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LOVE IS BLIND UK EDITION (Netflix)

580 replies

GlobalCitz · 07/08/2024 14:00

Is anyone watching?

I'm just halfway through the first episode and was dying to discuss it!

These participants are not what I was expecting at all. They actually sound a lot more interesting than most reality TV fodder.

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ShillyShallySherbet · 22/08/2024 08:51

virgocatlover · 22/08/2024 08:39

It says there’ll be a surprise guest… who will that be?

Sam?

That wouldn’t be much of a surprise, wouldn’t surprise me at all if he showed up so I hope it’s someone better than that!

FriendsDrinkBook · 22/08/2024 08:53

The surprise guest will probably be a puppy or something.

I expect most of the cast will show up anyway.

LoveRosesClimbing · 22/08/2024 09:17

Spoilers:
Freddie rejecting Cat. Jesus Christ. She is an adoptee. Doesn’t matter how high maintenance she might be or whatever. He could have ended the relationship in a different and private way. Her rejection sensitivity will be off the scale. This is the kind of rejection experience that could seriously endanger her psychological wellbeing. The producers are outrageous to have put her through this.

I felt absolutely sick seeing poor Cat get rejected at the altar and everyone around him congratulating Freddie. Anyone who thinks he was being emotionally mature jilting her at the wedding clearly knows nothing about the lifelong trauma of adoption. He was vastly emotionally ignorant.

Freddie has had the lifelong benefit of a loving family of origin who are very much still around him as an adult. Cat, however loving and very nice her adoptive parents are in reality, will have huge issues around trust and attachment and showing love, to work through. Those massively ignorant TV producers should be formally taken to task by the TV regulators for putting contestants’ psychological health in such jeopardy for their show. It really made me sick to see it.

I also thought it was odd how the show wanged on about values and culture being so important yet didn’t even mention any issues around race which would be something in couples’ minds.

Tom seemed like a typical sexist man wanting kids but wanting his female partner to stilll contribute exactly half financially. That’s not possible actually unless he changes how he works too. They didn’t show that conversation funnily enough..

I wondered in Sam might have some ND. With his preprepared lines. Regardless of cause, he seemed very emotionally fragile with his nose job and insecurity and overstating his attributes. He shouldn’t have been cast either because of the emotional fragility of the show and being cast as a villain. Ben’s reaction to San was way OTT as well I wondered about him also.

Parrotseatthemall · 22/08/2024 09:26

I think the surprise guest will be a baby, but who's?...duh duh duh
So glad Freddie said no, she had too many issues and was mean to him. He 'cheated' 7 years beforehand and it could have meant very little.
I don't think it was the MUA as such, but as he explained he didn't want his kids growing up with her ideals regarding finances
I'm pleased for Demi and Ollie, sensible decision if in any doubt
Ben & Nicole I think they are free spirits and impulsive (with not much to lose) so why not?
Jasmine and Bobby I'm not convinced the Mother won't cause issues down the line

usernother · 22/08/2024 09:38

Just been reading in a newspaper that Cat, Nicole and Ben have all previously been on TV shows.

ShillyShallySherbet · 22/08/2024 10:12

@LoveRosesClimbing I totally get where you’re coming from but Cat and Freddie are both adults who knew the premise of the show when they signed up. I am assuming they don’t get paid if they don’t turn up to the wedding and see it through to the end. Why should Freddie have to bail out of the show or get married to someone he doesn’t want to just because she is emotionally vulnerable. That is a marriage that would not have worked, he did the right thing.

Brooklyn70 · 22/08/2024 10:17

@LoveRosesClimbing , I’m sorry, I would understand your arguments about someone that has been in a loving relationship for years and then gets stood up at the altar, but they’ve been together for a month and she knows what’s at stake.

she’s a grown up who, I’m guessing,
has seen this show before applying for it, she knows herself better than anyone and should have thought long and hard how rejection would affect her.

ShillyShallySherbet · 22/08/2024 10:26

@LoveRosesClimbing with regards to your comment “The producers are outrageous to have put her through this.” I worked for seven miserable months as a researcher on a reality tv programme many years ago and in my experience the people who progress in that kind of role care more about making good tv than about people’s feelings.

Stressybetty · 22/08/2024 11:48

Looks like loads more engagements they didn't follow.
www.walesonline.co.uk/lifestyle/tv/netflix-love-blind-uk-star-29774400

cantpullthetrigger · 22/08/2024 12:25

Cat is a grown woman and made her own decision to put herself at risk of rejection, knowing quite well what the format of the show would be and the risks it could pose.

Re the surprise guest, I also think it will be a baby and my guess would be Sabrina and Steven's, as the most stable couple and also not wanting to waste any time.

Alternatively, maybe we'll see Tom show up with Tash on his arm...

FriendsDrinkBook · 22/08/2024 12:32

@ShillyShallySherbet I can Well believe that. Late Nikki Grahame from bb is a good example of this. People laughed and mocked , but she shouldn't have been allowed on that show , it was cruel to allow it. Also I think his name was Ahmed? He was on an early series of bb and he argued with people constantly and smashed plates , he didn't seem well enough to be on the show and I remember it being uncomfortable viewing.

BookW1tch · 22/08/2024 12:56

@LoveRosesClimbing
I’m autistic and have adhd and am usually pretty good at spotting it in other people. I called Ollie quite early on with adhd and I do think Sam is probably autistic. I know there’s a cliche on mnet with people rushing to say that badly behaved people could be neurodiverse but I do think that with Sam he gave the impression of acting like he believes a human should act and coming across very false and awkward which is exactly what I and a lot of autistic people do/have done. The boring brown eyes comment seemed like one of those weird blunt things I might say and immediately regret because my mind and mouth don’t seem to be able to work together. He seemed really flustered at that party reunion as well. I could be wrong but I thought it was interesting that you picked up on it as well.
I also agree with most of what you said about Cat, the production company should never have let her sign up for the show. You’d have thought they’d put the contestants through rigorous psychological testing to make sure they can cope mentally with it. Terrible what they’ve put her through in the name of entertainment. However I disagree that Freddie is in any way to blame.

ShillyShallySherbet · 22/08/2024 13:06

My theory on Sam is that he wanted to be on the show until the end so he forced connections. He went all guns blazing with Jasmine but she sussed him out pretty quickly so he then went for Nicole as his next easy target and she fell for it. But when they met she knew instantly that it was all an act and there wasn’t a genuine connection there. I can believe they met again off camera and she tried to be tactile with him and he was not interested. His whole “I was being a gentleman” was a load of bull, he didn’t fancy her. She looked petrified in the interview after their first face to face meeting while the runner/sound guy was adjusting her microphone and she said (I think she maybe didn’t realise the cameras were still rolling) something like “what the hell have I done?!”

Nicebloomers · 22/08/2024 13:08

I actually thought Jasmine’s mum had done a bit of an about turn. She seemed very supportive of the marriage and her and Bobby had that nice little chat after. They’d initially said she wasn’t coming but then she turned up dressed for the occasion and seemed appropriately emotional at the vows. I know she seems like a battle axe but she’s a strong woman who has clearly raised another strong woman so she can’t be all bad. Plus she lives far far away lol Bobbys entourage all seemed solid blokes too.

I couldn’t believe Tom assuring Maria’s mother that he’d look after her and then dumping her 20 minutes later. I agree that they should have got into these things more in the pods. He was swaying about all over the place during the vows. I wonder if he’ll try making moves on Tasha now?

Cant wait for the reunion.

Parrotseatthemall · 22/08/2024 13:19

If they were paid their fee on attending the wedding it's all the contract they signed up for. I think Cat's main comment was she felt embarrassed and humiliated and quite telling, Freddy (like Demi) said he loved her but needed more time as a couple to take the plunge, she just reacted in an bitter way towards him. I understand her being adopted will most likely make her take rejection hard, but that's not Freddy's fault. She'd belittled him during the process I think so money and pre-nup aside, he was right to have doubts about taking the plunge

FriendsDrinkBook · 22/08/2024 13:21

@BookW1tch I'm autistic too (poss adhd also) and spotted Ollie as having adhd when they were shopping for dinner party ingredients and also when he was uncomfortable having his feelings/relationship discussed in Greece.

Sam set off my radar in a different way , he seemed horribly manipulative , obviously this doesn't mean he's not autistic though. You can obviously be both!

Autistic people never come off well on reality TV. Zach on the traitors was taken completely the wrong way and I'm pretty sure he's on the spectrum.

Parrotseatthemall · 22/08/2024 14:08

Agree re Sam he may well be ND (as may I) but this show wasn't for him either unfortunately

Parrotseatthemall · 22/08/2024 14:10

Ollie in Greece was definitely feeling overloaded by the process (and being interrogated by Jasmine, who had had a few sherbets)

LoveRosesClimbing · 22/08/2024 14:11

Agree re the social challenges of reality TV for contestants with ND in general. But seeing Sophie who is an MUA with autism win her season of Glow Uo was a complete joy. It’s possible for TV not to exploit people. Tho most of the time it is like that.

SurpriseOzzy · 22/08/2024 14:13

FriendsDrinkBook · 22/08/2024 12:32

@ShillyShallySherbet I can Well believe that. Late Nikki Grahame from bb is a good example of this. People laughed and mocked , but she shouldn't have been allowed on that show , it was cruel to allow it. Also I think his name was Ahmed? He was on an early series of bb and he argued with people constantly and smashed plates , he didn't seem well enough to be on the show and I remember it being uncomfortable viewing.

I agree Cat is really unwell and needs so much support to get better, her parents actually seem at a loss. You can see they’ve devoted their lives to her but her trauma from being adopted is deeply embedded.

LoveRosesClimbing · 22/08/2024 14:27

And of course a show all about finding permanent love and the security of marriage might really, really appeal to contestants who haven’t felt that love and security before- whether through traumatic rejection or rejection due to their ND. This is such an obvious risk. It’s not OK for TV to exploit people’s trauma like that. Reality tv is several decades old Love Island contestants have died by suicide since then, as well as poor Nikki Grahame being so incredibly ill. The TV industry has said it would be improving support for contestants.

StoneColdAlibi · 22/08/2024 15:18

LoveRosesClimbing · 22/08/2024 14:27

And of course a show all about finding permanent love and the security of marriage might really, really appeal to contestants who haven’t felt that love and security before- whether through traumatic rejection or rejection due to their ND. This is such an obvious risk. It’s not OK for TV to exploit people’s trauma like that. Reality tv is several decades old Love Island contestants have died by suicide since then, as well as poor Nikki Grahame being so incredibly ill. The TV industry has said it would be improving support for contestants.

Edited

While I do agree with your points in the main, Nikki was very ill years prior to Big Brother, the two were not related.
She always had nothing but positive things to say about her experience and said on many occasions it was the best thing she'd done in her short life.

Parrotseatthemall · 22/08/2024 15:21

Love roses...I think you could have a point for sure. I could easily also have been sucked in 30 years ago. A big wodge of money as an incentive hopefully would soften the blow, along with the personal acknowledgement of being ND. Many people in the public eye have shown evidence of mental health issues in retrospect...I'm thinking about Robbie Williams for one. Talented and vulnerable, still has to live his life authentically. If he'd taken the path of least resistance he maybe on an Aldi check out near you instead of where he is now. Would he be happier?

Twonewcats · 22/08/2024 15:32

I wish they'd written down their decisions so that they couldn't change their minds at the altar. Also, when some of them said no, why didn't we get to hear what their partner was going to say?

Parrotseatthemall · 22/08/2024 15:52

It's all about manipulating contestants and viewers..for money. I subscribed to Netflix for a month to watch Emily in Paris and this became part of the deal..there is always a choice to take part, subscribe and watch (and critique) the people who take part in any social experiment/experience are usually paid and take their chance to shine and progress or crash and burn or anything in-between. If you feel bad about watching, don't pay. If you don't want to be critiqued, don't take part (and take the fee)

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