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CanofCant · 01/10/2021 09:54

Just starting this. Judging from the trailers I will be crying and shouting at the telly in frustration before long.

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hamstersarse · 24/10/2021 19:44

I just finished watching this and as a Dv survivor I found it extremely triggering. And I truly thought I was healed.

Thefaceofboe · 24/10/2021 20:31

Biggest scumbag of all was Nate

What did Nate do? Did I miss something? I have been watching it during night feeds so may have not paid full attention Grin

MilkyButts · 24/10/2021 20:34

Is there any nudity, anything sexual or any kind of sexual abuse in it?

I'd like to watch it but I have to avoid that sort of thing

Mistressofnone · 24/10/2021 20:52

@MilkyButts there isn't nudity and I can only think of one sex scene but it showed them initiating and then cut to the next morning.

I think they were careful to show the emotional side of domestic abuse without venturing into physical violence.

MrsRobbieHart · 24/10/2021 21:02

@Thefaceofboe

Biggest scumbag of all was Nate

What did Nate do? Did I miss something? I have been watching it during night feeds so may have not paid full attention Grin

He preyed on Alex as soon as he realised she was vulnerable, giving her a car, playing the classic “Mr nice” and then being relentless in continuing to ask her out despite her repeatedly saying no. Engineering the whole “oops, I’m topless in the landing just as we’re both about to go to bed” situation. And then the horrible way he treated her, an abuse victim, who was not his girlfriend when she slept with her ex. A friend, an actual friend who cared about her would not have been so angry about that, and then he made her homeless again as a punishment for it. Oh and don’t forget his “you can keep the car” just to remind her that it wasn’t hers and how nice he was for letting her keep it.
Curledpup · 24/10/2021 21:10

I suppose it’s true about Nate. I hadn’t really seen that properly. She did well to hold her nerve and not get involved with him.

Curledpup · 24/10/2021 21:10

Although not sure he was biggest scumbag of all? Just yet another scumbag

MrsRobbieHart · 24/10/2021 21:43

For me he was worse than the rest because he was pretending to be a friend and offer “no strings attached” help, when she was so desperate he knew she had no other options. Whereas at least with Sean she knew he wanted her to be with him.

ChateauMargaux · 26/10/2021 20:09

@MilkyButts.. difficult to say from another person's perspective but I was pleasantly surprised that there wasn't any portrayal of sexual abuse and what little sex there was.. (as someone else explained, they do show initiation of sex and then the following morning).. was OK. It didn't feel like gratuitous sex for entertainment which I find very difficult to watch especially when the topic is supposed to be a portrayal of real life abuse.

BaconAndAvocado · 27/10/2021 18:31

I absolutely loved this series.
Margaret Qualley was utterly believable and heartbreaking. And, my God, the resilience!

It was well-written, unpredictable and didn't pander to stereotypes.

A series that will stay with me for a long time.

LoveFall · 27/10/2021 19:00

I don't get the criticism of Andy McDowell. That was a difficult part to play and it required her to show a big range of emotions and behaviour. I thought she did a great job.

And the apple fell right next to the tree!

user64323 · 27/10/2021 21:06

I really loved it and found it unexpectedly triggering and was very tearful a few days after finishing it. There was a lot of similarities with my own experiences, but the difference is this happened to me in England under a Labour government.

I have seen a lot of comments elsewhere that

user64323 · 27/10/2021 21:10

Oops, posted too soon. I've seen a lot of comments that Nate wasn't so bad, but that is the beauty of it. It isn't showing the false stereotype of abuse that TV often does. This false stereotype is what makes it hard for people to understand why it is hard to escape and why people go back, and is also a reason that a lot of people don't even recognise that they are victims.

Abusers aren't always horrible. They have a good side, a vulnerable side, and they are also victims. If they didn't, they wouldn't be able to continue the abuse and most would find it easier to leave them.

user64323 · 27/10/2021 21:10

I meant Sean when I said Nate.

hangryeyes · 27/10/2021 23:05

None of the characters are clear cut, which adds to the reality of it, most of them are both victims and perpetrators in one way or another.
I thought Nate was very cleverly created, on the one hand he was a Sliding Doors moment, if she had noticed him in the flashback to the bar. However although he was “Mr Nice Guy” I thought the way he mentioned his divorce was telling (none of it was his fault) and his good deeds weren’t really as a friend but strings attached. It was also his way of getting revenge for being the geek back in the past.

TokyoSushi · 27/10/2021 23:13

I've only just finished episode 2 but I absolutely love it so checking in.

LoveFall · 28/10/2021 00:33

As an aside, if you enjoy the scenery, you're looking at my home, beautiful British Columbia, Canada. I recognized it immediately in the first ferry scene.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 28/10/2021 02:43

@LoveFall

Beautiful location, a lot like Washington State 💕

LoveFall · 28/10/2021 03:57

Washington State, our lovely neighbours!

50ShadesOfCatholic · 28/10/2021 04:21

Yes, I loved my time in both places. I live in a very green patch of NZ now.

JacquelineCarlyle · 29/10/2021 18:47

Just finished it - thought it was fab and contrary to opinion on here, I thought Andie McDowell was great in it. Her acting was superb and felt sorry for her - she tried to break the cycle for her daughter and whilst she didn't manage it brilliantly, she did the best she could.

I loved that no one was all good or bad - they showed the nuances of people as individuals and with their good and bad characteristics.

BaconAndAvocado · 29/10/2021 19:17

I also thought AMcD was great in it. The way she portrayed bi-polar was excellent.

everythingbackbutyou · 29/10/2021 22:39

@LoveFall, guilty of the same!

batmanladybird · 29/10/2021 22:57

@Magicalwoodlands

It’s hard to watch but what was she thinking with the party … I suppose that’s the point, really.
But she also refused the offer a couple Of times. No you are being so nice letting me stay here. We like the park
batmanladybird · 29/10/2021 22:57

@takeasadsongandmakeitbetter

I couldn't help but binge this... literally stayed up way past my bedtime to keep watching!

Finished it a few days ago and it's been on my mind so much. Think it will stay with me for a long time. I found it so accurate, clever and absolutely heart wrenching in its rawness.

I found it particularly clever how you almost like Sean at times and feel sorry for him, it shows so accurately how men like this charm and trap women (even those who you wouldn't expect it of) and how easy it is for Alex to go back when he was nice because it would be so much easier if he was nice all the time and she could just get on with it despite knowing she could make a better life for herself, she clearly feels responsible and indebted to him.

Definitely hit close to home

Yes I finished today. And can't stop thinking about it