Long Lost Family

[SoleBizzz]

Anybody watching?

Tissues at the ready!

[walkingtheplank]

Whats the issues with doors? What have I missed?

[MissCalamity]

choco good luck. My dp overhead a conversation a long time ago between his parents & got the gist that he has an older half sister! He plucked up the courage to ask his mum today & she confirmed that she had a baby girl when she was 16, but she was took off her when she was a week old DP mentioned about looking for her, but MIL said no, she's too scared to know.
It must have been awful, I really feel sorry for her & what a horrendous time it must have been...
Sorry, completely derailed the thread, I do love this programme, I find it so fascinating.

[DailyMailEthicalFail]

choco

be positive. it could be amazing. best of luck!

[chocoLit]

Thanks DailyMailEthicalFail If it all goes tits up I'll blame Davina

[DailyMailEthicalFail]

Oh, Wow!
That's really brave and a 'reaching out' thing to do.
Good for you!
I hope you find what you are seeking.x

[chocoLit]

dailymailethicalfail I sent in the forms last night.

Will see where this goes....

[DailyMailEthicalFail]

choco

maybe she is afraid that you will be angry with her.
maybe she is scared of opening up 'old wounds'
maybe she is scared her 'other' family might not understand
maybe she is not as bothered as you, but that is only one of the potential reasons why.

having said that, after contacting my natural father's family (he died young and is sanctified by them) I got very little real 'connection' and quite a lot of grief so it is not always as straightforward as the Show.

You can hold onto 'maybe' or you can find out.
You have to decide which is riskier for you.
I hope you find a solution you can live with.x

[chocoLit]

Everytime I watch this I consider searching for my own birth mother. Then I think - I'm 40 now, why hasn't she got in touch with me, so maybe I'll just not bother............................

[DailyMailEthicalFail]

Ah, Liverpool - that's interesting, thanks.

[theliverpoolone]

DailyMail they did a programme a while ago showing 'what happened next' and some of the reunited families sadly didn't end up maintaining a connection, for various complex reasons. Sometimes one person was just too intense about the new relationship, and so it ended up breaking down.

[DailyMailEthicalFail]

I genuinely like Davina and the male presenter though.

[DailyMailEthicalFail]

Why do they never show the stories where the parents don't want to be found / treat the long lost children badly?

Be a bit more realistic that way.

I am also a sucker for the prog though.

[nosuchnumber]

Ha the frontdoors I noticed too. Figured either it is clever product placement & they get sponsorship from UPVC doors and Windows company but that would probably be mentioned. OR. It is a privacy thing so it will be a bit more difficult to find the house of programme participants.

[Hepzibar]

Victor and Miriam - what a story. They both seem absolutely lovely. got something in my eye

[P1nkP0ppy]

I found Hamida rather disquieting but can't put my finger on why. Sam was lovely.
Stephen seemed naturally overwhelmed, I hope everything goes well for him, he seems quite vulnerable to me.

[SoleBizzz]

9pm tonight

[FruOla]

Yes, but, I suspect that the production company wants to film somewhere 'nice'. A studio is boring and there's more 'interest' if many of the pieces are filmed outside (or inside) somewhere pleasant.

Another observation - both DP and I have noticed over the years and now comment - but why do the majority of these people have UPVC front doors? Even 'Richmond daughter', who clearly lives in a lovely and expensive Victorian or Edwardian house, seemed to have a front door which was not in keeping with her house.

[Hepzibar]

The cheesy 'she/he wanted to meet up in park/stately home/tea room that was tenuously linked to their past by a long stretch of the imagination.

Why go through that rigmarole - they are meeting up, that's it. The reason Is never mentioned again.

I'm watching on catch up too, out of order as well. Just watched the one with the woman who had her baby at 13. Agree with posters above, why was there no mention of the father, from either of them?

[SaggyNaggy]

Just watching on Catchup.
I'm getting irrationally annoyed at all the pieces to camera whilst they're walking the street, can they not afford a studio and chair ffs?

[absolutelynotfabulous]

Thanks, hepsibar. I didn't realise that Sarah was the product of her father's affair. Hamida had sons too, didn't she?

I found it a bit strange and the new-found relationships unlikely to continue too.

There was genuine warmth in Stephen's birth family, I thought. He was the image of Marisa.

[Hepzibar]

Sam's sister was the result of an affair with a married man, he and his wife brought up the baby. So they were known to Hamida and presumably there was some sort of contact.

Sam was officially adopted, so in that case Hamida wouldn't know where she was.

I think I heard there were other siblings? Not sure about that though.

Agree Hamida seemed very guarded, scared even. It's not hard to see that as a young girl she would have been incredibly vulnerable. It's hard to see that relationship continuing.

[FruOla]

I didn't understand that either, absolutely.

[absolutelynotfabulous]

Hamida doesn't look too happy, does she?

A bit bemused by how Hamida knew her other daughter (Sam's sister) but didn't seem to want to have a relationship with her. Have I missed something..?

[SoleBizzz]

Next week.. A tale of a woman born out of a love affair between a Nun and a Salvadoran guitar player

[Magazinepile]

Have to say I'm not a fan of Hamida