blog OP.

opalescent · 17/09/2021 07:10

@Cait73 my puppy eats every single 💩 unless I get to her in time and stop her 😣.
I get very stressed when evening barking threatens to wake my kids, when I've just spent an hour getting them to sleep 🤯

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Cait73 · 17/09/2021 07:18

@Auroreforet no we really don't hahahaha

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Ilikewinter · 17/09/2021 07:26

Have you tried puppy claases? We took winterpup and its like group therapy! Hes progressed onto basic obedience now and he seemed to have 'got' clicker training so i go no where with pockets of treats and a clicker !

FuckingFabulous · 17/09/2021 07:28

I hope people are right when they say dogs calm down and become more likeable after three years and I do hope disliking pups/young dogs is normal, because our dog is approaching three years old and I am looking forward to actually liking her instead of wishing we had never even considered bringing a dog into our home.

InTheNightWeWillWish · 17/09/2021 07:30

Everyone thinks she's the cutest thing ever but they don't have to live with her

Same issue here with the 13 month old pup. People have said to me how can you be mad at that face as that face was sinking it’s puppy-needle teeth into my ear. We have another dog who is 4 now, I love her. When she’s a bit naughty, I don’t care. The pup I do now love but I still intensely dislike him at the same time. I didn’t dislike the older dog quite as much but had many moments of regret. With this one, there’s been a lot more regret but we’ll get there.

MissVanji · 17/09/2021 07:31

Oh OP I'm so glad you did this post as I now feel completely normal. I have a 14 week old St Bernard pup and she is seriously driving me crazy!!

Costacoffeeplease · 17/09/2021 07:48

Absolutely normal. I’m always surprised when people are surprised how hard work pups are!

Yes they’re cute, for 10 seconds then they’re bitey jumpy annoying lunatics for the next 18 months.

I do think people talk about it A LOT but it’s easy not to actually hear it

opalescent · 17/09/2021 08:00

@Costacoffeeplease

Absolutely normal. I’m always surprised when people are surprised how hard work pups are!

Yes they’re cute, for 10 seconds then they’re bitey jumpy annoying lunatics for the next 18 months.

I do think people talk about it A LOT but it’s easy not to actually hear it

@Costacoffeeplease this is so true!!!!! Honestly people told me how hard puppies were so many times before I got one. I must have just filtered it out, because I wanted one 😂.

Similar with babies: no matter how many times people tell you- you just have to experience it for yourself.

opalescent · 17/09/2021 08:02

I also realise now that dog people talk to other dog people about the hard parts. As a previous non-dog owner, all my dog friends were talking to each other about their various struggles, but I wasn't party to those conversations.
Hence. All I saw was the good parts, and dog ownership looked like a breeze! 😂

HalzTangz · 17/09/2021 08:05

My partner hated our puppy for the whole of her first year with us, then suddenly she is the best thing in the world to him.
5 weeks isn't really that long for training etc, give it time

dancemusicsexromance · 17/09/2021 08:21

My pup is 4 months and he's a mastiff so not tiny, I cried when I had had him a week as it was so hard, I've got a beautiful 14 year old dog who is so well behaved it's untrue.
But it's getting easier now with my new dog. He's so much better and I literally adore him. It's tough and I don't really like puppies but can't even get out of bed this morning as he is giving me the best cuddles.

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Cait73 · 17/09/2021 08:26

@dancemusicsexromance I think that's the (main) problem I'm constantly comparing a baby dog that I barely know to a 12 year old dog I would have laid down my life for, poor puppy

My Mum tells me my old boy was just as troublesome as a puppy I just do NOT remember

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BiteyShark · 17/09/2021 08:29

I must be different because at 5 years old I can definitely still remember how tough the first year was with him and how he reduced me to tears a lot.

Bloody love him now but he will be our only dog Grin

MightyMeerkat · 17/09/2021 08:33

I have a 14 week old puppy too and I feel exactly the same a lot of the time.

What really helped me was getting a play pen. I put her bed and toys in the play pen and leave the gate open but I do occasionally put her in the pen and close the gate - when she was exceptionally bitey or I needed to answer the door etc. Now she happily goes into the pen for a snooze throughout the day.

Also she slept on my bed for the first 4 weeks but it was a nightmare and, once she'd worked out how to jump off the bed, she started to get down and pee on the carpet overnight. So I started putting her in her bed in the pen at night. I slept next to her and didn't close the gate for the first 4 nights then I closed the gate but carried on sleeping next to her for 4 nights. Then I moved to the sofa etc. I also bought a camera so that when she wakes in the night I can hear and see her. Sometimes she wakes and just moves around a bit. Other times she's a bit more noisy so I go down to let her out. She's mostly sleeping 11 - 6 now with only one toilet break around 4. It's made a big difference because we're both getting a better nights sleep.

BalladOfBarryAndFreda · 17/09/2021 08:43

Puppies are absolute pricks OP. Yes, they’re just babies but they’re a frustrating, bitey, naughty, exhausting nuisance. The dream of a puppy is very different from the reality! Hang in there and stick with the training. They do come through it.

thesunwillout · 17/09/2021 08:46

Wow you've got alot to juggle with a pup and a 2 yr old.

I look back and I'm ashamed to say that I actually said I hate you, out loud to my dog when she was about 16 weeks.

I think she just carried on regardless and it's not impacted on her!

That's so horrible, but I was overwhelmed looking back.

If you've got a headstrong, bitey pissing not sleeping thing to look after, which you're also meant to love it's not very easy.

In conclusion you are not alone!!

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