Long Lost Family

[SoleBizzz]

Anybody watching?

Tissues at the ready!

Did I miss something? Did the 13yo mum not say anything about the father? So some unanswered questions there. She said that she was 'experimenting' with sex at a very early age - but made no mention of the father?

imperial, are you saying that you think the father was the man who is actually the adoptive father? That's a can of worms - especially as the mother was only 13.

I agree that the mum and daughter might not bond. The mum seemed very hard - but not surprised, given what she had been through so young and possibly something quite awful for her. The daughter seemed very fragile, emotionally.

I felt so sad for the son too. An unhappy childhood with his birth mother and his disinterested adoptive father. One of his first questions to his birth father "would you please call me 'son'?" Another fragile adoptee.

I actually thought this,episode was an improvement. I missed a bit at the end; how did meeting with army guy and dad go?

I agree not much of a bond between mother and daughter, but why should there be, really? The mother was 13-a child herself, really-and made what appears to be a practical decision for the best of reasons.

I quite often find that there's a bit too much blubbing for my liking. I find it a bit...icky. Not sure why. Maybe it's the way the programme is filmed. If I were taking part, I wouldn't want the camera in my face capturing my reactions. I'd want it to be private.

Gosh Stephen and Merrissa look alike.

I'm watching + 1

Not enthused by this one.

I thought that Sam was absolutely lovely though.

Glad about the first story.

Have to say I'm not a fan of Hamida

Next week.. A tale of a woman born out of a love affair between a Nun and a Salvadoran guitar player

Hamida doesn't look too happy, does she?

A bit bemused by how Hamida knew her other daughter (Sam's sister) but didn't seem to want to have a relationship with her. Have I missed something..?

I didn't understand that either, absolutely.

Sam's sister was the result of an affair with a married man, he and his wife brought up the baby. So they were known to Hamida and presumably there was some sort of contact.

Sam was officially adopted, so in that case Hamida wouldn't know where she was.

I think I heard there were other siblings? Not sure about that though.

Agree Hamida seemed very guarded, scared even. It's not hard to see that as a young girl she would have been incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to see that relationship continuing.

Thanks, hepsibar. I didn't realise that Sarah was the product of her father's affair. Hamida had sons too, didn't she?

I found it a bit strange and the new-found relationships unlikely to continue too.

There was genuine warmth in Stephen's birth family, I thought. He was the image of Marisa.

Just watching on Catchup.
I'm getting irrationally annoyed at all the pieces to camera whilst they're walking the street, can they not afford a studio and chair ffs?

The cheesy 'she/he wanted to meet up in park/stately home/tea room that was tenuously linked to their past by a long stretch of the imagination.

Why go through that rigmarole - they are meeting up, that's it. The reason Is never mentioned again.

I'm watching on catch up too, out of order as well. Just watched the one with the woman who had her baby at 13. Agree with posters above, why was there no mention of the father, from either of them?

Yes, but, I suspect that the production company wants to film somewhere 'nice'. A studio is boring and there's more 'interest' if many of the pieces are filmed outside (or inside) somewhere pleasant.

Another observation - both DP and I have noticed over the years and now comment - but why do the majority of these people have UPVC front doors? Even 'Richmond daughter', who clearly lives in a lovely and expensive Victorian or Edwardian house, seemed to have a front door which was not in keeping with her house.

9pm tonight

I found Hamida rather disquieting but can't put my finger on why. Sam was lovely.
Stephen seemed naturally overwhelmed, I hope everything goes well for him, he seems quite vulnerable to me.

Victor and Miriam - what a story. They both seem absolutely lovely. got something in my eye

Ha the frontdoors I noticed too. Figured either it is clever product placement & they get sponsorship from UPVC doors and Windows company but that would probably be mentioned. OR. It is a privacy thing so it will be a bit more difficult to find the house of programme participants.

Why do they never show the stories where the parents don't want to be found / treat the long lost children badly?

Be a bit more realistic that way.

I am also a sucker for the prog though.

I genuinely like Davina and the male presenter though.

DailyMail they did a programme a while ago showing 'what happened next' and some of the reunited families sadly didn't end up maintaining a connection, for various complex reasons. Sometimes one person was just too intense about the new relationship, and so it ended up breaking down.

Ah, Liverpool - that's interesting, thanks.

Everytime I watch this I consider searching for my own birth mother. Then I think - I'm 40 now, why hasn't she got in touch with me, so maybe I'll just not bother............................

choco

maybe she is afraid that you will be angry with her.
maybe she is scared of opening up 'old wounds'
maybe she is scared her 'other' family might not understand
maybe she is not as bothered as you, but that is only one of the potential reasons why.

having said that, after contacting my natural father's family (he died young and is sanctified by them) I got very little real 'connection' and quite a lot of grief so it is not always as straightforward as the Show.

You can hold onto 'maybe' or you can find out.
You have to decide which is riskier for you.
I hope you find a solution you can live with.x