Did any Poly people watch Louis Theroux last night?

[PolyAnnie]

Just wondering what peiple thought of it as a representation of poly families.

I liked it.

I thought it showcased a lot of happiness and family ties. It showed that kids can be happy within poly families but it also showed the realities of it too. Such as a new person coming in to the fold or one person wanting a different living set up (experienced both)

I liked it because it showed normal poly families through good events and struggling just as all mono couples do too.

I don't imagine there's many poly families on MN but might be a few :)

Have NC btw x

None of them looked happy at all!

I caught half of it and thought at least one person in each relationship came across as so desperate to have one of the others in their life that they agreed to be poly rather than it genuinely being a mutual desire. I thought a few seemed sad and at least theee I saw said they’d rather have their partner to themselves.

They seemed absolutely miserable and Louis thought so too.

Another one who thought there were very few happy people in the set-ups.

Yes I also thought that there was generally at least one person in each of the relationships who was doing it to avoid losing their partner. That person didn't seem happy despite insisting they were.

Two of the in particular I felt very sorry for and it didn't seem at all like a genuine choice for them.

I didn't see it, but it is interesting that the only poly poster on here thought that there were a lot of happy families, and everyone else thought that each set up had at least one unhappy person in it.

What channel was it on? I would like to watch it on catch up.

I saw bits of it. I thought most of the folk looked thoroughly fucking miserable.

I didn't see it, but it is interesting that the only poly poster on here thought that there were a lot of happy families, and everyone else thought that each set up had at least one unhappy person in it.

Yes, did rather make me wonder if PolyAnnie was the Heidi in their relationship ...

It was on bbc 2. I’m going to watch on catch up this week too.

I thought it was the worst advert for poly lifestyles! Poor Louis looked as though he was going to sink through the floor with depression.

How bizarre. I felt very sad for them as they all seemed immensely unhappy. It was wretched.

Joe was the only man that I thought seemed entirely happy with the situation. Every other man looked extremely uncomfortable/shut down/jealous a good portion of the time.

I felt so sorry for Jerry. I think he was just going along with whatever Heidi wanted because he didn't want to lose her.

Made me sad to watch.

They seemed at best insecure, at worst thoroughly miserable (other than the threesome of boardgamers who all seemed to be satisfied with the arrangement, but that set-up was more stable). The people at either end i.e. those who weren't actively taking part in multiple relationships were not satisfied with their lot.

They were all very good at reciting the theory of the practice. They must have all read the same book.

@polyannie I think I watched a different programme to you.

There are quite a few very prominent poly posters on mn.
I wonder what they thought. I can guess!

I only caught some of it but I thought they seemed quite unhappy!

I also thought most of them seemed miserable. Except Heidi and joe of course, who were happy to do whatever they wanted despite the impact on their families. Why everyone loved Heidi so much I do not understand.

I agree with most of the other posters, I thought there was a lot of misery there. I'd be interested in an honest view from the children involved, but I think that will come in their memoirs in 20 years time.
Felt very sorry for Louis at the cringy massage/food party
Cannot think of anything worse than being semi naked, blindfolded and have strangers paw you and feed you food, yuk yuk yuk

Jerry was going along with it because he had hopes of a threesome with Heidi and Joe in exchange for putting up with her deciding they were poly.

Heidi looked horrified - sorry Jerry, that just ain't happening.

Louis "Would you give up Joe if being with him made Jerry unhappy"

Heidi looking confused says disingenuously "Oh that just wouldn't happen, it just isn;t possible"

Jerry sits there looking fucking unhappy.

It struck me as being a fucking complicated and miserable way to live. Joe and Heidi were happy enough having their shag-fest and giving no shits about the damage it was doing to the other people in their lives. Everyone else seemed unhappy and jealous to varying degrees.

They all looked miserable. So sad for the children. It felt like they all had real problems maintaining relationships with any degree of normality and were trying to persuade themselves life was good.

Hmm.

Well I've been in mono relationships that have had just as many issues.

I've always been much happier in my poly relationships. I find there's so much less pressure to be the ultimate partner.

I don't feel any "pressure" in my monogamous relationship.