3 day nanny tue 8pm ch4 s2

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just incase anyone liked this last series :)

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Show your mum this

The boy seemed so sweet when he stopped acting out.

My dd is 18 months and she is a toddler, she doesn't let me pick her up half the time because she's too busy exploring and playing. That said, I wouldn't put her on a step like that. That was silly I thought. My dd wouldn't have a clue why I was doing that.

Maybe my mum was just 3 sheets to the wind herself

Thanks dame

I assumed he was almost 4 so that by sept he will be at school tho a young 4

In which I Expect a child to be able to dress theirselves most of the time and able to wipe their bum

The building tower she got the boy to stand on the table - yet he wasn't meant to stand on tables

Did feel a bit sorry for the dad that his daughter never wanted to spend time with him

Agree constant negative wears a child down - yet hard to praise if doesn't do anything

Wonder what he will be like at school. Probably a perfect paragon :)

My DD starts school in sept, i thought he'd be just ready for nursery. What was the duplo tower for? Missed that bit. Was it a block for each good behaviour?

I think 18 months is definitely a toddler, not a baby. I really don't think an 18 month old should need to be carried around all day, and I don't think a sling would be the answer. Surely they need to start to learn a bit of independence, and mums need a bit of space? I was still breastfeeding and co sleeping with dd at that age, and carrying her when out etc, but I certainly wasn't carrying her about while I was trying to make cups of tea.

It was a block for each time he listened and did what he was told.

Yes, she gave him a block each time she spotted any good behaviour.

Oh and to get the mum into the habit of looking for good in him rather than fault.

Is that not quite babyish for a kid just about to start school though? Stacking some duplo blocks if he's good.

My sister uses small balls in a bowl with her DC, he was 6 when she started it, it works well.

Does he get something when the bowl is full or has collected a specific amount though, like a reward chart?

I don't think so it was just a visual thing so he had lots of praise when the bowl was full at the end of the day. He's 8 now and on to pocket money

I think he has to get a certain number of balls now and then that earns him x number of
pennies but originally it was just praise.

Think i'll just stick with the blackmail!

Some children need visual and tbh the mum was constant with no - don't do that etc

A bit of praise goes a long way

I have mixed opinions on this. I remember seeing the last series and feeling the same way. I do think these parents needed some help and guidance but the issues they were dealing with were not that bad they just really needed changes in how they were communicating with their children and a little bit more consistency with discipline was needed. I think the nanny's initial observations with the mum being very negative with her son was spot on she was repeatedly telling him off for doing things but not really explaining to him about what she wanted and how she wanted him to behave. However I think the strategies she came up with to help were a bit vague. There was a bit of talk about praising the good behaviour but to do that the mum had to "create" a task (clean the garden furniture) that he could help with so she could praise him which was a bit bizarre she really should have shown her that she could praise him for anything and everything as in well done you are sharing with your sister well done you talked nicely to mummy, I see you are enjoying yourself playing, well done for tidying your toys etc etc praise the good behaviours ignore the bad. I thought the teddy idea for getting him to wear his uniform was also ridiculous a simple picture chart to illustrate a morning routine could have worked better. As for the car park scene I would have gone mad if anyone grabbed my child like that. Of course he was angry for leaving the play centre there was no acknowledging his feelings, give him a time warning for leaving etc etc. I do think it was great to see an improvement with the Dads relationship with his little girl but having him in the garden with the daughter while the little boy was locked inside was very mean and was not sending a very good message to the little boy. As for the 18 month old on the naughty step.... yes it could be used as place to help her calm down but the same step is used as a naughty step for the boy it can't be both very confusing for the kids and 18 months is far too young to understand the concept of it all. So in summary I think the nanny is making a few good observations but giving them bizarre and longterm ineffective strategies to deal with them

The soft play thing could have been avoided by being less vague. Instead of "we're going soon" they should have been more concrete - 3 more turns on the slide, or when I've counted to 30 it'll be time to put your shoes on. Something nice to move on to helps too; when we're in the car you can eat your biscuit/play with

I agree, I used to do 3 more turns on the slide - always needed in a tantrum but at least I'd tried

I always do a 5 minute warning when leaving somewhere and do they Amat to go on the slide /swing /Etc again before we leave

Want :)

Ds is 2 3/4 and for him 5 minutes may as well be a week next Friday, I try to keep it to something tangible for him!

The little girl sobbing upset me. I would have picked her up!
I remember my mum & hv agreeing that I was making a rod for my own back my cuddling ds every time he made a sound as a baby. I figure children don't want to cuddle their mums forever so I may as well get them in whilst I can!
It probably explains why I'm in still sharing a bed with ds (4).
The car park bit I felt very uncomfortable with,I felt she was too rough. That would have not worked without her,the little boy would have been upset near cars etc.

Sorry to say it. But the middle class nanny was awful Would you want to be her child? NO, from me.