In all honesty, Earthmover, either your neighbours are especially trigger-happy or there was something else going on with that poodle that it required putting to sleep. To put a dog down because it lacked boundaries as a puppy is extreme to say the least - especially when so many dogs many the transition from feral/street dogs to well behaved home pets, even despite missing out on the chastisement in puppyhood that you think is required.
Interestingly, the American Guide Dog Association saw a huge uplift in the pass rate for their dogs when they moved away from traditional, corrective-based training to modern, reward-based methods. When they used methods that featured punishing/scolding the dog for doing something wrong and replaced it with praise/reward for doing something right they not only saw the increase in pass rate from around 45% to between 60-80% they also saw a reduction in the time it takes to reliably train a guide dog - mainly because dogs that are not scolded tend to have the greater confidence required to offer new behaviours, some of which are useful and can be captured, rewarded and thus repeated. Dogs that are corrected for doing something wrong tend to offer less new, novel behaviours and so require more 'wrong attempts' to get a right.
For these reasons, there are now so many professional dog training organisations that have rejected corrective training methods - even when the consequences of the dog getting it wrong are high (e.g. bomb disposal where the dog and handler's life depends on the dog detecting correctly). Despite initial resistance by trainers that had used the old methods and knew they could get them to work - each organisation in turn has (like the A Guide Dogs) experimented with reward-based training and found it resulted in better training outcomes. Even the Gun Dog Trust just announced they are moving to force-free methods; gun dog training has traditionally been rooted in traditional, force-based training methods to get the behaviours required.
All all cases, the dogs still face punishments but they are negative in nature (as in, taking something away the dog likes, such as attention, the chance to move forward on a lead, play) rather than positive (as in, adding something the dislikes, such as a scolding, smack, yank of a lead, pull of a collar).