Virgin Island

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Will anyone actually be watching this? I keep seeing trailers for it & can't believe this sort of show is going to be shown on tv, i'm not a prude & love trashy tv but surely this is a step way too far?

No, Charlotte is one of the other contestants.

I do think this whole experience will be different for the blokes versus the women. Generalising massively, but sex for a woman is still more about being a recipient and things being put into you. It's harder, maybe, to do that if you've no sexual attraction. The men seem to be more openly turned on by the female therapists.

I’m utterly shocked that this is on TV. These “participants” are being exploited for our entertainment. It’s so wrong.

@SwedishEdith totally agree about blokes versus women and how they differ.

some of the women seem to have body image issues and possibly trauma which is totally different to a man worrying about his performance.

I can't see how they aren't going to regret this in years to come

In my eyes it’s way different to people who shag on BB or LI and all the shallow Hals. At least this is real. It just goes to show how repressed we are about sex and how we are programmed to feel shame and guilt. They’ve got nothing to regret. Apart from the arseholes who will watch this to mock, this will be real helpful for lots of other young people out there who feel exactly the same way.

Me and my other half watched this because we thought done properly it would show the pressures young people feel and because she was a very very late starter herself for other reasons it might help me understand what she was like when she was younger.

It feels like car crash TV to be honest and we should have known better because channel 4 are doing it.

It definitely shows the virgins have issues but some of the therapists are just cringe worthy to watch. We also noticed the "partner" woman (prostitute) had scars on her arms which looked like self harm.
It feels like voyeurism to be honest and we won't be continuing

I'm not sure whether to watch anymore of this creepy show as it feels wrong but I can't say I have no interest in hoping these people find some help or peace. You always have to question both why a TV company produces this kind of show and what it says about the people willing to participate.
Apparently it's on Ch4 Mon & Tues for the next 3 weeks (if it doesn't get pulled!) so I'll see how I feel about it next week.

Charlotte seems quite nasty. Can't believe she upset Jason like that.

I can't believe Emma actually has been told and believe she's unattended

Sorry unattractive

Yes she was out of order but I wonder whether she was being snarky so they would finish early and she didn’t have to take her top off for a massage. I think there’s a lot of body issues at play here. The internet causes so much trouble for the young from ridiculous porn to cultish social media.

Erm why did Charlotte say
What are these horrible stretch marks
It looks like you've got fat

What the fuck

Is Charlotte bisexual? I don't remember it saying about that but she's doing the animal thing with the woman

I don’t disagree with anyone but ultimately my conclusion is that everyone is consenting to this and they’re all adults so I’m less outraged by it.

A few of them come across as on the spectrum to me.
Emma is very pretty so I don't understand why she's never been in a relationship.

On the whole, it seems the men are virgins because they haven't met anyone they felt confident to have sex with and the women because of trauma or some sort of headfuck anyway. Quite different issues to resolve, I think several of the men will happily have sex with the "surrogates", asap.

It doesn't seem like Taylor is ready for this stage, to me

it seems to me that the men we have seen so far would all just have benefited from an experienced patient partner which is obv difficult to find. The surrogates will take on that role, they will gain confidence and off they go.
The women, however, have much more complex needs. Far more deep seated issues.
Men and women are so different when it comes to sex so I don’t know how they can use the same therapy for both. I would hate to be ‘stroked’ by someone I had just met and didn’t even find attractive. Actually I’m not sure I like being ‘stroked’ by anyone 😅

Yeah, I agree.

Orgasm inc:The Story of One Taste on Netflix, honestly, I could not believe what I was watching. Haven’t watched the show you’re discussing, and from your posts, I don’t think I will. But it resonates with this show, and it’s shocking. The FBI are now involved…

I haven't RTFT but I'd never heard of this until I saw DocStock talking about it the other day, she was funny as usual. Dunno if this link will work:

https://unherd.com/2025/05/virgin-islands-humiliation-kink/?tl_inbound=1&tl_groups[0]=18743&tl_period_type=3&utm_source=UnHerd+Today&utm_campaign=60d019d708-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2025_05_16_08_34&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_79fd0df946-60d019d708-35748842

I think the programme itself is part of the problem that it's claiming to help, to be honest. I really wish we could go back to more of an old-fashioned vibe, pre the pornification of EVERYTHING. When it was just accepted that sex was a private matter and that was the end of it. When porn was just in magazines and videos that were relatively difficult to get hold of. But there was still decent sex education and information was out there if you needed help with knowing WHAT to do.

When teenagers and young people only had to worry about dating etiquette and "courtship" eg how to ask out someone you fancied, what they looked for in a mate, how you should treat them on a date, signs they were interested in you. None of this awful, straight to it "hook up" stuff. I just find it so depressing, all the natural woo-ing and romance and taking things deliciously slowly so that you can build up sexual tension, and, importantly, trust, has gone out of the window.

I mean, they still do all that in the animal kingdom a lot of the time, but what has happened to Western humans? Young people now seem to kind of assume that the expectation from the other party is that sex will take place within 3 dates or so, otherwise they will lose interest. And that they must have this whole pornified sexual repertoire up their sleeve. How have we got to the stage where plain, loving, standard but satisfiying sex is labelled "vanilla", as if it's unacceptably boring?

The outcome has just been that either young people are often going against their emotional instincts to take things slowly and putting up with behaviour in a partner or sexual acts they are not totally happy with or they shut down completely and see sexual relationships as just not achieveable because it's zero to 100mph with no in between.

I don't see why they could have got their message across with a discussion/documentary format instead of this crappy Love Island damaging nonsense.

Well, I watched another episode (or tbh it was on in the background) and it isn't getting any better. They seemed to be doing something about confidence and you'd think they would want to do that first.
Yet again one person gets rejected as a partner in a role play activity. The therapists insist the participants practice techniques with one another which is embarrassing and uncomfortable within a group. It would be better if they had a selection of potential suitors who they could try out! Not that that is much better than a cattle market but at least it depersonalises it.
Very cringeworthy programme with questionnable ideas.

I felt awful for the guy who got rejected. Awful that they put him in a situation where that could happen.

I'd be right back to the group saying "well thanks for rejecting me, fuck you all"

Things like that made me feel some of it was clearly scripted, they're all supposed to be supportive and friends