Should I marry a murderer? Netflix

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Has anyone watched this? I have just finished it. Honestly I feel mixed about Caroline. Don’t want to say too much in case others haven’t finished it.

I remember the story being reported but didn’t know how much else went on in the lead up to the trial.

I agree that she was very conflicted and she may still be infatuated with him on one level, even now. But to my mind that makes her decision to go to the police with her information more impressive and self-sacrificial. She certainly has sacrificed a hell of a lot.

Nah, she only went to the police cos he asked her to help move the body and she shat herself! She's no fucking hero!

If it wasn't for that, she'd be playing happy families with the murderer, right above the body of Tony Parsons.

Wonder why she went into pathology...suppose there are fewer complaints from dead patients.

“They tried, but without evidence what could they do ? Even Caroline’s evidence wasn’t enough for them.” @Triskellion75posts.
Could the police not keep calling them in for questioning, to eventually break them down ?

I don't think they are allowed to do that, they'd be accused of harassment. I think it's on the BBC doc that the police had had an anonymous tip off from a member of the local community.

I wonder if that fact there had been a tip before meant that Sandy didn’t immediately think it was Caroline who had told the police leading to their arrest.

Probably, it was certainly known suspected by people locally but Caroline didn’t know that. She wouldn’t be given that information. Pretty terrifying then when they were free.

Wouldn’t she have begun to figure that out from time spent in the hotel & what the brother said?

I think I agree. She seems far to immature to be a doctor.

I doubt she got paid at all, and if she did it wouldn’t be much. Netflix notoriously don’t pay the subjects of their documentaries

You can’t legally do that, keep calling people in for questioning without new evidence.

It was so obvious that there was a massive rupture with her parents, due to her erratic behaviour & substance abuse. They appeared totally removed from the court case, and even the sentencing hearing (that Caroline attended), they didn’t attend. She put them through hell.

She was with Sandy for mere weeks, a few weekends really.

I did agree that the prosecutor was supercilious and patronising, but she was ridiculous. She barely knew the brothers, of course she could have cut ties, certainly not moved in with them under the guise of maintaining normality.

The problem with this is that she couldn’t immediately cut contact after she’d been arrested because then it would have been obvious it was her who dobbed them in!

in fact it was only after they’d been arrested and she went back to him that she managed to get him to locate the burial location and secretly left a marker. The only reason they’re behind bars now is that she did that, without a body the police would have nothing.

I agree after that she went too far, it would have been simple enough to just say the whole police investigation was too stressful for her and cut contact. She sought them out way too much after that. But she was left without any support at all and banned from even speaking to a therapist by the police. I think the whole situation messed with her head and she made stupid decisions.

So pleased it’s not just me. Thought they’d hired actors who bore strong resemblances to Caroline and Sandy to film recreations of their relationship as who the hell videos themselves that much?!

Also feel conflicted. The police let her down, as did her friends, but she also came across as immature, narcissistic and impulsive. The constant need to insert herself into the drama, even though that proved helpful to the prosecution.

The difficulty being if she hadn’t inserted herself there would have been no evidence and no recordings and no answers for Tony’s family. I watched the BBC iplayer documentary last night which is more focussed on the family.

This has gone wild in the States going by my TikTok feed. Wouldn’t surprise me if a movie is made.

If you each then bbc documentary it seems like the police found this a little weird, maybe exasperating- that she thought she had to help them out but that they weren’t asking her to. Don’t forget they’d been told by a. Number of locals that the twins were suspected

no doubt she provided the evidence that led to the body but the issue was always they needed 2 peices of independent evidence and Caroline couldn’t provide that.

I am not sure the case was thought to be strong, since they allege they were so dependant on her evidence yet she was clearly going to be portrayed as unreliable and in all honestly, the jury would’ve likely been confused by her behaviour so it was probably a fair concern.

I thought exactly the same.

To me she just looked like a serious coke user. She needed rehab ,I'm not convinced police support would've made much difference. They say they offered it, she was so off her head would she have remembered if they had?

Most definitely.

I was engaged after 8 weeks 🤷🏼‍♀️

Did he murder someone?

Well I mean each to their own but it’s fairly unusual to get engaged so quickly. Especially after a recent break up.

I got engaged after four months to my husband after going through a horrendous break up that left me reeeling. Luckily mine is the opposite of Sandy McKeller but I know how easily it can happen.

Not that I know of 😆

Exactly. And if it had happened during lockdown, I can see how the situation would be even more intense.

Phew! Haha. I agree length of time doesn't matter. There have been plenty longterm relationships that have so many skeletons in the closet! @Twonewcats

Gosh, this thread has been a very hard read!

I agree that Caroline doesn’t come across immediately likeable and she made some decisions throughout the whole process that will be hard for most people to understand.

However, for those of you that are insisting she should have gone to the police immediately and cut contact- Tony Parson’s would have remained unfound and the twins would still be free. Without the body and the tapes, there is no evidence.

I’m not saying that anyone should do the same as her in that situation- her actions were unstable and unsafe- but she single handedly solved that case for the prosecution and she should be offered appropriate respect and support for making those decisions.

I think the constant videoing of herself and the bizarre filters are skewing people’s opinions. If we look at the facts of what happened- she reported this crime and essentially went undercover to gather evidence whilst in the midst of a mental health crisis and extreme stress, with no support system- I believe sympathy and respect would be the natural response to being told this story. The social media/ crying on camera events, even the psychosis are a red herring. People are talking about her as they have more disdain for her than they do the twins, purely because she made choices that they would not make in the same scenario. Thank goodness we are all different, and Tony’s family has found some peace.

I am also outstandingly shocked at the complete lack of understanding and empathy for a woman who was suffering from psychosis. I am unsure what out of date or media created ideas you have of how someone in mental health crisis should behave (unable to drive a tractor ffs!) but it is very clear to anyone who has any personal or professional experience with this, that she was in the midst of a psychotic episode during the case/ programme ‘finale’. The lack of support and care from the police, lawyers, even her family (on the surface of the programme), is devastating to watch.

Would I like to be be friends with Caroline- no! We are undoubtedly different people. She is much braver than I would have been in that scenario- my instinct to tell the police and block would have meant the case would still be unsolved. I’m also not a social media person- but her deserving of basic human decency and kindness online is not eradicated because she has different interests to me.

I truly hope she finds happiness in life and finds peace and pride in what she has accomplished.

She is no longer practising medicine.