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3 day nanny tue 8pm ch4 s2

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Blondeshavemorefun · 28/07/2015 15:23

just incase anyone liked this last series :)

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RabbitSaysWoof · 28/07/2015 22:39

What a gorgeous little family.

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Blondeshavemorefun · 28/07/2015 23:13

Was a bit :( at putting the toddler on naughty step. She hadn't done anything wrong - just want her mum

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ladybird69 · 28/07/2015 23:22

Haven't watched this series but from what I saw last series I wouldn't let this woman any where near children (I'm a Nanny and mother of 4!)

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 28/07/2015 23:26

I thought she was greatGrin

Sorted the family out a treat, they'd have been in a right mess had they carried on as they were, the girl had never cuddled her Dad, there was a massive divide in the family. The negative language was appalling and the mum didn't realise she was doing it, the whole family was happier at the end.

Wrt grabbing his arm, err no she was steering him over to the wall after he'd just belted his sister for the umpteenth time!

The little girl wasn't being punished for wanting a cuddle. The cuddle situation was a habit which was preventing the girl from developing a bond with her father, that really needed to stop. It's not like the nanny said never to cuddle her again!

I was surprised she went on the step ,I think at that age I'd have just let her get on with it but I suppose the tantrum was contained that way and the she was able to yell until she'd had enough. I thought it taught her to deal with her emotions well tbh.

Can't wait for next week when I can disagree with every one againWink

Lovely family though and ten out of ten for parents being totally on board with wanting to changeSmile

mikado1 · 28/07/2015 23:35

Yes she was able to yell but she was also given the very definite message that it's not ok to be upset and that if she was, her parents didn't want her near them!! Agree with you re divide, negative language and need to change.

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LittleDunnock · 29/07/2015 00:14

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen I agree with you on this one. We're obviously the minority though I'm afraid.

feckthemall · 29/07/2015 00:22

Agree with Dame too. Frankie lashed out at his mum hitting his sister in the process. I am fairly certain she wouldn't have put him standing at the wall if she hadn't thought it was safe to do so. Of course he was crying, he was so used to getting away with this behaviour he couldn't believe he was being disiplined for it.

Willow lived on her mums hip. The mum said herself she lifted her up so much she didn't even realise it. I was amazed she sat in the steps at all.

They were a really lovely family. I really hope they keep up the great work.

spiderlight · 29/07/2015 00:36

Horrible programme. The little boy being left in his room on his own crying 'Mummy, I need help' broke my heart. I hate naughty steps and time out in rooms at the best of times, but at that age they're far to young and they aren't going to learn anything in that emotional state. A child overwhelmed by emotion like that needs help to calm down - sometimes a quiet safe space can be part of that, but not repeated rejection, being put back into the room and left over and over again. At no point did anybody try to find out why the little boy didn't want to put certain trousers on. I felt really sorry for him.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 29/07/2015 07:11

I don't think it was actually about the trousers at all, it was about control.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 29/07/2015 07:21

The little one wasn't put on the step because she was upset, she was put on the step because her mother wasn't doing as she usually does and holding her on her hip. She was put there because she was tantrumming in rage. No doubt if she was genuinely upset, rather than angry because 'you're not doing what I want' then her mum would've cuddled her.

Artandco · 29/07/2015 07:28

I don't understand, what is the problem with a 1 year old wanting to be held and on mums hip half the day? She still small, a baby.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 29/07/2015 07:29

Spider light-that's exactly what happened though, he was able to calm down in a safe place, his room. It's no good trying to discuss why he was hitting, spitting or swearing AGAIN. It had just become habitual behaviour that had to stop with zero tolerance. The 'mummy I need help' was nonsense, he didn't want help he wanted his mum up there again for more attention and it would start all over again-my ds used to shout 'but mummy I loooooove you sooooo much'Grin

Artandco · 29/07/2015 07:30

How old was the little boy? Mine would have needed help with trousers at 3 still I think

Lottapianos · 29/07/2015 08:56

I had mixed feelings about the program. The parents were lovely and very keen to change and boy they really needed to - they were very sweet but utterly clueless. The 3 year old's behaviour was totally unacceptable and mum was completely unable to manage it. He seemed absolutely desperate for some kind of positive attachment with mum and was doing anything he could to provoke a reaction from her.

I was really concerned by the 18 month old being put on the step - I understood the need to get her off mum's hip, but I think she should have been allowed to stay near mummy, not just physically attached to her. Leaving her alone to howl was dreadful and did give the message that being upset is not acceptable, which is an incredibly damaging message to give to a child of any age.

I could absolutely see Kathryn's point with the reference to 'winning' battles. If you need your 3 year old to get dressed, then he needs to get dressed. If its time to get in the car, then he needs to get in the car. Mum had zero control over him and that had to change.Maybe the language she used sounded a bit distasteful, but parents need to be in charge, and all parent have to learn how to do that.

Next week's episode looks quite extreme, will watch with interest

Dinnerfor1 · 29/07/2015 09:10

I saw her putting the 18 month old on the step as giving her somewhere to calm down, rather than punishing her for crying.

I don't think it's really practical to have a child attached to your hip for half the day, especially if you have another child. It was also effecting the daughters relationship with her dad.

MrsBananaHammock · 29/07/2015 09:42

Lots of mixed opinions here it seems Grin

I don't really think an 18 month can understand being put somewhere to 'calm down', they would just see it as being left alone upset. This is still pretty much a baby who has been walking probably only a couple of months so that's a big adjustment in itself to not being carried. I just felt the relationship with dad and daughter could have been helped in other ways - spending time alone, him taking her out for the morning etc and build his confidence with her rather than just trying to show 'you can't have mummy cuddles, you must love daddy too'.

Also the advice on the hitting after soft play - take the nanny away and that couldn't happen. Mum wouldn't have been able to leave him against the wall to cry while she also sorted her daughter alone as it would have been dangerous. I also didn't hear the boy say sorry or anything, it was just 'cry, cry, cry then come with me'. Teaching him to apologise to his sister would have been far better IMO.

I need to un-invest from this program now Grin

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 29/07/2015 09:44

Haven't seen it yet but I'm wondering was a sling not an option if the baby didn't want to be put down?

Kittymum03 · 29/07/2015 09:51

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Asleeponasunbeam · 29/07/2015 09:53

Pourquoi, I'd have thought a sling would have been ideal for the situation, but not mentioned by this nanny who clearly thought babies should not be physically close to their mothers when they wanted to be!

Artandco · 29/07/2015 09:56

I too would have just used a sling ( and did for mine at this age still)
Meant I could sling 18 month old so they were happy and contained safely, then control/ follow/ discipline my 2 year old, otherwise I would have two in different directions!

The dad could have also used sling if she liked close contact to gain closer bonding

MrsBananaHammock · 29/07/2015 09:57

Anyone know why Jo Frost doesn't do anymore Supernanny series?

Jackiebrambles · 29/07/2015 11:35

I'm intrigued to watch this now!

My ds is 2.4 and there's no way a naughty step would work for him.

CamelHump · 29/07/2015 11:59

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