Bringing up baby- part two on NOW!

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Can't wait to see if CV is wearing joggers...

My two questions to CV:

1 - Who is your website sub-editor? Because they need shooting.

2 - Who is your airbrush artist? Because they need a Fellowship of the Royal Academy.

Piffle I felt really sad for the grandmother too - it was just so unnatural. I thought she was bloody rude about the mother of the childminder too - stupid person to ring at 3pm. Mind you that was the least of it. I found it really hard to watch - CV is a dangerous loon.

It gave a glimpse into the wierd world of the sleb tho didn't it, all those size 6 - 8s, not wanting to breastfeed and off out at restaurants/premieres two weeks after birth. I reckon CV has been pandering to them for so long she thinks that's normal.

My 6 week old breastfed, cosleeping, spent most of her day on my chest being cuddled DD1 slept 11-8, at 9 weeks she was going 8-8, she went into her own bed and room at 15 months no problem, I so miss those BFing cosleeping days those poor mums will never get that time back I really pity them.

Now DD2 was a different matter............

it made me cry buckets, I had NO IDEA when I had my baby, luckily I had my Mum around then to help me have a mix of 60s and 70s ideas, my Mum is now no longer here, one reason why it killed me tonight, God, your instinct cries out for what is right, I tried desperately to feed my dd and couldn't. If someone had sat me down and told me I wasn't a failure cos I couldn't breasfeed I would have enjoyed the first few months sooooo much more. I miss my Mum, Rest Her Soul, My Babe is fine (even tho bottle fed) She is bright and in no way malnourished, some of us just can't do the Braest thing, give yourselves a break, they will be fine x x

issues? oh boy has she got issues.

if that woman came anywhere near me just after id had a baby id lamp her.

completely!! after all- you have carried this baby in your body for 9 months, how can they not be allowed to cuddle and want to know their own child? followers of this method should question their motives for having/wanting a child.

Those poor parents are missing out on the most special moments of the first few weeks with a newborn and they don't even know it.

@tcmummy, an insecure attachment essentially based on Bowlby's theory of attachment, which means that the baby learns that their needs won't be met - it can affect the baby's ability to regulate their own emotions, sensitise the stress (ie cortisol response) etc...

I'd recommend Sue Gerhardt's book "Why Love Matters" if you want to know more.

I am getting biobsy results tomorrow from my breast, my mum died in February from breast cancer, I have a 3year old DD I am petrified
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what was she going on about size 6 and 8 mothers cant bf? not if they are instructed not to and pressurised by all around to follow your horrible routine they cant.
and why cant we encourage and support and promote bf without making mothers feel bad if they cant? its way better to bf, but so not the end of the world if you cant - pretty simple really.
(id prob feel differently if i hadnt gotten on with bf i guess. guilt is an insidious emotion)

The TK babies sleep through the night earlier as they soon learn that if they cry no one comes to them. This is so sad.

What about illness, reflux, colic etc do you leave a colicky baby crying as it will manipulate you into picking it up.

Also if you don't check on the crying baby how do you pick up a dirty nappy? Maybe the baby is crying because it's lying in it's own poo for hours? Maybe they get used to that to!

oh bobby, my thoughts will be with you tomorrow.

Thanks I can't imagine what I am going to do if the results are positive

bobby, i'll be thinking of you tomorrow. good luck.

dont imagine it now. no good can come of it. tomorrows here soon enough. try to find peace tonight.
and if the news is bad, come back and post. theres lots of help and support out there.

Bobby, will be thinking of you tomorrow.

well quite mildmannered.

Thanks, it is so f**ing scary, my only babe is 3 years old, she saw my Mum basically die, If the results are bad how do you tell your baby something like that?

sweetheart, you'll be brave if you need to be, and so will she. i hope it won't be necessary.