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Breaking up with the jones!

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pedilia · 31/08/2006 21:21

Anyone watching??

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mistressmiggins · 31/08/2006 22:31

quite right expat

hermykne · 31/08/2006 22:31

was that a court type thing that decided that?
maybe they'll wake up to the chidren onw

hermykne · 31/08/2006 22:32

expat she jumped in to one too and got pregnant

expatinscotland · 31/08/2006 22:33

yes, and she admits it was a mistake.

he, however, doesn't.

at least they are working on what they should have in the first place: the kids.

mistressmiggins · 31/08/2006 22:33

BUT at least he wanted the kids - my ex would run a mile if I suggested he had custody

hermykne · 31/08/2006 22:34

but he is still with the girlfriend
so whats the mistake there?

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pedilia · 31/08/2006 22:46

how utterly heartbreaking, it never ceases to amaze how people turn on each other after a split invovling children

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nooka · 31/08/2006 22:47

That was really depressing, but I am glad that they managed to get back on an even keel again. I thought that his family behaved very badly. My family have never slagged off dh despite everything, and my mother didn't like him at all (similar class thing, to be honest). Granted I haven't told my parents that the major reason we have separated is because of his affair, but still. Of course it is never a full picture, but there didn't seem to be any major evidence that she was a bad mother in any of the ways that his family alleged (although I agree on the saying bad things about him in front of the kids). He seemed like a really lost boy, although I guess he must have been in at least his late twenties. The little boys were lovely.

fattiemumma · 31/08/2006 22:53

it was heartbreaking.

I am currently trying to prevent my ex having access at all and this programme has just confirmed it is the best for the kids.

He isn't mature enough to act like a responsible adult and just be a dad to his kids. the man in that programme was so consumed with anger towards his ex that he just couldnt see further than hurting her.
he loved his kids dearly but they seemed to be second in his motives to making her life hard.

i am glad that the court case gave them enough of a glimpse into what harm they are causing the chidlren.

Sobernow · 31/08/2006 22:53

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alexsmum · 31/08/2006 22:53

what a weak, pathetic,mean ,arrogant man that was .
she wasn't perfect but by christ! no maintenance so that she would give up and give him the kids! and his mother saying they needed a haircut! there was nothing wrong with their hair!

he was awful. and i wonder what thosee boys will think when they see this as adults.
phoning social services! words fail me.

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pedilia · 31/08/2006 22:58

that is so true sobernow and very,very frightning

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hermykne · 01/09/2006 08:38

sobernow your point illustrates so well how people will turn and become vehemently nasty to each other in a child access situation.

you (being the mother or father) will do whatever it takes if you arethe loser in the current situattion.

i definitley feel if she was the one fighting for the children we would have seen alot more to her "admitted" bullying character.

its human nature to be nasty in such a situation. u will hurt as much as possible and then X years later hindsight is 20/20 vision

southeastastra · 01/09/2006 08:49

this programme was so sad

expatinscotland · 01/09/2006 09:22

I just can't see where I would ever leave my children to freeze and w/homelessness hanging over them just b/c of how I felt about my husband.

Or how I could hold up my head and call myself a man/woman when I allowed the state to care for what is MY duty out of spite for my spouse.

A healthy family teaches children to decide for themselves how they feel about someone, not ramrod it down them by bullying, control and manipulation - like his mother.

She is toxic.

And sorry, but his girlfriend is just like his mother. Imagine starting to go out w/someone - cuz it can't have been that long - and travelling hundreds of miles w/them to spy on his wife and kids?! WTF?! That's so twisted, especially b/c she had to have known he wasn't paying maintenance (I'd run a mile from ANY man like that). Friggin' stalker.

If I met a man who wanted me to do that, the first thing I'd think - as I gathered my coat and made my way to the door - is, 'If he can do that to his own kids, wonder how he'll treat me.'

I really, really hope these two and those kids are getting some help, cuz they're going to need it.

expatinscotland · 01/09/2006 09:23

She admitted her character faults, and was trying to overcome them. Like when she was w/her friend Gwen, who had to give her money to pay the power bill, and Gwen told her if he didn't pay maintenance, then he shouldn't see the kids.

And SHE replied that that wouldn't be fair on the kids.

So so much for her being the nastiest woman in Britain.

themoon66 · 01/09/2006 10:13

I missed the end of this.... did she go on to have the baby or a termination?

Twiglett · 01/09/2006 10:15

she had a termination

but I missed the final end .. who got the kids?

dinosaur · 01/09/2006 10:15

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schneebly · 01/09/2006 10:16

she didn't have the baby.

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themoon66 · 01/09/2006 10:19

The dad had quite a nasty streak I thought.. plus his mother was stirring things too.

southeastastra · 01/09/2006 10:20

when the mil said it will take a week for me to knock them back into shape!!! and getting their hair cut i was nearly in tears when the little boy was talking to his mum on the phone

expatinscotland · 01/09/2006 10:20

The one was just as bad as the other, IMO. They both had some serious issue and what's really sad is that they married in the first place.

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