Oh I dunno Sinister. I think she'd get some sympathy.
"A few years ago "D"H invested our life savings in a property scheme run by a mate of his, without consulting me. The scheme turned tits up, (surprise surprise), and all the money was lost, leaving us desperately indebted. By desperately cutting back our spending and selling everything that's not nailed down we've finally crawled back into the black, but finances are still on a knife-edge. What makes it worse is that DH insists that we have to keep our financial problems completely secret, because apparently he'd be in trouble with his employers if it got out. What that means in practice is that if I get invited to do anything fun that involves money I have to make crap excuses to get out of it, while he still treats his underlings at work to expensive meals out to make it look like he's the big man.
Last week he took me out to dinner and said that he had good news - he was nailed on for a really big promotion which would finally get us back in a comfortable position. He said that he appreciated what he'd done wrong, and everything that I'd had to put up with, and wanted to make it up to me with a special holiday - he handed me a cruise brochure and told me to take my pick.
This week out of the blue, he announces that it's not going to happen, and I should forget about the cruise because apparently he's "taken a moral stand about something" which means he won't be promoted. He won't give any more details at all about what it is that he's done.
AIBU to be a) fucking incandescent and b) deeply suspicious about whether this mysterious thing that he's done that means he can't be promoted is quite as squeaky clean as he claims?