Breaking up with the jones!

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Anyone watching??

I think it was her choice to move out of the family home.

expat - did he not say at one point he couldnt pay her anythign as he had just paid a coucil bill of £500 on the house they used to live in , she recounted that from a text message.

and dont forget she popped champagne to celebrate the ss letter that said all was ok and they saw no problems.

was he not in the grandparents house drinking with the brother at the birthday party of his niece ?

dino and backontrack i saw her as more hte maleovent one as she was/is more intellectually capable

she was a SAHM - they were in finaciao difficulty as her ex had not earned enough and had taken laons and cards apparently without her knowledge. So I suspectvthe house had to be sold to cover that. Hence no equity as such.
Dino kids usually stay with their mothers, rightly or wrongly. She had been the main carer, it made sense as it often does for the mother to retain the daily care of the kids.
So whoever has the kids has the choice of where to live
So yes you would have to lump it per se.
Not perfect, not by a long way, I agree but her duty was to herself and her new life, not to her ex and his family

why dinosaur ?

why dinosaur ?

re the controlling bit
To be controlling you need someone who allows you to control them
natch

as I said dinosaur
the main carer - usually the mother... but sometimes not.
So that's the way it works here
You can reasonably stop the children from being taken overseas, but imposing limits on people within the UK is tantamount to a breach of liberty.
I totally agree that it is not a perfect outcome, but given her individual circs, she had little option but to go to her home.
They did have an amicable agreement at first remember so he did agree in the beginning.

As the mother of a child I took 12000 miles away from his father aged 3, I totally understand her needs.
Call them selfish but an unhappy custodial parent does not happy children make.

dinosaur- I am also a working Mum and DH is at home why would you not get residence?

dinosaur? Is everything ok at home?
The Jones situation was different, all break ups are, most couples stay close by FWIW, as the biggest help when caring for your kids is the other parent after all..

• "i saw her as more hte maleovent one as she was/is more intellectually capable"-

I am far more intellectually competant than my exp does that make me more Maleovent??

I know that with my connection to NZ, dp is terrified that if we broke up I would try to go to NZ

hello dino sweetie, sorry to hear this resign and tell dh it's his turn to go out to work hope you and dh can find a way through. all the best, bkxxx

that is exactly what I intend to do after I have had this baby, i have had enough of working and missing the time with my children.

Dinosaur would be v interested to know, have there been test cases in which the custody has been awarded to a SAHD over a WOTH mother?

fattiemumma - it amazes me how things get misunderstood or misinterpretated here. keep it in context, i am not making a generalization of how one is maleovent but how she appeared to me, . its kinda simple to answer that back with "I am far more intellectually competant than my exp does that make me more Maleovent??". thats not the point here.

she admitted she was controlling, ok, so to me she was far more capable of being maleovent had she been the one looking to get her children back.
i think she had far more cunning to her, illustrated by how she spoke of her h infront of her children. thus implanting a little bit of mistrust in them subconsciously,

the mil didnt see them that much to actually brainwash them.

anyway this was snippets of their lives over 9mths? we didnt see 90% of it