Eight boys and wanting a girl - channel 4

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It has just started and I am in two minds to watch this.

I am finding it hard as I have been trying to concieve a child for five years and have had four miscarriages - am I the only one who finds this annoying woman totally ungrateful for the precious children that she has

I understand the desire for a child of a particular gender and P2BF you explain it eloquently and rationally. What I couldn't reconcile was the fact that the parents had so clearly exposed their sons to their yearnings and therefore led them to the inevitable conclusion that they were not the child they wanted. This must be heartbreaking for the children. As a parent it is natural to have desires and disappointments relating to your children, but as a parent and an adult you have a responsibility to keep them to yourself. Announcing them on national television is, in my opinion the cruelest thing you could do.

I agree, nigglewiggle, and trying to force them to look at pink things & princess dresses when out shopping.
Also, if you know you will be that devastated that you go into a depression when you have another boy, I really don't think they should be having more babies. These are human lives they are bringing into the world, it is not a lucky dip!

I've not read the whole thread but have been chuntering all day about how objectionable most of the women were on this programme.

I just felt so sorry for their boys - how must they feel knowing that they weren't really what their parents wanted. I also really want the loaded woman's girls to grow up into real tom boys who hate pink and girly things.

I desperately wanted and tried for a child for a number of years and feel incredibly lucky to now have my gorgeous DS. I would like another one (don't care what sex) but after a miscarriage and 18 months of trying have given up as the strain gets too much.

Wanting a girl is not the same as wanting a child, no matter what get when you don't have any.

How wonderful will that little boy feel when he sees this programme - the day his mummy saw him on a scan and cried her eyes out in disappointment.

I cried to when I saw dts for the first time but out of happiness. I didn't care what I had in terms of boys or girls all I cared about was that they were healthy and happy.

The women were beyond selfishness in how they acted towards their children. Regardless of how they justify it they should remember that their children will grow up knowing if they are wanted or not.

I agree with Blowinginthewind.

I knew someone who went abroard to "get a girl" after having had 2 boys.

She was loaded too.

Instead of choosing a very feminine name she chose what I would call a very bland unisex name. That always puzzled me too.

Nicola and Michelle came across as spoilt madams used to getting their own way, no respect for the feelings of their gorgeous boys.
I know someone who tried for 2 years to get pregnant, then when she finally did said she wanted it to be a girl - I couldn't believe it really.
Their husbands were so weak too, fancy indulging them!

OMG I am watching this now on sky+ and I am furious, how selfish are these women? Their poor sons

I understand that it's an irrational desire , but if you have a deeply irrational desire that is taking over your life and affecting your relationships, you get therapy.

yes, the editing was probably brutal, but the fact remains. A couple of those women were selfish, immature and really quite frightening.

totally selfish

the woman should be grateful that they have one child, let alone 3/4/8 etc

there are many woman who cant have children and and would do anything to hold a baby in their arms regardless of sex

i know these kind of programmes are edited to look bad and make good watching, but still very sad

I went through a mixture of emotions while watching it. Though they seemed unbelievably selfish and immature, when the woman started crying at her scan I couldn't help but feel sadness for her. How awful must it be to have an illogical need like that, when all you can do is accept what you get. Seemed almost like a mental health issue, to be so consumed with the need to have a girl. And the reason for wanting girls was the most astonishing - wanting to buy pink things!

I liked the couple with 8 boys, they seemed quite normal and nice while still wanting a girl. The well-to-do woman (Nicola?) saying that not having a girl is the same as being infertile was incredibly stupid. She seemed to be saying that her sons count for nothing. Poor boys.

i think they all need help the psychy help my friend took offence to the whole thing because she was given up for adoption by her parents because she was a girl YES a girl, there are some things parents should keep to themselves and not publicise to the nation because one day its going to come back and bite them, those so called chosen baby girls or even boys will not thank them for it, even the ones they have at the moment imagine the memory of your childhood blank because mum and dad spending time and money concerntrating on something they cant change instead of what they already have . Personally all the money they are wasting they should all take their boys on a well deserved holiday to Disney. Imagine when that child asks his mum and even dad what was your first expression when you found out i was a boy is she going to say Well sweetie i burst into tears very nice -NOT

i have to reword this my friend took offence because she was given up because she was the wrong sex for het parents