Soham - A Parents Tale

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Are you watching?

I knew that scumbag caretaker did it when I saw him being interviewed.

No SGB I can't. Both remarks would be unhelpful. Hurtful and unnecessary. Which is why nobody would stooop so low as to go on one of your threads re dv and abuse and make any such remark. Yet, you feel it is fine to do so here?

If you can't tell the difference between interaction (even if only online) and watching television then I think perhaps you need to get out more.

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SGB: can you honestly tell the difference between voicing an opinion which conflicts with others' views in an intelligent, coherent fashion, and cursing obscenely , sneering at and humiliating people, and making personal insults simply because their opinions differ from yours?

If you can't then I think perhaps you need to get out more.

Perhaps then you will learn that sneering at 'griefwank' is a vile and disgusting thing to say and do. And also you might be able to grasp that calling people ' pukesome and mawkish' when they are sympathising with someone WHOSE CHILD HAS JUST DIED FFS is no better than Frankie Boyle taking the piss out of children with disabilities.

You are right at the bottom of the barrel there. I am so glad not to have to know you in RL. You disgust me, and so many others on this board.

your turn of phrase is disgusting, sgb; did you receive a warning from MNHQ when they deleted your post?

Tiddlypool. No. Perhaps you would like to go and tell them how remiss they are being in allowing a range of opinions to be aired on the internet.

But it isn't opinions is is? It's ABUSE. Why are you unable to grasp that very simple distinction? What compels a person to decry empathy as 'griefwank'? Why must everything be reduced and made dirty by obscene and lavatorial language?
Come on SGB. I dare you to answer that directly.

Donnie: How about some chamomile tea and a spot of deep breathing? You're going to give yourself piles if you carry on like this.

And there it is again-the sniggering lavatorial humour. The only defence you can muster.

i am sure someone else once called it competitive sadding

this is maybe less evocative than grief wanking, but subtantively the same

gross.

there are certainly some (no one here, obviously) who do seem to enjoy a good old wallow in the sorrows and misfortunes of others, delighting in picking over details. i find it distasteful, but hey, as you like it i guess...

Donnie, I neither know nor care who you are, but following people from thread to thread plucking at their sleeves and whining can start to look a tiny bit obsessive after a while.

From a personal persepective, and ignoring the idiocy that is going on above, we live quite near to where it all happened and a very good friend of ours was a teacher at Soham at the time. He was friends with Ian Huntley and the way he kind of inwardly collapsed (only phrase I can think of to describe it) when he realised that IHwas guilty, was horrific. He had to move away. I see Kevin Wells around town a lot and it's really hard not to look at him - he's so recognisable - my dh has played cricket with him too, and says he's a 'top bloke'.

solid you could say the same for yourself, always on the dv and abuse threads, giving it your all.

Some may be incline to say that is 'sleeve plucking'. You appear a bit obsessive about such things.

Just saying.

butisthismyname - I think that is the core of the issue really. When a child dies, particularly in a violent way, or a child/children are abducted, the ripples are felt around the whole community. Some of us may know the victims, their families and/or the perpetrator. It's hard not to be affected by that, even years on, especially when you have strong memories attached to those people. It's very hard on some days, in some places. Even years later.

butisthis, that's so sad

sometimes in things as awful as this its hard to imagine how much the wider community is affected

missed it but will watch it later if i can but i didnt know he previous convictions?

I watched it, not to wallow in someone other poor family's grief, but because I was genuinely interested in how they have carried on with their lives over the last 10 years. They're very dignified and brave.

They never hid the fact that they consulted with a medium a couple of days after the girls went missing, the descriptions he gave were in the papers at the time. There wasn't just the one medium, there were a few. After the event they had all said more or less the same as what he had said at the beginning.

I'm glad they got/get comfort from feeling that she's still around.

Just watched it tonight only just felt brave enough

Its very very sad

Not sure i like their son being called Ollie sounds far too like Holly

butisthismyname-That is really helpful to hear your story, my DD who was just 12 at the time was deeply affected as one of the girls was a good friend but DD knew and liked Huntley, she couldn't figure out how she couldn't protect her friend.

Reminds me of my narcissistic mother - emotional vampire that she was, loved to feed off misery.

I am a little bit with SGB here and I will tell you why. I had an awful abusive childhood, yet for the most when I have tried to talk to people about it, they change the subject or shift about uncomfortably. Yet I am sure they were the same people who read every tabloid detail about Baby P.

Why are you so sure of that?