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Abortion - The Choice . Tuesday 13th May, BBC 2, 9pm

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Milliways · 12/05/2008 21:04

Tuesday 13th May, BBC 2, 9pm: Abortion - The Choice.
"Five women face up to their decision to have an abortion, describing their thought processes as they made one of the most difficult choices anybody can make, and on which there can be no hard and fast agreement. Beyond the chatter, 200,000 pregnancies are terminated in the UK each year and none is anything less than tortuous and painful - as demonstrated by this poignant film."

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muggglewump · 13/05/2008 21:44

I feel desperately sorry for the women.
I've been there, at 23 weeks too and it was the most horrible and lonely experience I've ever gone through and the support just isn't ther. Plenty of judging, plenty of assumptions but no support.
It's only now a year later I feel I'm moving on

CrackerOfNuts · 13/05/2008 21:44

I wasn't asked about contaception at all.

I had a 5 min consultation with a counsellor and then saw a doctor for a examination and they then agreed to the abortion.

I was given no access to counselling afterwards, or any advice on contraception.

ButterflyMcQueen · 13/05/2008 21:44

which one is that expat?

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:45

the baseball cap woman. just let there on her own like that.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:45

the baseball cap woman. just let there on her own like that.

CrackerOfNuts · 13/05/2008 21:45

That is what happens though Expat. You are left alone afterwards to until they decide you can go home.

Heathcliffscathy · 13/05/2008 21:45

i am a psychotherapist now because of the amazing pre abortion counselling i received.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:46

and no counselling for the father, too.

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Milliways · 13/05/2008 21:46

Whereas I don't fully agree with the American system, do you think more women would consider giving their babies up for adoption rather an abort them if they could meet/choose prospective families?

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spicemonster · 13/05/2008 21:47

I'm not watching it, expat. I'm just reading the comments on the thread. From what people are writing, the women are not being portrayed very sympathetically.

I do wonder why anyone would want a camera. For me it's a terribly private thing

jingleyjen · 13/05/2008 21:47

not watching it... can't...
but I had no counselling before or after..
no contraception advice either.
arrived at the clinic alone, left alone, horrid

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:47

actually, spice, they're really just leaving it up to teh viewer to make the call.

not really portraying them one way or another.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:48

no, milliways, i don't think so at all.

women must have the right to do with their bodies as they see fit.

muggglewump · 13/05/2008 21:49

I got no counselling, they had no time apparently even though I was at the clinic for 3 days. I didn't get contraceptive advice either but perhaps they skipped that part since after the termination they handed me my mirena coil in a specimen jar.
I left an hour after two GA's in two days to sit in a bus station for 11 hours and then get an overnight bus home, all on my own bleeding heavily and in pain.
The painkillers they promised me never materialised, I bought my own.

spicemonster · 13/05/2008 21:49

Ah okay, thanks expat I guess it's just the filter of MN I'm seeing it through

liath · 13/05/2008 21:51

Expat - the reason women who's baby's have died inside them are "forced" to give birth is so the baby is born intact. A late surgical abortion involves dismembering the fetus inside the womb then extracting it bit by bit. This would make it impossible for a post mortem not to mention being a tad distressing for the woman I would imagine. HTH.

Heathcliffscathy · 13/05/2008 21:51

i remember really clearly, after my scan walking down frogmore in hampstead from the tube to my flat. sobbing my heart out. snot running down my face. and a little old woman (she looked the total stereotype) stopped me really kindly and asked if i was ok. and i said no. but thank you. and her asking really helped me.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:52

i see, liath.

thankfully, i've not had a late miscarriage, but a good friend did (20 weeks) and she was utterly traumatised by having to be induced and give birth. i mean, really, really bad.

liath · 13/05/2008 21:54

Your poor friend .

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:55

it's just not very nice any way you slice it.

LynetteScavo · 13/05/2008 21:55

I'm glad I'm not having a session with that counceller.

PinkPussyCat · 13/05/2008 21:55

Didn't want to watch this but have been sucked in...
What do you think of the counsellor guy?

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:55

this poor lady looks way older than 29.

expatinscotland · 13/05/2008 21:58

i'm wondering, if this might make good viewing for teenagers?

billa · 13/05/2008 21:58

I to was annoyed at the baseball cap woman who said she never used contracep tion. Now she won't talk about it.