Hickory, if there's one thing I've learned on Mumsnet, it's never, ever to criticise anyone reliant on benefits. Nothing is their fault, it is the fault of society. Anything that they do that most of us would consider wrong, or even morally reprehensible, is the fault of MP's, of bankers and of banana skins placed in front of them to trap them.
It is absolutely pointless comparing the UK to Scandinavia. They are hugely different countries not least because of the fact that their population is not anything like as high as ours, they do not have anything like as many different cultures crammed into smaller areas and the cost of living in these countries is crippling. There are benefits of course but Scandinavia is not some sort of utopia where goodness springs. People complain endlessly about the rising cost of food and people turning in desperation to food banks - they would be a lot more desperate in Sweden! Food costs a fortune and so does a lot of other stuff, including working itself: taxes are huge. Yes, you "get it back", to an extent, but this is workable only because the population is small.
Every single crime committed has a reason for it and that includes rape, it includes paedophilia, it includes murder. Are we to shrug and point to people's childhoods then? I certainly think that paedophilia has its root causes in childhood but we don't excuse it on that basis!
I am very sorry that people have had less than ideal lives but I wholly refute that the reason for this lies at my door. I was bullied, badly bullied, for years at secondary school by people who remind me of the people portrayed here, and it is interesting that my experiences would be unlikely to elicit sympathy while because the people in the programme have less money than I do now, that's "ok then."
I recognise that there is a cycle. But I also recognise that we have free education for all and we have free healthcare for all. There have never been as many opportunities for children in low-income areas to access high-quality education. The only way to break the cycle as far as I can see is to remove other options - make the alternatives of NOT working so uncomfortable that people begin to understand that work is a necessity not an optional extra.
I am sure I will return this evening to be told I am a Daily Mail reader, an idiot, someone undoubtedly will say "SO you want me/my friend/our children to go and work in a sweat shop / up a chimney / be shot."
No. I just want to live my life peacefully and normally, and work is a part of that. I want that for everyone. I just disagree that the way to reach that ideal is making excuses for everyone who currently does not live in that way.