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Our Girl and Captain James Discussion Thread Vol IV

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icemist · 14/11/2014 19:05

Feel free to join in as we discuss all things Our Girl related

Honorary Members:
Ben Aldridge
Tony Grounds

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icemist · 18/11/2014 17:01

If he looks at my phone I'm in trouble lol!

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orphan · 18/11/2014 17:21

My dp has gone from bemused at my CJ/BA obsession to sort of pitying me. Last night he wanted to look at something quickly on my nexus and spotted the our girl and captain James tab. He said with a wearied sigh "You're not still looking at that are you?" He's no idea that I'm actually posting on the thread! He does consent to me showing him screen shots though and pretends to see what I like about him.
I'd so love to go to the concert and assist Richtea with measuring and mole and abs checks but don't think I can get away with it as I don't live in London. If only Ed Sheeran or Ellie Goulding were singing then I could use my daughter as a pretext for going, but Sam Bailey? No chance!

firegirl · 18/11/2014 17:25

Absolutely agree monopod CJ is the boss, he's shouty and in charge and yet the platoon are under his care and he needs to get them home safely so there is the protective element too. But he will let you know if you have impressed him so there is always the motivation to try and please him. And I have never been into army uniform before always thought of myself as a bit of a pacifist but seeing him all kitted out with his gun and his bullet vest etc is just sigh! And whilst any pictures of BA not in CJ character may be easy on the eye it just doesn't cut the mustard for me in the way that seeing CJ does. So yes definitely a character/personality thing for me.

icemist · 18/11/2014 17:45

It's 95% the character. I love when he's in uniform and giving orders, but looks after his soldiers. I think he'd be there for them all in a blink of an eye if they needed him. How he changes when he's with Molly. He seems a genuinely nice person. As much as the restaurant scenes are beautiful and perfection, never mind CJ looking pretty good - give me the uniform any day!

Then BA, there is something mysterious about him which I really like. His apparent avoidance of social media although very frustrating is actually quite refreshing. Although as much as he avoids it the more people want to see him post/pictures etc
He (BA) from the little interviews he's done seems to be a decent man, more interested in acting than being a celebrity.

It's quite new this for me as I've liked/ found other actors handsome but never done anything like I have for this actor. But as I have said before I think its how young it makes me feel! I did have a giggle other day at someone on tumblr moaning she'd never have a chance with him as he's over 10 years older than her- try being 10 years older than him!!

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Richtea19 · 18/11/2014 18:30

Yes the CJ character, authority, uniform, chiseled chin, stubble, deep brown eyes, sense of humour and a sensitive side too. All that makes up to pretty perfect! Which of course because he is a fictional character!
The attraction of BA which icemist has put her finger on is the fact that we are all intrigued by him. He is a man of mystery which makes us want to know more about him. If he was plastered all over the papers coming out drunk from a nightclub would we be as interested? Maybe if he does land a big role in the us or Canada things might be different. I certainly don't want to see him snogging anyone that isn't MD or LT.!!! (Or me!!!!!)

Nickel45 · 18/11/2014 18:48

Completely agree with this, it is definitely CJ (although obviously a bit of BA!). BA in other things doesn't have the same effect at all. Funnily enough, I saw a utube clip of him in larkrise the other day, and it just wasn't the same, and definitely wasn't right him kissing Laura in that ... No way!

For me, I think it's partly the looks and the being an in charge authoritative captain in uniform (although never particularly been a fan of uniforms before ... untill now!), but also the chemistry and feelings between him and Molly, how it develops over time, and ho he tries to resist! Having been married a long time, I think it's also remembering back to the long ago days where you would do anything for each other and just want to be together, and the affection ... I miss that! Nowadays RL and kids and everything that goes with that, just gets in the way .... which is how it should be (now I am supposed to be a grown up!) but maybe something like this just made me miss it more. Anyway, enough depressing ramblings, TG is obviously a fab writer who has written two characters that we have fallen for, brilliant writing, brilliant casting and brilliant acting!

elsie3g · 18/11/2014 18:59

Another one in complete agreement here! Nickel45 you've just summed everything up for me - on the show (casting, acting & chemistry) and also regards RL!

Nickel45 · 18/11/2014 19:12

Thank you elsie, wasn't sure whether I was being a complete prannet!

SPOfficer · 18/11/2014 20:00

nickel also think you have hit the nail on the head for me although of course CJs looks are less important from my point of view! Also think it is important you try and recapture some of that youthful excitement in current relationship. It is there still, just need to make it happen. But accept RL gets in the way!

stressybird · 18/11/2014 20:08

nickel completely agree too. I think we touched on this a couple of weeks ago and I felt the same. It was this realisation that over time, the little looks, the flirting, the passion I suppose, had slipped away and I hadn't even noticed! I felt sad but also a bit relieved that I still had it in me to feel that way. Also, been feeling a bit old and mummy of late and CJ brought back those feelings from the early days, many, many moons ago! Good thing is, it was a fictional character and not an actual person that made me feel this way, so I've basically been able to poke fun at myself over it!

stressybird · 18/11/2014 20:12

Mummy even, which I am and wouldn't have it any other way, but sometimes I wish I was 20 years younger (or 15, 10, even 5 would do it!)

stressybird · 18/11/2014 20:14

Mumsy not mummy! For goodness sake, I cant even type and I'm completely sober. Will shut up now. And go get some wine.

Rhubarb01 · 18/11/2014 20:29

Evening all! (sound like Dixon of Dock Green - now that does date me!)

Totally off the subject now, but did anyone know that TG's daughter(Flossy Grounds) played the role of Molly's sister, Bella? I happened upon an interview with TG that came out a few days after the end of OG. I hadn't realised they were related - well I hadn't really looked at the cast list to be honest. The link is below if anyone is interested. He talks a bit about the writing and filming process and also hopes for a second series.

www.thecustardtv.com/2014/10/thecustard-chats-to-our-girl-writer.html

icemist · 18/11/2014 20:33

Totally agree. 15 years ago I was spending a lot of money on flights as I travelled to see hubby. Now we're still happy but the excitement of being newly in love etc has gone and that's what drew me to CJ and Molly as it made me relive it all -obv very different circumstances-

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Nickel45 · 18/11/2014 20:44

Thank you all, relieved I'm not a prize pranny after all! (well not all the time!). You are right though, spo I really should put some bloody effort in.

stressybird, it is good he is fictional. Think if it was a crush on a real person in RL I would be seriously worried, which is maybe why it is ok that we are all going a bit doolally for CJ (or MD). Maybe?!

Just read that interview rhubarb, I'd not seen that before, and didn't realise that was TGs daughter. Is that the one who makes the cheese sandwich?

Richtea19 · 18/11/2014 20:51

Just dipping back in again, re. RL completley agree, think we said before that OG has given us all that spark again, albeit a TV programme! Having said that on Saturday coming back from London watching DS at cross country, DS came back on coach and we headed straight into town and went to Fortnum and Masons, never been before, had a mouch about and stumbled across a wine bar on lg floor, next thing bottle of wine x 2 and giggley me and DH. It was fab, just like old times and spur of the moment was great. Returned to messy house because boys were home alone, so moment passed. But showed me it is still there!

monopod · 18/11/2014 21:00

nickel yes yes to the chemistry. It actually made me really sad at first because it highlighted all the things that I've been missing in my relationship with DH for a long time. Of course those first fiery sparks don't last, but it seemed pretty dead for us, not even embers! Had a row with DH not long after during which I let it all out about just wanting to feel cherished and loved again, like I was attractive and that I mattered. Rather than feeling like an old shoe. I'm glad to report that OG has given me the impetus to give us a kick up the behinds and spark things up again! Molly and CJ, and the way CJ is with Molly, are my go-to role models of the moment Grin

Richtea19 · 18/11/2014 21:01

Thanks for link Rhubarb, thought I had seen all interviews, but must of missed that one.

Nickel45 · 18/11/2014 21:11

That's so great richtea and monopod, well done you!
It is hard to get out of the normal rut, and find time for each other ... I should just book a baby sitter!! It is all about feeling cherished isnt it, that is so it!
Anyway, Ben, if you are reading any of this drivel please ignore it (well, you never know, he might get our card, and want to see what we've been up to!).
I might gonna need a small glass of something now!!!

Nickel45 · 18/11/2014 21:18

ilovelblue hope everything goes ok tomorrow (was it tomorrow?), come back to us Wink

monopod · 18/11/2014 21:19

Speaking of babysitters, just realised that DH and I haven't had a night to ourselves in over 2 years... Loooooong overdue! Think we might gonna have to get a babysitter soon. So we can get us some CJ and Molly lovin', ooh yeah. Coco Pops might figure in there somewhere.

Nickel45 · 18/11/2014 21:26
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Ilovelblue · 18/11/2014 21:28

Ladies and SPO. Dipping into here for some light relief and cheering up. Last night, I went to visit the father of a friend of mine who is seriously ill. My own mother died fairly recently and it brought everything back to me. Just about held it together till I got home. Then today, probably the best colleague I've ever had in recent years left - in the words of Molly after Smurf's funeral "I feel so sad". Have to say, it was nice to get on here and see what you've all been discussing and to take my mind off everything.

Monopod's question about what attracts us to CJ/BA. Well everyone has expressed it so well and I have to agree with what has been said. Apart from his obvious looks, I like that he commands respect but can also be one of the lads. You know he would do anything for them. I've worked with managers throughout my working life who are great at the job but rubbish with managing their staff or vice versa. The two aspects of the job don't necessarily go together. These attributes would translate well into a job outside of the army for CJ. All that said however, it is partly the uniform that does it for me and I said that right at the beginning when I joined the first thread.

I really didn't like the restaurant scene the first time I watched it - in fact, I would go so far to say it made me cringe because it seemed quite unnatural - we'd never seen MD speak in that slightly different way and it was quite a shock to see CJ without his uniform - he looked so much less authoritative. Being on this thread and talking it over as much as we have, I can watch it quite happily now, but if I'd only seen that episode the once, I would have written it off in my head I think.

I have only once been on a forum before - a problem I had with a cat - and have amazed myself at how drawn into this I have been. I have never had a serious crush/attraction of this magnitude ever! Thank God there was nothing like this when I was a teenager.

I'm rambling a bit - put it down to a really bad couple of days!

Ilovelblue · 18/11/2014 21:30

Nickel - just seen your good luck message. Thank you, it is tomorrow. Sort of looking forward to having a couple of days off, if only to over-indulge in everything Our Girl. I will come back to you all - don't worry!

elsie3g · 18/11/2014 21:31

Brilliant! Agree with all recent posts. It can't be all that strange if this reappraisal of life as it stands is a common theme amongst us all?!

I know it has been mentioned before but it's interesting that Tony Grounds' intention was to inspire 'young' people to break away from what's set out for them, but from what we're all feeling, it's actually encouraged grown women (& man SPO) with kids and jobs take stock. And for me it has been a bit of a weird one (and I have been 'all over the shop!'). But I think it's a question of 'what next?' that's been hanging over me for a while..

(ps I never post on message boards! which is a change in itself)

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