Sister Wives

[crochetmonkey74]

Is anyone watching? No one I know in real life watches so I have no one to talk about it with- I'm on the current series on TLC when Kody is going all crazy paranoid about Covid

@Sookie53

Love this thread! I watched Sister Wives from the beginning but don't have Sky anymore so rely on Facebook and now this thread

Do any of you remember when Robyn had her first baby and she told Meri that she wanted to be a surrogate for her? And then Kody said no to anymore children to Meri but carried on having them with Robyn! I can't imagine how Meri must have felt seeing Robyn produce more babies.

Awful man.

I remember Meri turning down the offer but tbh it was ages ago so probably not remembered correctly.

Apparently Christine is the daughter of a well known leader of the church , I remember reading that.

I don't think they've been part of a formal church for years,have they? They broke away as they didn't believe the rules such as no gay relationships etc ( good job considering Mariah is gay!) Kody has been prancing around flicking his hair and acting like leader of their new church

I wonder how Robyn would feel and behave if Kody brought in a new wife now Christine has left? I bet a new wife would get far more of Kody's focus and Robyn would no longer be the youngest, prettiest favourite!

I think Robun is in for a shock! It’s easy to be the pretty, sexy fun one when there’s frumpy grumpy wives to be compared against and it’s easy to put your ‘best face’ on 1 night out of 4 but when she becomes the only wife I think it will be tough to keep up the facade.
Kody’s MO seems to be when he has issues with a wife just to go round to see another one / he won’t be able to do that when it’s just him and Robyn- they will have to confront the issues!

I feel sorry for Meri as she help raise all the other women's children and now the family is fragmenting and they naturally gravitate towards their bio mum's. She was even pressured into breastfeeding one of Jenelle's kids. She has been part of this huge family and wasn't prioritised for fertility treatment as Kodi could have kids with the other wives. Now if she separates from Kodi she loses them all. I remember Christine saying that she didn't want to be second wife as the transition from single wife to poly is hardest. I think that shows in Meri and Jenelle's history. Lots of jealousy. I think he only married Christine for her status as daughter of church leaders.

Kodi expected his adult children to not have any life outside the home for a year just so they could occasionally meet up. Just kick them out and never see them again What a tool.

Been watching from the beginning too. I remember when Meri was the favourite and she claimed she pointed Kody in the direction of Robin to begin with.

I remember Janelle saying he deserved a "trophy wife"

Only Christine was hesitant and reluctant to invite her in.

It's been a fascinating show to watch. I can't believe how much Meri earns! For selling a few leggings? That's crazy.

Also, Who remembers "my sister wives closet?" That was a rather pathetic endeavour driven by Robin.

I winder why they didn’t have a swimming pool in vegas if the pond is so central to their disagreements over their land.

@NYnewstart

I winder why they didn’t have a swimming pool in vegas if the pond is so central to their disagreements over their land.

I think the pond is an issue because they want everything separate ( so it doesn't make a sale difficult later on when they all leave Kody ) They don't actually share anything apart from their husband and have everything on their own names. They all liked the Vegas houses because there were strict boundaries.

I've caught up with the last series including the one to one interviews on you tube. There's an interesting you tube site called 'without a crystal ball' who does episodes about their finances etc. It's an eye opener

Oooo thanks,will look at that later!

I watched the one to one interviews last night, what the hell was Meri meant to have done to make Kody feel so unsafe if it wasn't the catfishing that finished things off?

@freshcarnation

I've caught up with the last series including the one to one interviews on you tube. There's an interesting you tube site called 'without a crystal ball' who does episodes about their finances etc. It's an eye opener

I've watched a few of her videos, I agree when she says it's a cult, if this is all they have known then I'm so pleased to Christine getting out! She has now left the church which means she can hopefully in future have a relationship with just one person and see how much better, also I've always thought, the man in these marriages are automatically in control , as its not equal so its not surprising he controls the wives. If it was equal the wives would be able to get more husbands. Personally I see it as man's way of controlling women through religion!

It looks like he used withholding sex as a way of controlling them he hasn't been intimate with meri for 10 years she had catfishing 6 or 7 years ago, that's 3 or 4 years of withholding set from her and he wonders why she looked for connections else where. He also stopped with christine, I wish meri would leave they have the cult thinking of not getting into heaven without the relationships or lack of relationship in meri case to deal with. So sad

I think some people here are being quite hard on Robyn. What I see is someone who is in a different stage of life and relationship than the other wives.

I have seen the second one-one program now.

It's been mentioned before that Christine was the buffer between Meri and Janelle. In the most recent one to one, Christine discussed that she was the family peacemaker but became overwhelmed by putting everyone else first and told Kody she couldn't do it anymore. He was pissed off about her changing the dynamic.

When I remember back to the first season I recall Meri saying she thought it was time for a new wife to enter the family and she 'found' Robyn if I recall. It makes sense that Robyn was literally brought in to reset the dynamic and smooth ruffled feathers. Therefore she was pretty much hand picked and coached to that effect. Kody has emphasised himself his requirement for wives is very clear - family comes first (aka you must put everyone else first) and however much people sneer at Robyn, that's what I see her trying to do in the way she knows how.

Robyn may well be very different a few more years into the relationship when the kids are a bit older and she's less inclined to deal with crap. It would be interesting to see if Kody sticks around to deal with the issues when the relationship shifts, or will he gravitate towards another wife or throw in the towel altogether and move into his own home with his own lake!

@Imworkingonit

I think some people here are being quite hard on Robyn. What I see is someone who is in a different stage of life and relationship than the other wives.

I have seen the second one-one program now.

It's been mentioned before that Christine was the buffer between Meri and Janelle. In the most recent one to one, Christine discussed that she was the family peacemaker but became overwhelmed by putting everyone else first and told Kody she couldn't do it anymore. He was pissed off about her changing the dynamic.

When I remember back to the first season I recall Meri saying she thought it was time for a new wife to enter the family and she 'found' Robyn if I recall. It makes sense that Robyn was literally brought in to reset the dynamic and smooth ruffled feathers. Therefore she was pretty much hand picked and coached to that effect. Kody has emphasised himself his requirement for wives is very clear - family comes first (aka you must put everyone else first) and however much people sneer at Robyn, that's what I see her trying to do in the way she knows how.

Robyn may well be very different a few more years into the relationship when the kids are a bit older and she's less inclined to deal with crap. It would be interesting to see if Kody sticks around to deal with the issues when the relationship shifts, or will he gravitate towards another wife or throw in the towel altogether and move into his own home with his own lake!

You might be right but I really hope stops that weird way she speaks, it's like she's stopping herself speaking. I spend the whole programme yelling "just say it woman!!' in my head at her !

Mrs Pelligrino

I try and make a point of not dragging women down generally, I think there's way too much of that about. I think it's perfectly reasonable to be irritated by how someone speaks though although heck, the person I was 10 years ago would irritate the crap out of me now!

I absolutely love this show all the whole family set up is both dysfunctional and seems like the dream at the same time. Each person has huge personality and they are all lovely in their own way, even Kody (he doesn't deserve the vitriol he gets). But I think the core reason why they are so dysfunctional is because each family unit are at odds with each other as they are at completely different stages of life. Meri is an empty nester- but alone! I can completely understand her trying to find live else where, her situation is horrendous. I think had Kody agreed to ivf then her position and choices would have been far different.

Both Janelle and Christine have older children who are embarking on their own independent lives but still have younger children. They both had a lot in common and their kids grew up together. I think it's sad that they are viewed as a clique rather than understanding they have a lot in common. I think Christine did the right thing by leaving- Kody made the wrong call by not going to Isobel's back surgery. I think also his distance from her and wanting a non intimate marriage is far easier for him when he can get his emotional and physical needs met elsewhere.

Robyn I do empathise with, she's in a relationship that the others were 20 years ago, she has little kids and her elder ones are trying to fit into the whole family structure. But as they didn't grow up with their peers I m sure that's really challenging.

As for Kody I think he has a whole family view rather than addressing the issues in each individual family. The whole family takes president over everything. I believe he thinks this is the right choice for the family but as a result he has let some of his children and wives down. You can see he loves his family, he wants them to live under the same roof- but at the same time he doesn't address the issues in each household. I. E he thinks that the situation with Meri is ok, she cheated he won't divorce her so therefore he is looking after her. But the reality is far more complex. Meri was lonely she was going through empty nest alone, already challenging relationships with other wives- I bet it was so painful to see the other wives with larger families. Rather than address the issues of why Meri looked elsewhere he focussed on the action. Meri seems content with her lot and she has alone come out of a really dark place (with the support of excellent friends) but I do feel she is missing a chance at happiness. But that's her call.

I invest far too much in this!

The catfishing wasn't why he and Meri split up- they didn't say exactly why it was on the one to one interviews.

Kody deserves ALL the vitriol he gets,I can't think of one redeeming feature that man has. I'm sure his kids have grown up to be the lovely people they seem to be in spite of him not because of him.

Kody seems to use withdrawal of affection to control his wives behaviour, bad mouths the mothers to to the children (Teflon queen), changes the rules to suit himself (wanting Janelle's kids thrown out at 18, despite that never being their norm), puts his own needs ahead of his wives and children's welfare (refusal to go with his daughter for her operation, attitude to Janelle's boys), is combative (the whole either with me or against me thing).
Now I'm sure he must have some charm because he's managed to keep 4 intelligent, articulate, lovely women determined to make the relationships work, but I'll be honest, I can't see what he's bringing to the table.

Now I'm sure he must have some charm because he's managed to keep 4 intelligent, articulate, lovely women determined to make the relationships work, but I'll be honest, I can't see what he's bringing to the table

I think that's the religion that makes them want to stay rather than him.

I've just started watching and am fascinated by it , I'm only on season three and they are about to move into their new homes in vegas

Just to let you know that if you have skyQ you might be able to sign up to discovery+ for free for a year through. It's one of the vip rewards. Have just signed up so I can watch ahead

I've just watched the last of the one on one interviews. I found it so disjointed and awkwardly edited. Why did the interviewer not challenge Kody and Christine about what they had said about each other?
Also found Robyn so irritating with her constant tearing up.
I wonder with Meri that the fact she doesn't leave is that she only has Mariah who understandably has her own life and partner whereas Christine has children living with her plus her other married children and it's easier to move and be among them?
Janelle seems very content to continue living plural life. She likes her independence, has children at home and to visit.
Robyn and her children will see the most difference and live a different plural life to her sister wives. Her youngest children will not live the life their siblings did.
Wonder how financially Christine untangles herself? Her house is hers To sell I think. Should she have a share of the land too?
I hope there is another series to see how it evolves.

I saw it today too. Kody saying he didn't bear grudges . He hasn't forgiven Meri for whatever it is he's holding against her in how long?

I think that conversation between Christine and Kody went exactly how she said it did!

I think he got a shiny new wife and stopped making any kind of effort with Christine - no wonder she felt jealousy and hasn't really become friends with Robyn. Not Robyn's fault - I think she really has bought in to the plural 'dream', but I suppose it's easier to do that when you are clearly the favoured wife!