Rio and Kate : becoming a step family

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Anyone else going to be watching this tonight?

I watched the first one with Rio talking about the grief of losing Rebecca, it was so heartbreaking what the family all went through, I'm so pleased he seems to have found happiness. He seems like a nice guy.

BBC 1 at 9pm tonight.

It's completely beyond me why any young woman would move in with a man who had three children, young children still at home and likely to be for a long time. I suppose the next thing will be her having a child

i did it, well dss didnt live with dp at the time though he has lived with us for a couple of years. honestly why did i do it? because i loved dp, i loved dss and i was naive about how hard it could be.

Would i do it again? not a cat in hells chance but i have massive respect for women who do because its not easy.

Thank you getyourarseoff.

The good news is after lots of difficult years, my step-son and I now have a great relationship, talk a lot, and I think his dad now feels a bit excluded, when for a lot of years I was always the “outsider”

I sat next to them on a plane once. I had no clue who they were although I guessed Rio was some kind of celeb because people were looking at him and whispering and saying hello to him as we boarded. Kate kept calling his name loudly which was quite irritating. ‘Rio’, ‘Rio’, ‘Rio’, every twenty seconds. Since I had heard his name (repeatedly), I googled them afterwards.

She was mildly annoying calling his name constantly but she was really very good with the kids. He was very quiet. She definitely came across as more into him than he was to her. They were both great with the kids, very attentive.

I hadn’t realised they were her boyfriend’s children at that point and complimented her on having such well behaved children when we disembarked.

I married a widower with small children (at the time)

I haven't read the whole thread or watched the second documentary (saw the first )and I don't have a particular opinion on either of them as people .

I can't watch this programme as I saw a snippet on a ad of her saying something along the lines of it's meant to be my home but Rebekah still lives here ... something like that anyway .

It reminded me of all the horrors of the first few years of our relationship . I honestly felt like I was the other woman , the second hand rose , the booby prize .etc , I was doing all the hard work of raising a family I didn't create and all the while the deceased wife had been sainted as the perfect wife/mum/person .

But try to explain your feeling and your the shit !

Most that has passed now as the years have gone on but fucking hell , it was tough .

I could still cry about it all made me feel , which is why I can't watch someone else going through it .

Love them or hate them , thank yourself lucky you don't walk in their shoes .

It makes me heave the way he played the grieving widower ! and heave all over again at how many people fell for it. I haven't seen the programme, but it must be heartbreaking for Rebecca's family to see her kids, their grandkids, nieces and nephews, being filmed sobbing at their mums graveside. He is horrible to allow this.

Love them or hate them , thank yourself lucky you don't walk in their shoes

Exactly this.

Got to laugh when every single time I suggest on here that certain posters are working on behalf of Ferdinand’s publicity machine/ PR in order to alter the mood on internet forums or twitter they magically get deleted for ridiculous reasons..

Watch this one disappear too 😂

magic your comments are being deleted because of the personal attacks you post within them, not because you're (wrongly) accusing people of working on behalf of Rio Ferdinand.

I wish i was paid to argue on the internet with aggressive strangers, it'd make a change from the day job.

Did seem like a lot of self obsessed navel gazing to me. I was bored and stopped watching. I think they are very interested in themselves and think that the rest of us are too. I'm not sure how they convinced someone to make and broadcast this programme.

‘Aggressive strangers’? When have I been aggressive towards anyone.

Explain please.

In most of your posts magic

Wow just watched this. I can't say I think much of him and never really been a fan of Kate but hats off to her for taking it on. I must say his dad sounded like he was awful to her and did sense she didn't seem happy to be honest. Must be awful living in another women's shadow 😞

I saw the original documentary and I thought it was very moving. Both of them are showing a lot of insight and are very caring.

getyourarseoffthequattro Tue 11-Feb-20 11:12:08
his mum died of cancer 2 years after his wife russian it also mentioned the impact of her death on them all too. Really sad.
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Very sad indeed. Thanks for the info, getyour. I really know little about him and have never watched TOWIE but this thread intrigued me.

I found it an interesting watch. It might encourage more parents to seek counselling for bereaved children. Thinking about dh he lost his mum when he was 10, his dad remarried 16 months later and dh stepmum is not very maternal. I think my dh was left to get on with it and probably hasn't really confronted his grief, 25 years later. Rio and Kate's children will be fine, they are being brought up in a happy loving home with parents who are being very careful about everything.
I do think they will hit a massive bump in the road when the kids find out their dad was a cheat. They should be prepared for that.
Kate should relax a bit, I sometimes drop the ball (we all do) when she forgets to cut their nails perhaps their dad could do it?! Or the kids could tell her!! She's doing a great job and the kids obviously love her.
It seemed like the real issues stem from the wider family (Rebecca's family?) But I can understand why they couldn't really get into that.
I do think it is a bit invasive for the kids, ok I wouldn't recognise them in the street but their school friends could watch this very personal stuff being broadcast. It's difficult to have it both ways

There really are some awful awful people on this thread and some utter shit is being spouted by them.

How they are coping with their grief and the choices they have made are nobody else's business and that includes making a documentary. Perhaps they are wanting to reach out to people in the same boat as them and try to get some guidance and help as well as trying to help others through it.

I thought Kate came across very well considering her position. She is thoughtful and caring and has taken a hell of a lot on, something I bet a lot of the nasty buggers on this thread couldn't do. Rio seems to work away a lot and they admitted Kate is with the children more. What young woman would give up her own lifestyle to bring up three grieving children if she didn't genuinely care and love them all.

And whoever said she moved in before Rebecca had passed away, and they had an affair, that's bull shit from what I've read they didn't even meet until a couple of years later?!

Rio did treat Rebecca appallingly and I'm sure he has regrets about those choices he made during their marriage, but her death is a completely different thing and he should be allowed to grieve and move on with life without that being brought up constantly.

I want to like them but the amount of times too cheated on Rebecca this just doesn’t sit right and the way he’s sitting there like the lord and master whole cakes makes his food
Rather then him much in and help
He’s just sitting there

Plus at the grave the child is crying and the child is being told come on mummy wants you to be happy

Please don’t say that

Please just say
I know, it is really sad you’re allowed to feel sad we know how much you live and miss her and she loves you too
And let the child let them feelings out them them be released

Plus at the grave the child is crying and the child is being told come on mummy wants you to be happy

Please don’t say that

Please just say
I know, it is really sad you’re allowed to feel sad we know how much you live and miss her and she loves you too
And let the child let them feelings out them them be released

oh my god, does anyone know what to say in that situation?

considering Kate knows Tia much better than you do i assume, i am not sure you can say "please dont say that" like you absolutely definitely know whats best for a child you've never met.,

You learn trust me

And I don’t agree to the children being exposed to the media like this
They deserve their privacy

maybe Kate is still learning?

You're incredibly judgemental.

You seem very personally invested Quattro ?

or maybe i just think its a bit mean to tell someone what they're doing wrong when they're clearly doing their best? to you too.

Do their best for whom ? .....
That’s the question
And it’s not rocked science to say it’s not a good idea to tell a child hats crying at their mothers grave, that mummy wants them to be happy

That’s going to make the child feel like they hve to put on a brave face and also feel bad for letting mummy down by not doing what she wants

This is produce bottling up of feelings
And guilt

Then spend the rest of the time asking millions of questions, in an attempt to get them to open up

Plus this should be aired on tv
Poor kids

the children of course.

i dont think its a bad thing to say at all considering that its true...

guilt??? why guilt?

Oh yeah poor kids

fuck sake.