The Nevermets Channel 4

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Anyone else watching? I'm genuinely not sure what I think about what I've just watched 🤷🏻‍♀️ Would love to chew it over with others

And why does she want to live in the UK?
She said she applied before and got rejected.

I couldn't understand why she would be interested in that boy, sweet though he was. He was the opposite of a go-getter! He didn't even seem to have a Saturday job. How did she think they would live if they married? He hadn't finished his education and there was no sign he was going to do really well in life. She was doing well and had her own home.

What was her interest in him? It didn't make any sense.

And why would her family think he was a good match when he brought nothing to the table?

Exactly. Her visa got rejected initially due to her financial situation apparently. Although she seems to be doing well for herself. And the family are OK but not wealthy

Yeah, I don't understand how a 26-year-old woman with a job and a house is attracted to a 17-year-old boy who hasn't even finished his education. Why is he 'the one' FGS? It doesn't make any sense at all. Yes, he's a sweet boy, but he's nowhere near mature enough for marriage, yet she's hellbent on it. The whole thing is creepy and anyone who doesn't think it is, switch it around in your head so Jay is a 17-year-old girl and Veena is a 26-year-old man. Now do you think it's creepy?

To be honest I thought Jay was the more mature of the two .....

I’m fully aware. But that money can be gifted as a sum.

Veena's visa application had already been rejected on financial grounds so I'm not sure that the family could show enough funds (the equivalent of £38k a year) for 5 years. I really think they don't understand the visa rules and that they couldn't live together in the UK even if they wanted to.

I think that Veena assumes a marriage is all she needs to qualify to live in the UK. Jay probably hasn't looked into it at all. In fact, the same applies to all these couples. How do they think it works I wonder?

I still can't understand how Dawn French says that Jay and Veena spent the night in separate rooms due to the country's laws re the age of consent - yet this didn't seem to raise any alarm bells with production or C4.

Had DF or C4 made any comment re the grooming angle?

I think the 27 Yr old Veena, lives in a different culture, much more innocent for women.

Her family were overwhelming, they didn't even give him a chance to rest after the long journey. I know it is cultural, to introduce as much as the family as they can.

But, he's a boy nor a man, and most men would run a mile.

It's not grooming, it's totally different expectations of the meeting. He knew how old she was, and the other way round.

He just came to see her, at C4's expense. She wanted to see him, and further the relationship. Her family want her married off, and are pressurising her.

All very odd

Possibly. Though we don’t know what visa she tried to get in on the first time round. She may not have qualified for skilled worker.

You ‘only’ need the money for the first 2.5 years. You then renew the visa for the second 2.5 years - in theory both people would be working then, if it was, for example, a marriage visa.

Of course it is.
They started intensely chatting when he was 15. 15.
She didn't know how old he was (i think he said he was 19) until she saw a FB post wishing him happy 16th bday.
She broke off contact, but couldn't stay away. Knowing his age now, she couldn't stay away and professed her love for him.

He's still a young boy, ffs.

I cannot understand your justification that they each knew how old the other was - wtf? So it's OK because she knew he was 15? It's OK because he knew she's waaaay older than him? It makes zero sense or justification.

Again, as previous posters have said, think about if this had been a 15yo schoolboy and a grown man.

The problem is these people all think they have fallen in love. You can’t fall in love with someone you have never met.

They have just fallen in love with the idea of what the parson is like, which they’ve created in their head. Once they actually meet the person for real, reality hits home.

Does anybody know why they ended up in a hotel and we never saw Veena’s family again?

I think it's because he was flying out of Delhi and she also wanted to take him there to visit anyway so they stayed there for a few nights before going off to the airport.

This programme is all sorts of weird. I'm watching but feeling a bit complicit for doing so! Lots of cringe factor. Some vulnerable people making poor choices for our viewing pleasure and no doubt some things are scripted/contrived.
Veena is too old for Jay, she seems nice but where is her judgement? Jay is sweet but needs to mature and experience the world. Veena's family are inappropriate but may have been encouraged by the TV team, of course.
I feel sorry for Sarah. He's not right for her, how would it ever work? He's childish and creepy and so are his seedy pals.
Dumebi - please ditch the playboy idiot, he's disrepectful.

I must be the only one who thinks Veena is unhinged 😂 at the start she said she didn't want to follow her families advice/cultural tradition of marriage etc but very quickly started to talk about it A LOT. Jay must have been terrified

I agree! She's almost obsessed with him/the idea of him

I agree. Making Jay say 'bye brother in law' because he didn't know what he was saying and taking him to browse wedding bangles when there's so much else to see in Delhi. Then crying when he said they need to meet more times before thinking about marriage.

Just watched episode 3. Actually started it a couple of days ago but found the cringe too strong so had to keep taking breaks.

I did cry at the scene where Jay and Veena parted and I'm glad that Sarah and Jgoy started getting on better again. Even bigger age gap relationship coming up in the next instalment. That's the thing with TV nowadays. They think they have to get more and more extreme to get viewers. I'd be happy with a soppy everyday love story.

I'm wondering how many of the people involved are neurodivergent, which, if they are, puts another spin on the duty of care Channel 4 have. I do wonder how many of the relationships would've fizzled out without channel 4's involvement. I assume they pay for the flights etc.

You absolutely can, but I do agree that unless you both present yourself honestly, there will be issues.

I’m in an LDR, which is why this show interests me. I shouldn’t be astounded by how ignorant of each other the couples on the show seem to be, but I am. I definitely think LDR relationships attract people who have issues, because of the distance, but that doesn’t mean to say all people who end up in one are like this.

I’ve met mine multiple times. We aren’t young. We have a decent plan in place.

@Twonewcats
I thought he was 19, and they'd started communicating when he was 17.

However, obviously they have common interests or they both cut off contact.

One of the other posters also mentioned that they might be neuro-diverse.

Hence, she hasn't met any Indian men who quite get her. And seems to be swaying easily to her family's pressure. Having said that he should have stayed a hotel.

The other thing if they were both 10 years older, the age difference might matter so much. Not all young people have lots of relationships or experience, so many are naive.

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