3 day nanny tue 8pm ch4 s2

[Blondeshavemorefun]

just incase anyone liked this last series :)

The whole family was so much happier when the nanny left, job done I'd say!

Mrsbanana supernanny USA is still on one of the random channels but all seem to be few years old now. Think she might live there now.

Also ironic that the little boy 'wore the trousers' in that house even though he wouldn't wear any!
The mum looked 2 sheets to the wind (as my own DM would say) nice but dim.

Glad I'm not the only one who found the 18 month old crying it out on the step too much. Seemed harsh to me. Also leaving the 3 year old in his room to cry felt wrong, but I haven't got to that age yet.

The stuff on praise was good though, and so was the Dad getting involved in activities with his daughter. I think they could have just tempted her over without the forced separation from her Mum though.

Exactly and same for the 3 year old: he needed connection and engagement with his mum and the better behaviour probably came fromthat more than from being forced back to room. At 18 months, my lo wasn't particularly clingy but neither was he happy to play while I was in the kitchen so he stood up next to me on a chair and 'helped'. Can't think why I would have him in distress on the stairs instead of that!!

Two sheets to the wind means pissed

The whole point about NOT cuddling the girl all the time was that it was preventing developing her relationship with her brother and father. A sling would've made the whole situation worse not better. She wanted to be cuddled as she sensed an air of uncertainty around the father , that went when their relationship developed.

Dinner - I agree,the step was a safe place to calm down.

Wrt ages- I think the boy was getting very near going to school and therefore nearly 4 and I thought the girl was 2. Both children were very young ,angelic looking children imo and I think that's clouding some of the responses on here

They definitely said 18 months for the girl, and the boy was nearly 4 I guess as he was starting school in a few months when they filmed it, and wanted to get him used to getting his uniform on.

Dame I'd have put the sling on daddy and packed them off to the swings!

I didn't agree with the little girl being put on the stairs because she was crying. That was uncomfortable viewing. But the rest of the programme was fine. The boy needed some boundaries and a mother who showed him both love and praise and that hitting and kicking was unacceptable.

The trouser thing was a bit different though. My thoughts were that he had sensory issues- they said he didn't like stiff trousers- and therefore forcing him to wear them was the wrong way to approach it.

Tbh he wouldn't have a choice if his uniform trousers are scratchy, uniform is uniform and he'll have to wear it. He was the same when he had to chose between his shorts too,it was about control imo what he was wearing wasn't really the issue at all.

Not only was it awful to leave that little girl on the step but did anyone else see the nanny smack the step next to where the girl was sat?! That really frightened the poor girl. Really really disagree with that.

I didn't see a frightened child at all anywhere throughout the show, I saw a child having a major strop because her mother had said no to her.

I find it fascinating how people agree and disagree with how she managed the children's behaviour. Can't wait for next week

To be honest if my 3 yr old had been hitting, swearing, not listening nd endangering herself and others as much as that little boy, I'd be begging for help.
Yes children need connection, engagement and cuddles. They also need firm boundaries and consistency. Discipline doesn't equate to cruelty.

If I don't want my child to hit or run into the road then I need to teach her why its wrong and that includes showing there are consequences to repeatedly misbehaving. A baby doesn't know it's wrong to hit. A 3 yr old does.

And controlling emotions is part of learning self-control, learning to manage your own behaviour. Part of the early years framework I think? Would you encourage your 4 yr old to roll on the floor having a tantrum at school? Or act out aggressively? No? Then they better start learning to manage their emotions at 3.

And since when does an 18 month old need to be carried around all day (and is it even good for their development)? Sure it's natural and right to comfort them when they're tired/hurt/scared etc but at that age wouldn't they learn and benefit more from exploring/playing a bit more independently?

And no I don't perceive myself as dd's friend. I'm her parent and I'll always love and care for her as a parent, no matter what we spend time together doing. Our relationship will always differ from that with her friends. I wouldn't expect anything else.

But surely if it is a sensory issue and the uniform trousers are scratchy, the kind thing to do is to find a softer alternative or give them a few good washes with loads of fabric softener, not repeatedly force them onto him and risk setting up a negative association that will come back to bite you at 8am on the first proper school-run morning? Maybe I'm a softie, but I think people are far too ready to see genuine distress as some sort of manipulative behaviour. I think the nanny was very insightful in showing the parents how negatively they were speaking to Frankie and encouraging the dad to be more fun and relaxed with Willow, but the rest of it really didn't sit well with me at all.

He had soft shorts, his behaviour was the same, he made a fuss about them as well.

Toddler didn't need to go on the step - she had never been away from her mum so would chose her and want her

But agree with rest of what she does -within reason - but I'm a nanny

The parents call her in as they basically can't Cope and need help. Most of what she said and did was for the benefit of the family and the child. He needs to learn he can't hit whenever he wants and sometimes has to obey adults - esp if going to nursery /school

Same with Puting against a brick wall and left to have his paddy - but he was safe

Mum just needed to be firm and consistent

Ps 3 day nanny is pregnant with her first child :)

I agree with it all, I'm a nanny too.
I'm surprised by the amount of people who see an 18 month old as a baby, I see a toddler.

Rabbit - I was a nanny for years too before having ds. An 18 month old is a toddler in my eyes too.

18 months is a baby imo. At 18 months ds2 had just started walking, didn't talk, breastfed lots, co slept with us all the time, used sling in day, etc.

By over two he was then a toddler. Then he could speak in two languages, run, eat alone, toilet alone, etc. big difference imo

Nanny will be peri menopausal when her child is going through the terrible twos, now THAT would make good viewing

She's 41 so a year younger then me

I still hope that one day I will be a mum - tho very unlikely unless win the lottery

I thought she was older, maybe they have just styled her like that.

That's tough Blondes x

I think its the way they give her a starchy image thats aging.

Damediazepam my mum always used the term 2 sheets to the wind in the context of someone who was a bit vacant, not firing on all cylinders etc. I will be having words.

18 months= toddler. This mum was babying that little girl far to much and the boy was playing up as he wanted some bloody attention like his sis had constantly. Not rocket science. I'm also quite surprised that boy will be starting school in sept. He seemed at least a year younger than that to me.

Yes, I think that's it.