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Rio and Kate : becoming a step family

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covetingthepreciousthings · 10/02/2020 19:41

Anyone else going to be watching this tonight?

I watched the first one with Rio talking about the grief of losing Rebecca, it was so heartbreaking what the family all went through, I'm so pleased he seems to have found happiness. He seems like a nice guy.

BBC 1 at 9pm tonight.

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Lardlizard · 12/02/2020 12:38

Oh my god ! Making the child
Feel guilty for crying

getyourarseoffthequattro · 12/02/2020 12:39

except she didnt do that at all did she?

AudacityOfHope · 12/02/2020 12:43

I just watched this because of this thread! I actually thought they both came across as genuinely thoughtful about how even little decisions affect the kids. Kate is young for the responsibility she's given herself and she's taking it seriously.

And if Rio was a shit husband the first time then, who knows, maybe he's become a better man 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lardlizard · 12/02/2020 12:55

Quattro I’m not wasting my time saying the same thing over n over so I’ll say it one last time
Then I’m off

it’s not a good idea to tell a child hats crying at their mothers grave, come on, mummy wants you to be happy

That’s going to make the child feel like they have to suppress those emotions and put on a brave face and will also make the child feel bad for letting mummy down by not being happy

This is produces bottling up of feelings, suppressing of emotions and grief
And guilt at letting mummy down by not being happy

getyourarseoffthequattro · 12/02/2020 12:57

lard with respect thats your opinion and nothing more

10FrozenFingers · 12/02/2020 13:01

I feel the need to quote John Cleese.

"dreadful people"

chuffoff · 12/02/2020 13:04

I think a big point of the documentary was that they weren't afraid to admit that they are winging it as I think most family's in the same situation would be. It's much easier to have armchair answers to everything. Of course making a documentary invites judgement but some of the vitriol on this thread seems quite vicious and OTT.

inwood · 12/02/2020 13:12

I thought they came across really well, regardless of the past they are living in the now. The kids were protected and their main focus seemed to be the kids.

lazymum99 · 12/02/2020 14:19

It just seemed to me that she has become the unpaid housekeeper/nanny. He doesn’t seem to do anything. Does he think he’s in a hotel coming down to breakfast and being asked how he wants his eggs. They’ve got the money to employ a proper cook etc

CallofDoodee · 12/02/2020 18:21

I don't know anything about Rio and Kate together really, or what kind of job they are doing bringing up 3 bereaved children.

But Rio going on about how much he loved his wife and misses her etc is a load of absolute bollocks. Prick.

purpleme12 · 12/02/2020 22:42

I thought it was a bit self indulgent to be honest.

And if someone was crying about someone dying I would cuddle them and let them cry. But then that applies to anyone child or not. But a lot of people do say stuff like they would want you to be happy implying don't cry. If I was the one crying this would annoy me

SF1269 · 12/02/2020 23:20

I just watched the documentary, they both came across as quite inarticulate and Rio seemed almost detached from his kids, when his daughter was sobbing at the graveside, he just stood there while Kate comforted his daughter. His explanation to his kids, of why they were taking down the photos of their mum appeared so insensitive and just plain dumb. I really don't like him, he doesn't appear to be the sharpest tool either, I warmed to her a bit, but they definitely played to the cameras, it wasn't a genuine snapshot of their situation.

It broke my heart to see kids who's parents had died in 2008, 11 years ago, break down and sob about their lost parent.

SF1269 · 12/02/2020 23:22

"whose parents"

Womenwotlunch · 13/02/2020 06:37

A poster accused me of being judgemental when I said that I thought that the kids were being exploited,
I agree with that poster , I am being judgemental about young kids being ‘paraded’ on national tv having lost their mother .
I have nothing against Kate she appears to be a lovely , kind woman who loves those kids with all her heart and that’s a wonderful sight to behold. However, I have issues with the fact that the children’s right to a private life ( particularly given what they have been through) is not being respected.

Womenwotlunch · 13/02/2020 06:40

Also, I don’t think that Rio came across well.
He seems unable to cope with the enormity of the situation. I just hope that he didn’t marry Kate because he needed someone to take care of his kids.

Dozer · 13/02/2020 06:43

After repeatedly cheating on his wife it was horrible, and disrespectful to her, of Rio Ferdinand to make a TV show about his grief.. I don’t think DC benefit at all from being discussed in this kind of show.

HeartZone · 13/02/2020 06:51

I think it’s great they are bringing blended families in to the limelight for discussion of how best to do it. As Rio said, there is no guide book.
Once my dad remarried it was along brushed under the carpet, as though my mum had never existed, not one photo and certainly no questions/ discussions.
It’s great that they have counselling, photos, memories and proper family discussions. Good luck to them all. I think Kate is doing a great job and certainly not an easy life for her.

rockingrobin1 · 13/02/2020 07:01

Does Rio in his new "family man" ever address the fact he cheated so much? I've not watched either documentary, just think it's PR as he's fame hungry.

Caramel78 · 13/02/2020 07:17

Not a fan of Rio at all.
I think Kate came across well though. The kids all seem to really like her and are glad she came into their lives. I’m thinking she probably had £ signs in her eyes when she met him but ended up genuinely falling in love with him and the kids .

Bluerussian · 13/02/2020 09:19

Was Rio continually unfaithful to his first wife? I know there was a rumour (looked it up because I'm not familiar with the man), but he strenuously denied it.

I did watch the entire programme in the end. Can't say I found it all that interesting and felt rather embarrassed in some ways. I think the group of parents and step-parents which they joined was good and helpful and more people could open up about their struggles as a step - but not on television. We can read about them, we don't have to see and hear them.

I've no idea if Rio and Kate will go the distance, only time will tell. I still think she was bonkers to take on three schoolchildren when she was 27 but she's done it and from the programme, it seems she is doing her best.

Caramel78 · 13/02/2020 09:26

Rio is worth 60 million. Kate is from a single parent background and has said they hardly had any money until she went on Towie. I’m sure Rio’s money has a lot to do with it as she’ll be able to ensure her and her mum are financially very comfortable now.
To be fair to her though, I also think she genuinely really cares about the kids and wants to be there for them

getyourarseoffthequattro · 13/02/2020 09:29

Rio is worth 60 million. Kate is from a single parent background and has said they hardly had any money until she went on Towie. I’m sure Rio’s money has a lot to do with it as she’ll be able to ensure her and her mum are financially very comfortable now

because she never managed to earn any money on her own right? oh wait! she did Hmm

Caramel78 · 13/02/2020 09:32

@getyourselfoffquattro well obviously! They only get paid £250 per episode on TOWIE and I doubt she would have gotten all the same opportunities such as her book and her OK magazine interviews etc if she wasn’t with Rio. The TOWIE money would have dried up soon enough too as she wasn’t one of the main characters

getyourarseoffthequattro · 13/02/2020 09:43

@caramel78 - ah yes because she never did anything outside Towie either.

God, why do we have so little respect for other women.

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