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Ulysees · 2024-03-14T14:58:42+00:00

New thread in case there isn't one?

Meredusoleil · 01/03/2025 08:45

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 28/02/2025 23:39

Agree about using a psychotherapist for some of the families. I remember a makeover type show on BBC3 years ago, all based around finances. The woman would go through the practical things, like what they were spending money on, and the man (psychotherapist?) would go through the ‘why’. It was so good. The trauma, the breakdowns, the homelessness, you could see exactly why these people were in a financial mess, and you could see what they needed to work on to get themselves out of it too.

So going back to this most recent family, did anyone notice this wooden thing in the sitting room? I saw it at the end but no one spoke about it. They just showed the slats being turned to form a wall.

Yes I spotted it. Thought it was like a partial privacy screen?

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 01/03/2025 08:51

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 28/02/2025 23:39

Agree about using a psychotherapist for some of the families. I remember a makeover type show on BBC3 years ago, all based around finances. The woman would go through the practical things, like what they were spending money on, and the man (psychotherapist?) would go through the ‘why’. It was so good. The trauma, the breakdowns, the homelessness, you could see exactly why these people were in a financial mess, and you could see what they needed to work on to get themselves out of it too.

So going back to this most recent family, did anyone notice this wooden thing in the sitting room? I saw it at the end but no one spoke about it. They just showed the slats being turned to form a wall.

Yes, they spoke about it, it's just a room divider.

I didn't pick up on anything that different this week, I enjoyed it.

mixedpeel · 01/03/2025 09:18

Ulysees · 24/02/2025 12:02

Thing is when she mocked the dessert spoon I thought that was daft. We have dessert spoons and soup spoons and we aren't posh.

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I nearly started a thread about this, because they used that clip in the trailers and at the beginning of each episode.

I mean, what does everyone else call them then?!! We’re not posh either, but that’s Just What They Are. However, whoever selected that clip must presumably call them something else too, otherwise why choose to show it a gazillion times?

PenniesButton · 01/03/2025 10:11

Surely you call them Big Spoons and Little Spoons, no?!

TickingAlongNicely · 01/03/2025 10:14

I do remember a MN discussion where lots insisted they were called tablespoons

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 01/03/2025 10:18

TickingAlongNicely · 01/03/2025 10:14

I do remember a MN discussion where lots insisted they were called tablespoons

Tablespoons are the bigger spoons that you use to serve veg etc with. Dessert spoons are for your dessert /pudding . I judged Stacey hard when she came out with that ,perhaps she eats with her fingers 😉

TitsInAbsentia · 01/03/2025 10:30

RaraRachael · 01/03/2025 07:09

I imagine it was full of big flouncy curtains with pelmets and "swags and tails" with those half and half wallpaper styles.
Hideous but I remember having those in my 90s house 🤣

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It was all sorts but LOTS of patterned carpet and wallpaper as I remember 😂
I loved the occasions where people said no we aren't moving now!

TheAverageJoanne · 01/03/2025 10:46

RaraRachael · 01/03/2025 07:09

I imagine it was full of big flouncy curtains with pelmets and "swags and tails" with those half and half wallpaper styles.
Hideous but I remember having those in my 90s house 🤣

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Imagine having those with cats ....

suburburban · 01/03/2025 10:46

@LenaLamont

Yes I loved her too and this was a much better approach

LenaLamont · 01/03/2025 10:50

PenniesButton · 01/03/2025 10:11

Surely you call them Big Spoons and Little Spoons, no?!

I know we technically have dessert spoons and soup spoons (from the number in the set) in our everyday cutlery but the difference is so minuscule I struggle to work out which is which.

So we have Spoons and Teaspoons.

RaraRachael · 01/03/2025 11:00

We have pudding spoons, soup spoons and teaspoons.

We 're Scottish so have pudding rather than dessert 😃

Thornybush · 01/03/2025 16:29

Just catching up now. Love the show.I can't believe the amount of mugs the lady with the triplets had!

CocoPlum · 01/03/2025 17:07

LaPalmaLlama · 26/02/2025 11:25

Yeah- but I have to admit those storage cube things are the absolute dog’s for keeping toy clutter under control. I did think it was weird they didn’t tell people to turn the electricity off before attempting to clean their extractor fan. I know it should be obvious but still……

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They did put a message on the screen as he was doing it to tell them to turn it off.

CurbsideProphet · 02/03/2025 08:16

I'm very on the fence about this episode. All those clothes going back in the loft was such a shame. However I do hope that getting engaged and having that family party (which she said she really wanted) might make her keep going with not buying tons of clothes etc. And maybe she has started therapy for the reasons why she kept buying clothes / make up / shoes.
The whole house looked redecorated, so it just couldn't have all been done in a few days. But I do appreciate they need to pretend it has all been done in 7 days to keep to the format.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 02/03/2025 12:40

That woman just didn’t really engage with the process. What’s the point? There were probably many people who applied to go on but didn’t get chosen, and there she is throwing very little away. The two young kids and the dad were better at it than she was.

RaraRachael · 02/03/2025 15:07

I also didn't think she was that interested in the process. Didn't Stacey say at the start that because this family had more stuff than normal, instead of reducing by 50%, theirs would have to be more like 80%?
That obviously didn't hapoen.

Hotdayinjuly · 02/03/2025 16:58

Her house will be back in the same state with 6 months if it is not already. She definitely needs help to work out why she’s addicted to Vinted.

PenniesButton · 02/03/2025 17:07

RaraRachael · 02/03/2025 15:07

I also didn't think she was that interested in the process. Didn't Stacey say at the start that because this family had more stuff than normal, instead of reducing by 50%, theirs would have to be more like 80%?
That obviously didn't hapoen.

Yes and they ended on 40! Such a wasted opportunity.

mixedpeel · 02/03/2025 17:27

They really, really needed Dilly in this one. I feel like she would have had more chance of getting through to a greater extent.

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 02/03/2025 18:05

RaraRachael · 02/03/2025 15:07

I also didn't think she was that interested in the process. Didn't Stacey say at the start that because this family had more stuff than normal, instead of reducing by 50%, theirs would have to be more like 80%?
That obviously didn't hapoen.

Yes and as they moved back in Stacey's voiceover said they only got rid of 40%

BigBoysDontCry · 04/03/2025 16:07

LenaLamont · 01/03/2025 10:50

I know we technically have dessert spoons and soup spoons (from the number in the set) in our everyday cutlery but the difference is so minuscule I struggle to work out which is which.

So we have Spoons and Teaspoons.

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We have dessert (or more usually cereal) spoons and soup spoons. I just cannot use the round (soup) spoons for anything other than soup. Younger DS calls the dessert ones "egg" spoons because of the shape. Then we have tea spoons and serving spoons.

We are a mainly neurodivergent household so are quite specific about cutlery. No-one ever uses the larger forks and instead we all use the smaller forks, presumably designed for starters. I only use the big ones for stirring pasta etc so they do have a use.

B2210 · 04/03/2025 16:24

Putthefuckingthingsaway · 26/02/2025 14:07

Oh bless you and your poor Mum.

I think I’m so angry about the situation even now and my parents have both passed because I had such a lovely hardworking Dad and my Mother was such a difficult person to live with - a total narcissist who would denounce women who kept nice houses as ‘houseproud’ as a pejorative term. Her life could’ve been so different if she’d only counted her blessings and embraced what she had. She would only befriend people in lower socio economic circumstances as I think it made her feel superior about her own situation but it was a difficult upbringing. Middle class neglect is not really talked about, but I was aware even in Primary School that it wasn’t normal for a parent not to ensure that their children were not freshly dressed or clean. I did not have a frequent bedding change for example and there was no concept of ‘one on, one in the wash’. In my later years I collected my School records and it was clear that Teachers had noticed that all was not well at home which again made me quite sad. My Mother would not have reacted well to intervention - she would have removed me from the school rather than address the issues. Going to other people’s lovely homes with lovely welcoming mothers made me quite sad but I am thankful that I experienced those houses so I could model what they felt like as I got older and had my own space. Naturally my Mother declared my lovely home as ‘cold and soulless’ probably because I didn’t think it was necessary to keep the pledge in the fruit bowl… She used to leave out the hoover and cleaning products so people would think she was just about to clean. It was a farce really - you could see the house hadn’t been cleaned for many, many months.

One of my proudest moments was my DD texting me in her first week that she was cleaning her room then showing other people at Uni how to make some basic dishes and use the washing machine. At that point I knew I had broken the cycle. It takes a lot for some people to get through the other side of a difficult upbringing so I hope you are ok now too and that your Mum has maybe got some help dealing with her issues.

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Just in response to your post, you’ve also broken the cycle there by having a good relationship with your daughter, well done x

Thisisthewayz · 04/03/2025 20:06

Hooray!! Dilly is back!!

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 04/03/2025 20:25

The older girl isn't helping the situation

CaptBirdsEar · 04/03/2025 20:48

Dust catcher dried flowers, chicken wire etc horrid